Vent.

3rdCopelandBaby · August 2011

I was being nice and invited MIL to my u/s next Wednesday. My mom will be there and my sister works there, so I thought it would be nice if someone from Dhs family was there (even though I dont get along with any of them) I dont know why Im so nice???!. She said yes, she'd love to go and that its her day off so that worked out, but then mentioned that she thinks we shouldnt find out at all and that it would be better to wait until birth because it would be a big surprise. I thought that was kinda rude and heres why:

1) she paid for SIL (her DD) to have u/s gender reveal party at an elective place and invited all of us to go...which we did.

2) shes never cared for me or my kids (or even her own son, my Dh), and doesnt even buy b-day gifts..so she probably doesnt want to know because she'd feel obligated to buy something for our new baby..which shes never done for our older ones. (Its been a big issue for us, and we've actually fought over this because she totally neglects my family, including Dh. I just get tired of having to explain to my kids why they never get presents or anything from their family, but SIL (& baby) had everything handed to them. It sucks to not feel wanted, and I know my kids feel it too!

I just dont understand why she would agree to go if she didnt want to know....maybe I should UN-invite her and dont even bother telling her the sex of LO. Make her wait until I give birth lol ... The mean side of me wants to.

Shawnee11507 · August 2011

It's annoying because it's not her decision to make! I would just tell her that you do plan on finding out. If she doesn't want to know, maybe she'll decide not to go!

Sweetest116 · August 2011

Ugh, MILs... blaaaaaaah! I hear you 100%

I would mention to her, nicely, that if she'd like it to be a surprise then she doesn't have to join you and everyone can try to keep it secret. But you and YH have decided to make it a "fun family event" and thought you'd include her.

OR... ignore her, you tried, whatever... GL! Stick out tongue

elizxu · August 2011

Maybe she won't show up (fingers crossed)

JessieJH · August 2011

I'd just ignore the comment. You did a great thing by being the bigger person here and you can't really help if she's going to be a brat about things. Good luck next Wednesday!

3rdCopelandBaby · August 2011

Thanks everyone. I try so hard to be nice, and its gotten alot better now that SIL is out of our lives (she'd make it a point to make my family feel like crap about how much her "mommy" buys her)

Hopefully she wont show up, Dh didnt want me to invite her just for the fact that she (and the rest of their family) try to make everything about them and are just rude and dont have common sense. and since this is our last baby he just wanted it to be us.

But if she does show up and smarts off my mom and sister will definately put her in her place.

Fingers crossed, and thanks for the well wishes!! Cant wait to find out!! Yay!