Dad asked about the baptism

uncharch7 · August 2011

The he doesn't know we aren't having. I've been dreading this moment... he doesn't know that DH is agnostic and has been for 3 years and that I'm now a lapsed Catholic.

::deep breaths::

stephers_7 · August 2011

I'm waiting for this...... DH family is HARDCORE BAPTIST. Like the scary kind. Except for my husband...He must have been raised by other people or something...Anyway, I digress..... I'm buddhist. I was raised Catholic but after 15 years, I felt like it wasn't for me. My mom was great about letting me learn about all beliefs and picking what I liked the most. My mom practices Sikhism and my dad is still Catholic even though he doesn't attend church. I'd like to let my son have that choice one day and I know this is going to be an issue with my in-laws. My baby my rules!

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SaraTF · August 2011

We will not be baptizing, despite prodding by my catholic family. I did offer to have pictures taken in the baptismal outfit that was worn by most of my family.

uncharch7 · August 2011

Nothing like the Catholic guilt to ruin your day... I'm pretty proud of myself though for standing up for me and my family and that this is a private matter. This is a first for me with my dad. He's one of those that always seems to pry more info out of you than you want to give.

EveryNameIWantIsTaken · August 2011

You know, this makes me rather nervous of when our kids turn 8. DH's family is Mormon, and our kids will be the only ones not baptized. Makes me wonder if an issue will come up then. I'd like to think they would stay out of it, but they seem to get pushier as time goes on.

chankins14 · August 2011

I'm half Jewish. I was raise going to temple by one parent & the other parent was a drunken sailer. DH was raised Catholic but has decided that it isn't for him. I knew that the whole baptism thing was going to be an issue with the in-laws because of the issues that arrived with our wedding (a very non-religious, non-traditional ceremony). When it came up, we decided to go ahead & do it. Really, how does it affect the way DH & I raise him? It was 1 hour out of our lives that made the in-laws SO HAPPY. And hey, if DS falls in love with a catholic girl, that's one sacrament that he has under his belt. I assume I will baptize this LO, too.

uncharch7 · August 2011

chankins14:
I'm half Jewish. I was raise going to temple by one parent & the other parent was a drunken sailer. DH was raised Catholic but has decided that it isn't for him. I knew that the whole baptism thing was going to be an issue with the in-laws because of the issues that arrived with our wedding (a very non-religious, non-traditional ceremony). When it came up, we decided to go ahead & do it. Really, how does it affect the way DH & I raise him? It was 1 hour out of our lives that made the in-laws SO HAPPY. And hey, if DS falls in love with a catholic girl, that's one sacrament that he has under his belt. I assume I will baptize this LO, too.

We've decided that, even though it would make them happy, we can't justify promising that we'll raise the child in the Catholic church when we know for a fact that it's not happening in the near future, and very possibly never. Part of this is really brought on by our own doing, which is hard to swallow.

domesticatedhuman · August 2011

My in-laws asked about this too, which I find weird as they are not religious. I just said no, we will not be baptizing. Then my MIL said that you could do just a small naming thing or something in a church (no idea what that even is) and I said, no - no churches. I am not religious, neither is your son (she should know this by now).

I was never baptized, I don't believe it in, and I don't actually like the idea of pledging my child to follow a system I don't even believe in. I don't like the idea of lip service either, I think it should only be done if you mean it.

Good luck dealing with your parents on this OP, it must be hard if they were actually raised and believe in religion!

SiannaBees · August 2011

DH and I are non denominational Christian but don't believe in baptizing babies. We will however have a dedication at our church but it will be with a bunch of other parents and be less than 2 minutes in length.

uncharch7 · August 2011

Nothing like the Catholic guilt being laid on you first thing in the morning... I hate this

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