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December 2011 Moms
Anyone else deathly afraid of a c/s?
I do not want one. At all. I have told DH that it better be a worst case scenario, last resort type thing. I also told him that they need to either knock me out all the way or give me something to calm the hell down, because of how I already freak at the thought of it. I'm usually good with the thought of surgery/pain/recovery etc, but this just really bothers me.
I'm petrified of being strapped down to a table, not able to move, and be able to feel the pushing/pressure while they manipulate my insides. Obviously I want what's best for me and the baby, but good lord do I not want a c/s.
CW was induced today and ended up with a c-section, her FI wasn't allowed to be in the OR with her, which makes me freak out more. The heart rate was dropping since the cord was around the baby's neck, so it *sounds* like it was an emergency c-section. It all just became a lot more real...
Baby Charchie born 12/22/2011
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Re: Anyone else deathly afraid of a c/s?
If you feel that strongly about it Id definitely recomend looking into natural birthing options (specifically the Bradley method) as they are really against any kind of medical intervention because they feel one intervention usually leads to another, and in many cases can lead to an unnecessary c/s. Obviously there are definitely times when c/s are absolutely necessary, but unfortunately in our country there are also many times when there were other alternitives or they were simply done because the hospital was sick of waiting on a long labor.
This is my totally biased opinion so take it with a grain of salt, but if I were you and I were that against c/s I would look into the Bradley Method. It has a 90% success rate of completely medical intervention free births when the method it is done correctly. (there is a specific food diet and certain exercises that expectant moms need to be doing 3 months out in order to be fully prepared in the bradley method). Definitely do some research! You may also want to consider watching The Business of Being Born (you can watch it on youtube in segments). Again, take it with a grain of salt because that is VERY biased, but it does have a ton of good info and statistics especially when it comes to unnecessary c/s.
I have had placenta previa since 1st tri and it isnt moving so its very much a reality for me and I am preparing myself that there is strong possibility that is how my baby will be born.
I am terrifiied and I already had one. With my DS, I had a very long difficult labor and I was really sick at the same time. I was so exhausted and out of it when the c/s happened so I didn't have time to be scared. A c/s was a last resort thing for me too, I never thought that I would end up with one.
This time around, I have no choice. I live in a small town in the middle of nowhere that does not allow VBACs. Even though there is no medical reason for a c/s (DS was a c/s because of bad positioning) I have to have one. I am beyond scared since I have plenty of time to think and worry about the c/s.
Aspen Marley ~ 12.22.11
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I had a c-section with DD and I am having another one this time. I was a little freaked out at first, but the whole procedure was not bad. It wasn't my first choice to have one, but I am obviously okay with doing it again. My recovery was really easy and I attribute that to following the nurse's order exactly and keeping up with my meds. I felt great after about a week and I definitely had an easier recovery than my BFF who gave birth naturally and had a horrendous tear that actually had to be stitched up again 6 weeks later.
Just wanted to offer my experience!
THIS!
I have no problem with the surgery, its being strapped down. At my repeat A/S on the 24th, LO was breech. I know she has lots of time to turn, but on the way home I told DH that if she stays breech then I am going to allow my dr to try to turn her. I talk to LO everyday and ask her to turn. I told my DH that if I do have a c/s, the dr will have to give me something to calm me down before they begin.
I wouldn't go so far as to say deathly afraid, but I REALLY want to avoid one if at all possible. My goal is to avoid any medication - including being induced - but if it becomes necessary then it becomes necessary. Obviously I'll do whatever is necessary for a safe birth for DD, but I strongly feel that natural is better.
This- But the twins are making a c/s look like a very real possibility, especially in the community I live in.
I really didn't want one but ended up having one with my DS. I had pushed for 2 hours but he was handling it so poorly they were only having me push every other contraction. They were great and had me moving in all sorts of positons to see if that would help raise his heart rate. The cord was wrapped around his neck two times and his heart rate all but stopped - it was 0 at some points but mostly hovering around 20 beats per minute. Since mine was an emergency c-section I didn't have much time to think about it but I honestly felt so safe and happy that he was going to be born okay. It wasn't great and I had a pretty typical recovery but it was nothing to be scared of. It hurts but if you keep up with your medication and follow dr.'s orders it is fine.
That being said I am hoping to have a VBAC this time but if I end up breech or have some need to have a c-section I know it isn't the end of the world.
