You know whats REALLY sad about all this...

Happycouple · August 2011

Im FB friends with a few people from this board and they seems harmless and genuine. But look ladies, its a frickin internet board. Im fairly anonymous on here for a reason. Its sad if anyone starts fake drama over sensitive subject matter, but its even more sad if you are affected by it for more than 5 minutes. I like Davez...I dont know if she is lying. Maybe she is, I have never once thought she could be a fraud. If she is then Ill brush it off my shoulder and consider it a lame internet prank by someone who is clearly insecure and bored. Id like to think that most people on here are just normal folk like me, but i often wonder where the hundreds of 'views' come from. I then remember this is the internet. There are pedophiles, freaks, weirdos, fakes and drama seekers that we dont even 'know' looking at what we write.. Why invest so much of your emotions over a chat room post--real or fake. Im not saying I am not empathetic/sympathetic or feel bad for those who have been through so much (and I certainly have appreciated everyones support of ME), but if Davez is a fraud, I'll delete her as my FB friend and call it a day.

With all that said, the flip side is that many of you consider eachother friends IRL. But unless you live in the same town and see eachother and have playdates---how well can you truly know someone you met online?

PeachyKate · August 2011

word.

kittylove · August 2011

Very good point.

schmoodle · August 2011

Happycouple:

With all that said, the flip side is that many of you consider eachother friends IRL. But unless you live in the same town and see eachother and have playdates---how well can you truly know someone you met online?

Wait...what you think is really sad is that some of us consider each other IRL friends even though we don't know each other IRL and could be getting duped? Or am I misinterpreting?

I'm willing to take that risk. I'm happy to put myself out there to women that I've grown to know and trust over 4+ years. If that's a mistake, then it's my mistake to make, but I don't think there's anything wrong with doing so. The chances of anyone on here being a fraud are low - yes, it's possible, but again, I'm willing to risk it for the benefit of all of the love and support I've received from these women, even if I haven't met them IRL. Look at LCB and her relationships with LVBlvd and Kimarino. They haven't met IRL, does that make their friendships less valuable or real?

PrincessShay80 · August 2011

I must live life in a bubble or am very naive- but I never once thought ANYONE on here was a fraud or making stuff up. Other boards maybe, but not this board.

I guess I figured when you have been through what we have all been through to come out on the other side with our beauitful children (no matter how your family was formed) why would anyone make stuff up? Again maybe this is me being naive.

I have "known" most of you(and I use that term for lack of a better one) since 2007 when my IF jounrey started- we all started on TTTC and eventually all moved over here- I think way to much of each of you to ever think that somone would be lying.

I have seen some disagreements over here, and I'm not saying that I always agree with others, but this is gotten just down right dirty.

JourneyToBaby · August 2011

I don't believe that your friendships from the web should be considered less genuine/real/important/whatever than any other relationship you have in life, BUT it is my own personal believe that you should always keep the little twinge of a possibility that it all may be BS alive in the back of your head. This is the internet, people are nuts.

I would, although, like to believe that MOST all of the supportive, loving, honest and genuine women on this board are just that.

alchris · August 2011

schmoodle:
Happycouple:

With all that said, the flip side is that many of you consider eachother friends IRL. But unless you live in the same town and see eachother and have playdates---how well can you truly know someone you met online?
Wait...what you think is really sad is that some of us consider each other IRL friends even though we don't know each other IRL and could be getting duped? Or am I misinterpreting?
I'm willing to take that risk. I'm happy to put myself out there to women that I've grown to know and trust over 4+ years. If that's a mistake, then it's my mistake to make, but I don't think there's anything wrong with doing so. The chances of anyone on here being a fraud are low - yes, it's possible, but again, I'm willing to risk it for the benefit of all of the love and support I've received from these women, even if I haven't met them IRL. Look at LCB and her relationships with LVBlvd and Kimarino. They haven't met IRL, does that make their friendships less valuable or real?

I agree 100%. I've attended multiple GTGs, both official and unofficial, and it's nothing but fun to meet already-established friends in person. Enough of us have been around for ~5 years and I don't know where I'd be without these ladies. I wouldn't have Kira, I know that for a fact.

Do I trust everyone on the Nest? Hardly. Do I trust the women who are on SaIF everyday or close to it? Heck yeah.

I'm not disagreeing with you, however, happycouple. There are too many sketchy people out there and this is a public board, and we do need to remember to be safe and have healthy skepticism too.

