Telling others about TTC #2....and not telling some
We are going back to RE September 6th. My Mom knows and my sister and DHs Sister we are very close. We have not told my MIL. There are many reasons one being she has a big mouth and loves to gossip so she would be telling everyone in the family. Second when we went for DS she insisted that there was no reason to go and we just needed to relax, even though it had been 3 years of TTC and we were diagnossed with MFI. Long story she insisted the Dr. was nuts because DHs brothers got their wives PG no problem.
Needless to say talking to her is very frustrating and I really do not want to listen to her calling every day wanting updates. She did this last time. It was very stressful.
DHs sister agrees about not telling her Mom, she said she wouldnt tell her if she was going through it either because she knows how it will be.
Do you guys think we are wrong not to tell her?
Re: Telling others about TTC #2....and not telling some
TTC since 8/09 . MC 1/15/10 @ 7w4d // 6/2/10 @ 8w2d
TTC with no menstrual cycle since 6/10, finally got one 8/25/11
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I wouldn't tell her either, especially with such a bad reaction from her last time. Although I do think that parents just naturally have the reaction that surely nothing could be wrong with their offspring. When I finally told my mom about our IF issues, she immediately said, why do you think there is something wrong with you? Maybe it's (DH)! No mom, DH is fine, it's all me. But the only reason I even told her was after my m/c she keeps thinking that I'm going to be pregnant again right away.
Anyway, if I were you I would just wait to tell her when you have good news.
JMHO, but IF, like any other sensitive personal matter, is not something you're "obligated" to share with ANYONE. Which means that you do have the right to pick and choose whom you do/don't tell.
That said, if you're going to keep it selectively mum, make sure that the people in the know are not only aware that they're in the minority, but that they will honor your request to keep it to themselves. No matter how much they may want the best for you, some people can't or won't keep secrets. I know that in *my* family, if one person knows, everyone does, so I'd choose a friend to confide in instead. But your family may be much different.
...no thanks to my PCOS (Dx 2006,though should've been dx during maybe the Clinton years).
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