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**re-homing an animal**

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I hear myself saying this and I know that i sound like an awful pet owner- but I want to re-home our cat. Background: When L was born - we had 3 pets (one dog died while I was in the hospital...) 2 cats and 1 dog. One cat died over this year and our dog was re-homed to my BIL after he snapped at L- this leaves us with one cat.

R is a great cat- seriously, he's de-clawed and fixed and lets Lorenzo lay all over him and play with him- a great cat however, I just dont want to deal with him once the new baby comes. He also has been an outdoor cat but recently has been showing a greater interest in going out or he'll sneak out the door while I bring in groceries or something and I just dont have it in me to chase after him...

I feel awful and I am totally the one to be like- "pets are like kids- you just dont give them away" but I dont want to deal with this....

so should I give him back to the shelter we got him from (which I think is totally worst case senario)- post on CL? I've tried asking family and stuff but no one is into a cat...My SIL has a little flier at her station at work (she's a hairdresser) but other than that- I'm out of ideas :::hangs head in shame:: 

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  • meryltheresameryltheresa
    Do you mean he is an indoor cat?  and sneaks out? 
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  • abba916abba916

    he has been an indoor cat and was sneaking out - when we would bring him in he would cry and cry - so we started to let him out in the morning and bring him into the garage when he cries...so I guess he's our garage cat...

     

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  • jewelsonujewelsonu

    If you give the cat to a shelter it is probably a death wish since shelters are overrun and most people want kittens.  If you put an ad on craigslist any wacko can take the cat. so again another death wish.  Why don't you take the cat and have it put down that way you don't have to deal with it anymore?  At least the nice cat that gets along with your kid has a kind face to look at while he is dying.

    If you get rid of this cat you should not get another pet. ever.  You don't think that pets are kids or else you would work harder at trying to keep them in the family.  they are not disposable at your whim

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  • ArcticFoxArcticFox member

    Can you just get him chipped, fixed if he's not, and let him be indoor/outdoor?

    This is the absolute worst time of year to try to adopt animals.  There are so many kittens, we had kittens born around July 4th and by the time we tried to adopt them in late Aug/early sept, no one was taking any.  I was willing to even drive 3-4 hours to a no kill shelter and they said there was no way.  I personally think he'd have a better shot at a decent life if you let him be indoor-outdoor, even though they generally have shorter life spans and have issues (territorial fights, ticks, etc).

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  • dle927dle927 member
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    he'd have a better shot at a decent life if you let him be indoor-outdoor, even though they generally have shorter life spans and have issues (territorial fights, ticks, etc).

    I am not a cat person so maybe I'm not in the loop but if the cat has no claws and is free to roam outdoors then it's going to lose any teritorial fight it will ever have, right?  I would keep trying to find a decent home for it even if it takes longer rather than putting it on CL or taking to a shelter, especially if it's that nice to children. 

      

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  • xKimxxKimx

    I have to agree with Jewels...

    Is the biggest problem he runs outside when you bring in groceries? My toddler does that & I wouldn't re-home him for that ;)  Being serious though that doesn't seem like *that* big of a deal, KWIM? And I'm not really a cat person but aren't they fairly low maintenance?

    Can you close him in a room or basement or something when you are going to be in & out of the house? 

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  • NikColeNikCole
    I would try to find a good home for him, if you don't want to keep him. We have a cat that I am just kinda "meh" about. I mean, I love her and she's a really good cat, but I will never get another. DH got her for me (after I begged) and she lived w/ him while we dated (my mom wouldn't let me have a cat, hence why I had to beg DH to get one!) She's just a pain, always wants to be fed and cries to go outside all the time (she's an indoor cat), plus I HATE the litter box. But, I'm a firm believer that it's my responsibility as a pet owner to take care of her and not just give her away (DH totally would, if I let him) The only way I would ever get rid of a pet is if they ever tried to hurt Evan... which she never has... even when he chases her and grabs her tail! Or if he developed a bad allergy.
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  • meryltheresameryltheresa
    Yeah, i'm going to have to agree with everyone here.  If that's the biggest issue then that's NOTHING.  I had a cat that we took from my sister.  She did her job in Baltimore and kept the mice away, but besides that she was AWFUL!  Broke everything, terrorized the dogs, ripped multiple pillows and couch cushions to shreds...you get the idea.  When we moved back to NY my sister said she wanted her back, (she wanted a cat) and I gladly excepted.  But I would have never just taken her to a shelter.  She would have more than likely been put down, and that's just not fair.
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  • Kim72508Kim72508
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    If you give the cat to a shelter it is probably a death wish since shelters are overrun and most people want kittens.  If you put an ad on craigslist any wacko can take the cat. so again another death wish.  Why don't you take the cat and have it put down that way you don't have to deal with it anymore?  At least the nice cat that gets along with your kid has a kind face to look at while he is dying.