Happycouple · August 2011

schmoodle:
Happycouple:

With all that said, the flip side is that many of you consider eachother friends IRL. But unless you live in the same town and see eachother and have playdates---how well can you truly know someone you met online?

Wait...what you think is really sad is that some of us consider each other IRL friends even though we don't know each other IRL and could be getting duped? Or am I misinterpreting?

I'm willing to take that risk. I'm happy to put myself out there to women that I've grown to know and trust over 4+ years. If that's a mistake, then it's my mistake to make, but I don't think there's anything wrong with doing so. The chances of anyone on here being a fraud are low - yes, it's possible, but again, I'm willing to risk it for the benefit of all of the love and support I've received from these women, even if I haven't met them IRL. Look at LCB and her relationships with LVBlvd and Kimarino. They haven't met IRL, does that make their friendships less valuable or real?

Let me start by saying I am grateful that this board exists. That this community of women are here for support. I post post semi-frequently, so I obviously must enjoy this board. I can TOTALLY see how friendships are formed. If more of ya'll where in California i would love to meet IRL.

No, I think it is sad to invest too many emotions in someone you dont really know...does that make sense....maybe there are varying levels of how well you know someone youve met online

No, I dont think it makes friendships less valuable or real. BUT, if someone I am FB friends with from this board ended up being a fraud, I cant say that I wouldnt be surprised--its the internet!! There are weirdos out there that thrive on hurting others. Im not even saying it wouldnt disturb me for a bit, but I would have to be realistic about it. i am putting myself out there for this to happen and so is everyone else. Like you said, we are all taking that risk.

schmoodle · August 2011

Happycouple:

No, I dont think it makes friendships less valuable or real. BUT, if someone I am FB friends with from this board ended up being a fraud, I cant say that I wouldnt be surprised--its the internet!! There are weirdos out there that thrive on hurting others. Im not even saying it wouldnt disturb me for a bit, but I would have to be realistic about it. i am putting myself out there for this to happen and so is everyone else. Like you said, we are all taking that risk.

I agree with this too. While I do care about these women, I don't think it would have that great an effect on my day to day life or upset me that much emotionally for more than a day or so to learn that someone on here was a fraud - of course I've considered it and understand it's the risk of the internet. I guess I (mis)interpreted your post as a judgment, sort of "how sad for you all that you are so invested in each other's lives, I'm glad I'm not like that." Apologies if that's not what you meant.

epphd · August 2011

It's totally true and I agree completely that you never know who is "real" or not online. HOWEVER, I have been extraordinarily touched by the outpouring of support, cards, goodies, etc from many women on this board (DW included!) and floored at what we've been able to do for posters who've experienced the darkest moments of their lives - from Schmoodle to LCB to M$B and beyond. I've met only some of you in person, but the support given me has been more than real - and more genuine than some of what I've experienced in real life.

I guess I see both sides of the internet - on the one hand it's rife with frauds and phoneys. On the other hand it is a mechanism for support that didn't exist 20 years ago and that has been a game changer for those struggling with issues that aren't commonly encountered in real life - from infertility and cancer to issues of gender, bullying or even just extremely specific interests.

I consider many of you personal, RL friends. Many more are my "friends in the computer". I may not know you as personally but you are still so important to me. All relationships come with risk of disappointment, but I do prefer to assume the best until proven wrong.

JourneyToBaby · August 2011

Well said Epphd!

I am a random stranger that has been following your "story". Your grace, humor, strength and courage is inspiring... thanks for sharing what you've shared so far.

Happycouple · August 2011

schmoodle:
Happycouple:

No, I dont think it makes friendships less valuable or real. BUT, if someone I am FB friends with from this board ended up being a fraud, I cant say that I wouldnt be surprised--its the internet!! There are weirdos out there that thrive on hurting others. Im not even saying it wouldnt disturb me for a bit, but I would have to be realistic about it. i am putting myself out there for this to happen and so is everyone else. Like you said, we are all taking that risk.

I agree with this too. While I do care about these women, I don't think it would have that great an effect on my day to day life or upset me that much emotionally for more than a day or so to learn that someone on here was a fraud - of course I've considered it and understand it's the risk of the internet. I guess I (mis)interpreted your post as a judgment, sort of "how sad for you all that you are so invested in each other's lives, I'm glad I'm not like that." Apologies if that's not what you meant.

