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Someone suggested baby diaper raffle at shower-thoughts?
My friend and I went to BRU to register today. The lady that helped us said we should register for a ton of diapers for the raffle. I had no clue what she was talking about. 2 girls that were also registering knew about it and said they are going to do it.
I guess the invitation will say something like..."Please bring a package of diapers to be entered into a drawing. Prizes will be awarded!"
And then I guess some people can get gift cards for movie theatres or for a restaurant or somthing.
Hubby says..."I dont like it because it seems like we want free stuff"
Are you doing it? If it were me and I were attending a shower I would do it for fun.
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Re: Someone suggested baby diaper raffle at shower-thoughts?
You will get mixed answers to this. TECHNICALLY, it's a huge etiquitte no-no... it's basically telling guests what to bring, and asking that they bring diapers in addition to another gift. I once posted about an invite that said, "Please bring a package of Huggies size 2 diapers or bigger and Pampers Unscented wipes for the wishing well in addition to your registry selection from Babies R Us". It was appalling to be told to bring a gift, make sure it was from the registry, AND be told to bring such specific extras on top of my gift.
However, I will say that I fall on the other side of the fence on this issue (shocker!), because most showers I've been to have had them so I doesn't bother me. Cute poems do not typically excuse a tacky request, but if the request is phrased in a way that makes guests feel like it's optional and not required of them, especially if it's common in your area, I don't find it terribly offensive.
That being said, if you didn't know about it, chances are you haven't attended any showers where this was common... which means your friends and family probably haven't either. I wouldn't start this trend if it weren't already acceptable amongst your group, but as I said- nearly every shower I've been to has done it so I just shrug and do it.
Rules of thumb, most things suggested by BRU employees can be written off as unnecessary or tacky. Something that you feel awkward enough to confirm with strangers that it's ok is usually unnecessary or tacky. If you need a poem to make it seem less awkward, it's unnecessary or tacky.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
I agree with your H. Don't take the word of a BRU employee on anything. She is doing her job by selling you/ trying to get you to register for as much as possible.
Beyond that, you don't know how sensitive your baby's skin will be and how fast he or she will change sizes. You could very well end up with a bunch of diapers you can't use.
i did this for my sisters shower. i made it an option for people to bring a package of diapers to be entered in a rafle if they wanted and my sister didn't register for diapers, people who wanted to enter the raffle brought what ever size/brand they wanted. i think if it is optional, it isn't tacky. my sister didn't have to buy diapers for 4 months! also, less than half participated so i know not everyone felt obligated to bring diapers. i was invited to a shower where they did this and i couldn't afford a gift and diapers so i just got the gift and i didn't feel cheap at all!
I have only ever heard of this on this site. I have never seen it done IRL.
I don't mind bringing diapers if that is my gift, but I don't care enough about getting some prize or gift at someone's shower to bring diapers. lol.
And just personally, having had a baby in the last year, I was really particular about diapers. I would only use pampers swaddlers. He peed out of the huggies. The kirklands someone gave us never fit him right, so I gave them to a family shelter.
And at 3 months, I started cloth diapering. I'm still really picky about the brand of diapers he is in when we do disposable diaper.
Just something to think about- you will go through a few brands before you find what you really like. The hospital gave me 2 small packs of diapers and I knew from there that I loved the swaddlers the best.
LOL.
Oh boy...
It's grabby and the idea of winning a prize for bringing a pack of diapers sounds desperate to me. Are you REALLY in need of diapers that bad that you're asking guests to throw down more money on top of what they have already bought off your registry on diapers in hopes of possibly winning movie tickets? If I saw that in a invite I'd give the host the side-eye and wouldn't participate.
Save the money you would have spent on prizes and put it towards diapers. IMO, there should NEVER be any sort of discussion or 'special instructions' on invites regarding gifts. I also hate the idea of people buying random diapers. Not all brands work for all babies. One brand might leak, another brand might not contain the blow-outs very well while another causes a rash. Diaper buying should be left up to the parents.