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My mom stresses me out. :(

Jess.OJess.O
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There's a long back story but I'll make this short.  My aunt is planning my shower for Oct. 22.  I know it's early but we wanted to do it before the holidays start.  She wants to have it at my house since it's big and that way we don't have to move all the presents.  Great!

I asked my mom who from her side I should invite because they all live far from me and don't travel.  I didn't want them to be left out but I haven't seen them in over 10 years so I really don't expect them to come. She says I should invite about 4 of them.  Okay, cool.  Then goes on to ask if they can stay with me (anyone who comes with them.)  Um...well...I can't tell my mom that she can't stay at my house but she stresses me out to the max.  Plus, I'll be cleaning like crazy to get ready. 

Oh yeah, she also just married her bf of 2 months so it'll include him and his daughter.   I know I need to be grateful that I have family who wants to come see me.  I've been really excited about this but not I'm not.  Now, I just feel like it's going to be stressful. 

Vent over.  Thanks for letting me get it out.  I'll probably dd this later. 

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  • Lena122Lena122 member
    Why can't they stay at a hotel? I see no reason why you should feel obligated to host your mom, her husband and kid, plus whoever else from your family comes. It's not like it's a big holiday like Christmas.
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  • 5bears5bears member

    Anyway they can host a shower for you where they live?  It sounds a lot easier for you to go up there than deal with all those houseguests!

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  • Jess.OJess.O

    Thanks for the support and suggestions.  They don't have much money so a hotel would be really tough for them.  However, now that she has a new husband I feel weird about it.  It seems to me like he would, too since we've never even met.  

    I thought they would offer to throw me a shower in their home town (I have tons of family there) but they haven't mentioned it.  I don't know if there's some way I could mention it without it being rude.  Although I hate going back to my hometown (bad memories and such) it would be so much easier for me to make that trip then for all of them to come here.  

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    imageJess.O:

    Thanks for the support and suggestions.  They don't have much money so a hotel would be really tough for them.  However, now that she has a new husband I feel weird about it.  It seems to me like he would, too since we've never even met.  

    I thought they would offer to throw me a shower in their home town (I have tons of family there) but they haven't mentioned it.  I don't know if there's some way I could mention it without it being rude.  Although I hate going back to my hometown (bad memories and such) it would be so much easier for me to make that trip then for all of them to come here.  

     

    I had a very similar situation to yours, minus the awkwardness of your mom's new husband. Since DH's family is out of state for the most part, I suggested to them that if they wanted to participate somehow but couldn't make it to the shower here, then DH and I could come down for a post baby shower type thing. That way they could do something for me and also get to meet the baby. Which is really win win for them since it'll cost less to host a shower and they get to meet the baby.

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