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Liz4444
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Courtneyklv
Liz4444
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Courtney, I have to ask, did she offer to host or did you ask her to do it? Why would this girl offer to host a baby shower when she clearly has no idea what it is or what it entails? The whole thing seems very off to me.
And, if you are an event planner, shouldn't you have basic knowledge of invitations, pricing, etc?
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Re: Courtneyklv
Hi, Yes she is my best friend and offered a couple of weeks ago. Today we were chatting and I asked her, kind of playing dumb, "what does a host actually do?" (I knew because I went on this board) She replied that she actually had no clue and would google it. (I know that she still doesn't know that she is suppose to pay for everything and plan everything) I said that I believe she is suppose to do everything and she was surprised. She also told me that she is going to start studying for her LSats and cannot start until October and if it would be ok if I helped a tiny bit. I told her that of course I would..I talked to another friend of mine about it and she offered to help (not pay Im assuming, but help with the planning since she has been to many baby showers)
It may seem off to you, but as I have explained before, she is 9 years younger than me, married, no children, and has been in the U.S for about 5 years from Russia. Like I said, I really don't think she has been to a baby shower. But because we are such great friends, she offered and I kindly accepted since we live about 3 blocks from one another.
I do not plan baby showers. I help with weddings and 'day of planning' not doing the brides invitations and things like that. I am good with the day of the event, decor, making things go as planned and on time. I know I did my own invitations for my wedding a few years back, but I made them with a family member that printed them for me and had those resources. I do not have a great printer so that is why I asked about that.
Hope that helps.
Her being from another country and another culture is really the only thing that makes it okay for her to be unfamiliar with our customs- the rest of the details shouldn't matter. Since she's not from here or familiar with an American baby shower, I think it's okay for you to make sure she knows what the expectation of a host is- but I would also be prepared for her to decide she can't do it once she's informed. Offering to pick up the slack really just translates to you throwing your own party and putting her name on the invites.
I agree that I really don't think she knows what she is in for. I really don't. She works full time, is doing the lsat course and also goes to school evenings 3 nights a week. I appreciate her offering though.
When I spoke to the other friend today I DID NOT ask her a thing and didn't ask her to help...just as I didn't ask my best friend 'Lisa' to help...I would never want someone to be obligated without them offering. She just texted me.."I would love to help out 'Lisa" I then told her about 'lisa' and how I just found out she didn't know what a host does. This other friend said she would love to help out and has been to so many showers and has great ideas. Am I assuming that this other friend is going to 'host' and pay for things? No. But I know that she will get with 'lisa' and will help out.
As far as the money issue...since I now know that 'lisa' doesn't know anything and is going to google it..well, I really don't know what to say..I guess she will see her duties when she looks online.
And 'lisa' was sweet..last week she emailed me and said.."I know you wanted to register at Target and Babies R Us so I used my email and started it for you..here is the user name and password for the websites" That was kind but she didn't know I already started my registries.
But see..she thought that was her job as a hostess.
UPDATE- I emailed 'lisa' with a few websites that deal with hosting showers and what her duties are. I got a couple of texts today asking if I wanted help..so I told my friends about my situation. I gave them 'lisas' number and want to help with the planning now as well.