No, I dont think its sad to to invest so much. Sh*t , people meet their husbands online all the time. Online based friendships are very possible. BUT it seems sad to me let something someone does or does not do on an internet board affect our daily lives too much. But it happens all the time. I just have to remind myself that stuff like frauds and fake are totally possible.

Happycouple · August 2011

epphd:

It's totally true and I agree completely that you never know who is "real" or not online. HOWEVER, I have been extraordinarily touched by the outpouring of support, cards, goodies, etc from many women on this board (DW included!) and floored at what we've been able to do for posters who've experienced the darkest moments of their lives - from Schmoodle to LCB to M$B and beyond. I've met only some of you in person, but the support given me has been more than real - and more genuine than some of what I've experienced in real life.

I guess I see both sides of the internet - on the one hand it's rife with frauds and phoneys. On the other hand it is a mechanism for support that didn't exist 20 years ago and that has been a game changer for those struggling with issues that aren't commonly encountered in real life - from infertility and cancer to issues of gender, bullying or even just extremely specific interests.

I consider many of you personal, RL friends. Many more are my "friends in the computer". I may not know you as personally but you are still so important to me. All relationships come with risk of disappointment, but I do prefer to assume the best until proven wrong.

I also assume best until proven wrong, but IF i am proven wrong, I wont be quite as shocked as if this happened with say, a close friend from highschool or something.

Like I mentioned in my response to schmoodle--this board IS important to me and I genuinly care about what is going on with everyone and really try my best support the people on here as they have clearly supported me. I would never immediately assume anyone as fake, I just know that is a real possibility. In that sense, I would not be HURT if Davez was a fake or if anyone else was making stuff up for drama. I would mostly feel bad for wasting my time praying for someone or something that was not real to begin with.

etoyama · August 2011

schmoodle:
Happycouple:

With all that said, the flip side is that many of you consider eachother friends IRL. But unless you live in the same town and see eachother and have playdates---how well can you truly know someone you met online?
Wait...what you think is really sad is that some of us consider each other IRL friends even though we don't know each other IRL and could be getting duped? Or am I misinterpreting?
I'm willing to take that risk. I'm happy to put myself out there to women that I've grown to know and trust over 4+ years. If that's a mistake, then it's my mistake to make, but I don't think there's anything wrong with doing so. The chances of anyone on here being a fraud are low - yes, it's possible, but again, I'm willing to risk it for the benefit of all of the love and support I've received from these women, even if I haven't met them IRL. Look at LCB and her relationships with LVBlvd and Kimarino. They haven't met IRL, does that make their friendships less valuable or real?

I agree. I consider the friendships I've made on TB very real indeed. I've even met some bumpies in person.

etoyama · August 2011

epphd:
It's totally true and I agree completely that you never know who is "real" or not online. HOWEVER, I have been extraordinarily touched by the outpouring of support, cards, goodies, etc from many women on this board (DW included!) and floored at what we've been able to do for posters who've experienced the darkest moments of their lives - from Schmoodle to LCB to M$B and beyond. I've met only some of you in person, but the support given me has been more than real - and more genuine than some of what I've experienced in real life.

I guess I see both sides of the internet - on the one hand it's rife with frauds and phoneys. On the other hand it is a mechanism for support that didn't exist 20 years ago and that has been a game changer for those struggling with issues that aren't commonly encountered in real life - from infertility and cancer to issues of gender, bullying or even just extremely specific interests.

I consider many of you personal, RL friends. Many more are my "friends in the computer". I may not know you as personally but you are still so important to me. All relationships come with risk of disappointment, but I do prefer to assume the best until proven wrong.

Really well said.

gringa78 · August 2011

PrincessShay80:
I must live life in a bubble or am very naive- but I never once thought ANYONE on here was a fraud or making stuff up. Other boards maybe, but not this board.

I guess I figured when you have been through what we have all been through to come out on the other side with our beauitful children (no matter how your family was formed) why would anyone make stuff up? Again maybe this is me being naive.

I have "known" most of you(and I use that term for lack of a better one) since 2007 when my IF jounrey started- we all started on TTTC and eventually all moved over here- I think way to much of each of you to ever think that somone would be lying.

I have seen some disagreements over here, and I'm not saying that I always agree with others, but this is gotten just down right dirty.

This exactly. I'm so disappointed.

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