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Still no sex drive. :(

jfischer1115jfischer1115 member
in February 2012 Moms

I thought second trimester was supposed to be when it came back if it went away during the first? I know everyone is different, but I feel like my libido is just dead. I haven't felt even the slightest twinge of horniness in about two weeks, and it's making me depressed.  I want to be intimate, but there's nothing there. I'm not experiencing sickness anymore, but I'm like a sexual vacuum.

Anyone else feeling this way?

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  • trebmaltrebmal
    imagejfischer1115:

    I thought second trimester was supposed to be when it came back if it went away during the first? I know everyone is different, but I feel like my libido is just dead. I haven't felt even the slightest twinge of horniness in about two weeks, and it's making me depressed.  I want to be intimate, but there's nothing there. I'm not experiencing sickness anymore, but I'm like a sexual vacuum.

    Anyone else feeling this way?

    **raises hand**

    I feel so bad for FH, we were every day (sometimes more than once a day) people before our bfp, now we're lucky to get to 2 times a week. 

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    ... We've had sex four times in 14 weeks.
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  • mommyc85mommyc85 member
    Maybe I'm just a special snowflake, but with my first pregnancy, my sex drive came back in the 3rd trimester. Weird I know? I was HUGE but the sex was still good if you used the right positions. Had no drive in the 1st and 2nd tris. This time it is different but I thought you might want to know you aren't completely out of the ballgame yet. :)
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  • LSquared3960LSquared3960 member
    This is me too :( I feel so bad for DH but I've just had no drive.
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  • Jess.OJess.O

    Me, too.  

     

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  • jldubb0626jldubb0626 member
    No sex drive here either. I'm really hoping it comes back soon!
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  • jen-dalejen-dale member
    I hate to be the bringer of bad news but it might not come back until after the baby is here. With DD I think DH and I had sex maybe four times when I was pregnant. This time around I am not having the same issues but it was really frustrating.
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  • jfischer1115jfischer1115 member

    imagejen-dale:
    I hate to be the bringer of bad news but it might not come back until after the baby is here. With DD I think DH and I had sex maybe four times when I was pregnant. This time around I am not having the same issues but it was really frustrating.

    Oh, eff word.  Not what I wanted to hear.  I'm gonna' keep hoping it comes back soon...

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  • mixedqt21mixedqt21 member
    Same.  Once in a blue moon I have the feeling again, but very rarely.  Sometimes I try to just go with it to try and work into the mood, but that doesn't always help either....blah...
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  • CassiEricCassiEric member
    Same here. I'm not ever in the mood. Poor DH... we've done it twice in 12 weeks.
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  • princessniclynprincessniclyn member
    I feel ya...the hard part is the DH works 3rd shift so we are only together two nights a week and even before BFP it sort of felt like we HAD to have sex those nights, but now we have only had sex like four times in 16 weeks.  I am just so stinking tired and really not in the mood so even when I "man up" he can tell and it isn't enjoyable for him either.
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  • emschottemschott member
    I am also NEVER in the mood.  For the last 5 weeks I've had an excuse- pelvic rest- but who knows how long that can go on.  I feel bad for DH, but what can you do?
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  • MeganequineMeganequine member

    I'm right there with you ladies. . . I can count on one hand how many times we've done it since my bfp.  Sometimes I feel bad for H, but othertimes I figure that can be his "pregnancy symptom" (is that spelled right. . . where is my brain right now?).  I actually encourage him to take care of himself whenever he pleases. .  though I know he'd prefer I take care of him.

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  • tawniac1010tawniac1010
    Same here. We had "pity" sex on Friday, but I just am not feeling it at all. I feel awful, because my DH has put on some weight and he thinks I'm not attracted to him, but it's not that at all! 
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