    If you get rid of this cat you should not get another pet. ever.  You don't think that pets are kids or else you would work harder at trying to keep them in the family.  they are not disposable at your whim

    I agree with this as well.  It doesn't seem like the problem with the cat is really a big deal.  It's a pet- they require work. 

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  • ArcticFoxArcticFox member
    you're right, I missed that about the declawing.  The cat sounds pretty ideal to me.. I think a lot of indoor cats eye the outdoors if not try to get out.  My cat tries to scratch my kids and doesn't tolerate being petted.
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  • Two*TrueTwo*True member
    Having met your cat and seen him with your child and mine I say you keep him.  He isn't a lot of work, doesn't spray in the house and L loves him. If you want to let him outdoors there are kennels of sorts which you could let him roam around in.   Unless a family member takes him I wouldn't be comfortable with any other option. If K wasn't allergic I would take him.
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  • June4bride2beJune4bride2be

    Ditto everyone else....not that you need to hear more. The cat sounds like a good cat, I have 3 great cats and thank my lucky stars they are so good. Sure, we have a few issues like trying to escape or scratching on R's door thinking I am in there....but we would NEVER re home them. I spent my life with parents who thought pets were disposable.....I was 5 when my mom told me our naughty kittens ran away to a farm. She actually dumped them on a dead end street, I have not forgotten that bit of info. 

    Shelters and CL are not safe for kitties, period. 

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    If you get rid of this cat you should not get another pet. ever.  You don't think that pets are kids or else you would work harder at trying to keep them in the family.  they are not disposable at your whim 

    Uhm- OUCH! I asked for this since I am being honest and asking for advice however, if I was a heartless B!tch- i would have just given him to the shelter a LONG time ago- so i dont think my feeling on this pet- should bar me from EVER having a pet again... how have I not worked hard to keep pets in my family? The two that died were old and we tried several interventions to keep them alive and brutus was re-homed because he bit MY CHILD- should I have sent Lorenzo to live with my BIL?

    I hear what you guys are saying- totally....I think I'll just let him be indoor/outdoor...my main issue is that he is de-clawed and cant really defend himself but he doesnt wander too far (to the back yard, lays in the arbor vites, etc)... 

    Thanks for the perspective... 

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  • TelycoTelyco
    I don't think you should let him outside. Our cat sneaks out and we just go grab him. But I definitely would let him back in the house and try to get used to him being a part of the family. If you are just keeping him in the garage you probably should find him a loving home. And FWIW... We will never get another pet. With kids we just can't give them the life they deserve. Our cat annoys the sh!t out of us and we have to spend a fortune on special food and have paid thousands in medical bills for him. But he's our responsibility to the end. The kids love him and that's all that matters. But having him has made me realize that I'm just not a pet person... And that's ok. Sure they're cute - but the work doesn't justify it to me.
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  • June4bride2beJune4bride2be
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    imagejewelsonu:

    If you get rid of this cat you should not get another pet. ever.  You don't think that pets are kids or else you would work harder at trying to keep them in the family.  they are not disposable at your whim 

    .my main issue is that he is de-clawed and cant really defend himself but he doesnt wander too far (to the back yard, lays in the arbor vites, etc)... 

    Thanks for the perspective... 

    FWIW, we had a declawed cat that was my moms. She had taken him back and he passed, but he could bite like a B*tCh! So now, kitty can't climb trees....but he can defend with his teeth! 

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