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Parenting after 35
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FFFC
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I am SO ready to unload on my sister. (only sibling)
Our mom has been talking about visiting her for literally six months. She won't fly, so it's quite a drive from IA to AZ. Really wants to see her grandson, who turns 12 in a few months.
Stupid, self-centered, passive-aggressive sister is already bitching about how inconvenient it will be to have to entertain her mother. Because their lives are SO busy and there's just NO time to have company.
She has a sophomore and a junior high kid. They play one sport each. They have a few church activities. But to hear her talk, they are the only kids on the planet that have extra curricular activities. Oh.. and she works and so does her hubby. Apparently they are the only people who work, too. The sun rises and sets on their schedule.
What burns my butt is that she pulled the plug on another visit last year for the same lame reasons. Mom was literally packed and ready to leave and sis cancelled it.. saying they're just too busy. Of course Mom said it was okay, but I know she was hurt by it. AND SHE'S ABOUT TO DO IT AGAIN.
There's even more to all of this, but that's enough for now! I'm about to call her and ask, "So when will you NOT be too busy for your own mother to visit?"
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I would be sincerely pissed as well! And I'd call her out. Life is too short to push away family that you have a good relationship. I bet she'd kick herself if something happened to your mom, but it would be too late by then. I hear from friends and aquaintances all the time how busy they are, and I don't usually respond, they would lose the one-up, badly. That's not something I engage in (unless it's for sport
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I am beyond busy right now, but I made time for a friend who needed it, and squeezed a few things in for family, because they needed me. It speaks volumes when someone is "busy" and can't fit in something as important as a rare visit from mom. Her priorities are obviously elsewhere. I feel for your mom, Bridebuddies.
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Called her last night and she was enroute to a meeting with her oldest's teachers. You'd have thought she was meeting with the President. I asked her to call me later and of course, she didn't.
My sister is the WORST one-upper on the planet.
Heck.. when we got engaged, SHE's the one who instantly blabbed it to the whole family via email. (We were going to wait a bit so as to not overshadow a cousin's wedding) I did lay into her for that. She makes everything all about her.
I tried breastfeeding for, like, a week (Maybe 2, I've chosen to block it out of my memory) after DS was born. I wasn't committed going into it and it was just too complicated. Neither one of us got anything out of the experience and I wish I had given him formula from the get go.
Bravo to all BFing moms but it's just NMS.
Hey we support all sides of this issue - but if you are having a slow day post it on one of the Babies boards
Just let me know so I can come watch! You have to do what's right for both of you.
::contemplates setting the Breastfeeding board on FIAH!!::
A lot of women can't BF for whatever reason. Don't let those who can make you feel less because of it. I have a relative (Not my sister, surprisingly) who is very judgy because I've handicapped my child for life by not BFing. <eyeroll>
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This, exactly! I was having a brain fart earlier, thinking about this song, it does sum it up well! Bridebuddies, your sister and my sil would be perfect for each other. They could go at it and we could scorekeep and sell tickets to the show. Hug your mom, your sister is acting like a douchenozzle and doesn't realize what she is missing. This is so not flameworthy.