When I went into PTL, my DH called his parents and told them the scenario. They were visiting some friends and buying their iPads, so they didn't leave for a few days. I went into PTL on Friday morning, and they got to our house Tuesday night. They've been hanging out at our house, and helping watch our dog while I'm up at Stanford and my DH goes to work. Well, they came up yesterday to tell us they are bored and going back home on Sunday. They also said they will not be back when the babies are born, b/c it's just too expensive (they don't fly, only drive, and the only expense is gas). They say all of this, then go back to playing on their iPads (they got top of the line w/ all accessories -- $2,000). The only thing they talk about are their iPads.
So, our new plan is I will stay in my Stanford apartment by myself, and my DH will come up every other night to help me (dishes, laundry, etc). We just don't have anyone else to watch our dog, and we are paying for this Stanford apartment ($250/week) and can't afford pet boarding on top of this. DH and I are both completely stressed. When the babies do arrive, it will be just DH and I. No one else will be there to welcome them into the world, or help us emotionally while the babes are in the NICU. Or God knows what will happen w/ Ben and his issues. All because they are bored. We live in Northern California -- I think it is impossible to be bored here!!! We live 1 mile from the beach, the city is 1.5 hrs away, there's hiking, the redwoods, shopping, dining, Carmel, Monterey, etc.
They also said it would be great if I had the babies before Sunday so they could see them. MIL even asked me what my gut feeling was -- when I was going to go into full labor. Like I freaking know! But more than anything, I don't want them coming before Sunday.
And the topper -- SIL had B/G twins 9 years ago. Needless to say, MIL compares me to her all.the.time. SIL was also on public assistance, so the financial challenges we face, SIL never had to face w/ preemies or PTL. Drives me crazy. When I told family we made it to 30 weeks, she wrote back "congrats. you beat me."
Ugh. Sorry for the overload. I just needed to vent!!! DH and I will pull together and get through things, but we will be broke by the end of this. I just hope and pray we are broke w/ healthy babies.
Re: OMG - IL vent (looooong)
Wow! Your ILs suck! I would be so hurt by their comments/attitude. I am sorry you are going through this.
(((hugs)))
I'm so sorry you have to go through all this alone.
Maybe when the babies come they will change their minds and come back. Would it help at all if your DH spoke to them?
That just sucks though, I'm sorry.
((Hugs))
Yep - they definitely aren't ILs of the year. DH is probably going to say something tonight. I feel so, so bad for him -- he's really hurt and disappointed.
DX: PCO, ENDO, High NK, MTHFR
8/10 = Lap to remove Endo
2 Femara TI, 3 Follistim IUI = BFN & 1 c/p
IVF #1 - BFP - boy/girl Twins!
Ben and Reese born at 34w2d!
O.M.G. Seriously?! First of all.... do not wish that you'd go into labor this early!! If anything wish that they DON'T come before sunday and stay put as long as possible. 2nd of all... if they are your only support system, I'm so sorry that they are being so selfish:( That is ridiculous. Like you need this added stress on top of what you're going through.
I'm so so sorry:( (((Hugs)))
Ugh, I am sorry they are being so lame. Seriously, people are so freaking self absorbed sometimes. I understand that they have their own life, but you guys are going through so much right now, it would've been nice of them to lend a helping hand.
Well, you guys will get through it with or without them. I just wished it were easier (((hugs)))
Diagnosed PCOS 2/07, TTC #1 since 8/09
11/10 - Clomid Round 1 = BFN
12/10 - Clomid Round 2 = BFN
1/11 - Voluntary Break = BFN (duh)
2/11 - Clomid Round 3 = BFN
3/11 - Femara + IUI = BFP * Beta#1=56 * Beta#2=266
*Cautiously expecting baby girls on November 28, 2011*
IVF #1 w ICSI in July 2010 = BFN
IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
IVF #3 w ICSI in April 2011. HPT on 5/9 = BFP!
Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
Twin boys born & lost on 8/16/11 at 18w1d due to PPROM & preterm labor.
IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
ET scheduled for 3/5/12- nothing to transfer
Dh seeing new MFI uro & Dh starting meds- June 2012.
IVF #5 in Dec 2012 = BFFN.
IVF #6 planned for Spring 2013. Praying for our take home baby/ies.
**P/SAIF and P/SAL always welcome!**
(((hugs)))
I'm so sorry that your ILs suck! You and your H are going to be great parents and pretty soon all you'll be able to think about is how much you love your LOs. Don't worry about the crappy ILs you don't want them around anyways if they aren't going to be supportive.
Me - DX Hashimoto's Disease, Hypothyroid, Rheumatoid Arthritis
DH - DX Azoospermia - Sertoli Cell Syndrome
DS-IUI #1-4 BFN IVF #1 - BFP! It's a boy!!!