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I'm sorry I haven't posted much but I think I'm going insane!

cara-n-stevecara-n-steve member
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I haven't been able to post in a while, my life has just been crazy lately.  DH is deployed...it's been two week.  I'm doing much better with the boys then I thought I would on my own but today was a nightmare!  They've been crying and screaming all day. I'm thinking from teething or perhaps just a bad day for them?  They used to go to bed a night like angels and now they cry and scream and get up every hour!  I'm so exhausted I don't know what to do with myself.  No matter what I did tonight I could not get G to settle down so I had to walk out of their room and just let him cry.  I felt so horrible.  I sat on my bed with the dogs and started bawling!  After about 20 minutes he fell asleep but has already woken up 3 times.  L only woke up once so far.  I'm just so drained today, that when I started this post there was a point and a question to it, and now it's just a babble. Does anyone have a pointers for the rough days like this?  Thankfully they don't happen to often but my goodness!!!!!
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  • armywife76armywife76 member
    I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. I can imagine that would be extremely stressful. My only suggestions are to take minutes for yourself to destress, even if it means letting them cry for a brief time. As long as their basic needs are met and they are in a safe place, they will be ok. Also, taking help from family and friends whenever you can. Hope it gets better soon. ((hugs))
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  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    Sounds rough. I agree about getting a helper (family member, mother's helper) . I can't imagine with twins. Big Hugs!
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  • kme930kme930 member
    (((hugs))) I'm sorry it's been such a rough day! I hope you get a break soon - either with sleepy kids or a helper! 
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  • dundasgirldundasgirl

    It's so hard to see past those bad days when they happen...and being tired only adds to it.  If you can't get someone to help you/give you a break...is there a social area where you can get together with other Moms of young kids?  A drop in centre?  Or playgroup?  You might already do that...and I know it's hard to get out of the house...but it does help to talk to adults:)

    Hang in there!  I have totally had those days and my DH is only ever gone for a few days.

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  • OscarQOscarQ member

    Could be teething or did they have the 4 Month wakeful yet?  Kevin hit it at 5 months and it about did me in for a week - and that was with DH doing most of the getting up.  And you have two and a deployed DH.  I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this alone.

    When Kevin is super fussy I put him in his swing and run the vacuum cleaner.  Usually puts him out but if not, it doesn't tear me up hearing him crying and I at least get some cleaning done. 

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  • ohiostategalohiostategal member
    You poor thing, I am so sorry.  I hope tomorrow is better.  Is there anyone around that can help?  Big hugs momma.
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  • cara-n-stevecara-n-steve member
    Thanks ladies.  We don't have any family here and I do have some friends but none I feel comfortable with asking for help.  All of my really good friends either live over and hour away or have moved away.  One of my BFF's moved yesterday :(.  My mom is coming on Friday and I'm flying back to NJ with her on Sat. and staying for two weeks.  I can't wait, I told her i was going to take a two week nap.  I called her yesterday and begged her to come early but she's a guidance counselor  and is getting ready for the school year so she can't.  I'm hoping today gets better.  Thanks again ladies!
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  • DrVWifeDrVWife member
    I have no advice...heck I am right there with you!...but lots of hugs from one deployment momma to another.  Hang in there!  You can do this!
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