DH's maternal grandmother passed away over the weekend and the funeral was this morning. We got there right when the visiting hours started and were expecting to stay the entire time and make our way to the cemetary.
1.5 hours into the visiting hours, DH's father comes over to me and tells me that I should not be a martyr and that he thinks it's best that I leave. I tried to put up a "fight" in saying that I have been perfectly comfortable sitting on one of the comfy chairs and have not had any issues. But, he insisted saying that sitting there where I can't put my feet up isn't good and that the cemetary will be too hot for me to stand around in. I tried to tell him I would be ok, but nope, he wasn't hearing it. So, to not cause a scene, I agreed and left. I just feel aweful about leaving, even though I was told to. Backstory: DH's father is probably the most over cautious person we have ever met and worries that any little thing can cause problems with the baby.
Re: Kicked out of a funeral
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I was really scared to read your post!!! I'm so sorry this happened to you, but it's so nice of him! I would feel bad too, then again, his concerns seem really genuine.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
This is EXACTLY how I feel as well. I am fully capable of letting people know if I should leave or whatever.
DH was agreeing with him, to a point. DH was a bit worried about me with just sitting for that long but knew I would tell him if I wasn't ok. I think he was agreeing with his dad partly to not cause a scene either. I just felt so bad when I was saying my "goodbyes" and even made sure I told his mom that her husband was "kicking me out" so she knew that it wasn't just me being insensitive or whatever.
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
Im curious about this as well, to be honest. Im not trying to be disrespectful, just wondering the reasoning?
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