I am super afraid of having a c-section. I'm also afraid of a vaginal delivery, but would MUCH rather one. The whole idea of major surgery scares me and it was less then a year ago that my grandpa passed away from a routine surgery because the doctors didn't gets a bleeder until too late. As of the ultrasound our little girl was breech and I am sincerely hoping that she turns. At the moment I really want to do everything as natural as possible. I am very against having an IV or an epidural because (and I know this is silly) but I'm terrified of needles and have a history of reacting badly to medicine. However, I am pretty sure I am already down as being high risk as I was on bed rest for almost a month earlier and am still on restrictions (aka I've never been told that I'm off of being high risk, so I'm guessing I'm still there).
Also, after reading a pp I just watched The Business of Being Born and I really must say that it made me a lot less afraid of vaginal birth. I thought the film was biased but very interesting. When I was in college I wrote a paper on the increase in the number of c-sections and how many doctors feel like it is easier and they feel more confident with doing them instead of going with other means to aid vaginal delivery. Originally I went to a midwife for my yearly exams until she referred me to a specialist because of some issues with my anatomy and watching that movie reminded me of why I loved going to a midwife. It made me wish that I had that option and I am going to see if the hospital that I deliver at offers birthing tubs. I'm hoping they do and that the baby will be healthy enough and in a position to make vaginal birth possible.
I had an emergency c-section with DS. I laboured super fast at 35 weeks but he was breech and the cord was around his neck and under his arm. It wasn't long enough to reach if I pushed him out. THE C-SECTION WAS EASY! Really.If They did strap me down, I didn't notice and I am super super sketchy about being strapped or confined against my will, it's a big phobia for me. I had a spinal and as soon as it kicked in I could relax, chat to my midwife and the nurses, ask questions about what was going on etc. I was in such good form they even took down the curtain at my request so I could see DS being born. For as badly as it went, it was pretty good.
I was all about a natural home birth, no hospital, no intervention, no gas, nothing. It went the complete opposite of what I wanted but it was fine. My wee man came out safe and well and though I had a long slow recovery, I had help, I asked for help when I needed it and I made sure not too push myself to do anything before I was 110% ready.
I'm totally hoping for a completely natural VBAC this time. I'm going for an ultrasound at 33/34 weeks to make sure this wee man isn't breech and if he's the right way around and labour moves as swiftly as the first time, my midwife isn't even too stressed about me making it to hospital (it's 3.5 hours away!) which is awesome.
Please try not to worry about having a c-section if that's what you really need. It really isn't too bad. You'll be well drugged so you won't feel pain and you'll be looked after with pain meds afterwards too. I would recommend asking questions about a c-section so you're prepared just in case and also to have a c-section birth plan outline in place also so you remember all the little things you want if things do go that direction.
I'm a bit sad I didn't have skin to skin time with DS. He was away from me for about 5 minutes for checks since he was prem and when I got him, he was wrapped up. With all that was going on i didn't think to ask for skin to skin. I've made sure to tell my midwife this time that's one of the most important things.
Being strapped down is not always the case. I wasn't with my 2nd and 3rd (first I was intibated---not the way I would recommend wanting to go into your c/s), I just had to lay my arms to the side.
The way I look at it, there's no use in freaking out about it. If it happens, it happens. What good does making yourself a nervous wreck about it do? Maybe because I have had three but the way I have always looked at it is that is how my babies come into the world and it's the only way to get them here so I am fine with it. With my first, I knew it was a possibility and, while I prepared myself for the chance it happened, I didn't spend too much time dwelling on it.
Ditto this. I had an emergency c/s and it was okay for me. There are a couple of things I would want done differently (mainly to do with BFing afterwards) which I'm going to discuss with my OB/hospital this time around. I was never adamantly against having a c/s, but since I expected a vaginal birth there were things I didn't even think about until I was having the surgery, at which point I was just glad to get DD out safely. I had a pretty easy recovery and had a lot of help afterwards, so I was able to concentrate on healing and bonding with DD.
My sister in law has this but her dr. said it clears up *almost* always by 28 weeks. She is getting an u/s tomorrow to check it.
Don't count yourself out of the birthing game quite yet.
My baby is two!!! Baby girl 9/17/09
My other baby is still a baby! Baby Boy 11-30-11
When I first found out I was pregnant, a c/s was my number one fear. Now that I have made the decision to try natural birth first, I have educated myself on natural birthing methods and techniques which should help me avoid a c/s. I really recommend the documentary recommended by a PP, as well as Birthing From Within and Ina May's Guide to Childbirth. Through these and other materials I am gaining confidence in myself to birth naturally, and I know if it doesn't happen, a c/s will be what is best for baby and I. I also recommend discussing this with your doctor, midwife or doula. My doula and midwife know that natural birth is my goal, but I also understand that sometimes medical interventions and c/s are necessary for the health of me and the baby. I would say that an unnecessary c/s is my biggest fear!