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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Tragedy for friend, need inspirational things to send
Over the weekend one of my sorority sisters lost her husband and 22 month old daughter in a awful accident. She was also in the car but she, and the 2 others who were in the other vehicle, went away unharmed. I can't even begin to imagine what she is going through, my heart just breaks for her.
My sisters and I are each taking a week to send our love and support over the coming months. It can be a phone call/email/text etc. I am at such a loss for words and nothing seems right. I haven't dealt with such tragedy in my life and am so thankful for it, but is there anything that you ladies think might be good to send, a poem, quote, etc? I know that nothing I will say or do will truly help but its the thought that we want her to know that we are ALL here for her.
Any recommendations are appreciated, or simply your prayers for her as she goes through this difficult time...
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Re: Tragedy for friend, need inspirational things to send
I am so sorry to hear this. They are definitely in my prayers.
I knot it's a different situation, but my bestie lost her mother earlier this year and I gave her a box (one of those really pretty ones from Michael's) where I put a picture of her and her mom, a card, some pictures of us and a note saying that this could be a place for her to store all of the cards and everything that she will get during this time. It meant a lot to her and she loves having that box to keep everything in. I hope this helps!
I can't imagine anything that would help me in that situation ... I'm all teary at work now!
So sorry your friend is going through this.
Eleanor Noelle - 18/05/12 Claire Elisabeth - 16/-5/10
My heart aches for your friend right now. This hits very close to home for me because I was just in an accident last week with DD in the car. I know we were extremely lucky that neither of us was hurt.
I'm sorry, I have no good advice for you but will definitely be keeping your friend in my T&Ps.
so sad. A glass angel memory box is a sweet gift. one that plays a melody when you open it. and you can put a note in it "always remembered"
I'm so sorry. All I have to contribute is that I remember when my brother died, "inspirational" stuff drove me nuts. I know I personally much preferred an "I'm sorry" than anything inspirational.
I do like the box idea that others mentioned.
I agree with this 100%. When our daughter passed away, the inspirational stuff almost seemed cruel. I swore if I had to read another " Footprints in the sand" card I thought I was going ot scream. Even token items like angels got thrown away or put in a box never to be seen again.
There is nothing, nothing at all that you can say that will make her feel better. All you can say is " I am so sorry for your loss, you are in my thoughts and prayers. I know that might not sound like much and I know you want to say more, but there is nothing you can say to her right now that will make her feel better.
If you want to do something for her a meal would be the best gift. If you can't bring food over, perhaps give her a gift certifcate to a place that delivers.
Thank you everyone for your responses... I really appreciate them. And after reading them, I can see how "inspirational" things can get annoying and just not really help... so I won't be sending those!
I think I will try to send her some food gift cards Subway, Panera etc... she is living with her parents for now but I'm sure that they can still come in handy.
I can't even fathom what she must be going through... thank you for all of your prayers!
Oh gosh, how awful, I'm so sorry. This is a poem that my boss's wife sent to me when my best friend and I were in a motorcycle accident and he died of a brain injury. It really helped.
When tomorrow starts without me, And I?m not there to see. If the sun should rise and find your eyes, all filled with tears for me. I wish so much you wouldn?t cry, the way you did today, while thinking of the many things, we didn?t get to say. I know how much you love me, as much as I love you, and each time that you think of me, I know you?ll miss me too, but when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand, that an angel came and called my name, and took me by the hand and said my place was ready, in Heaven far above, and that I?d have to leave behind, all those I dearly love,
But as I turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye, for all my life. I?d always thought, I didn?t want to die. I had so much to live for, so much left yet to do, it seemed almost impossible, that I was leaving you. I thought of all the yesterdays, the good ones and the bad, I thought of all the love we shared, and all the fun we had. If I could relive yesterday, just even for a while, I?d say good-bye and kiss you and maybe see you smile. But then I fully realized, that this could never be, for emptiness and memories would take the place of me. So when tomorrow starts without me, don?t think we?re far apart, for every time you think of me, I?m right here, in your heart.