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LIAngel
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Does your LO cry if you raise your voice at them?
LIAngel
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I very rarely raise my voice to Nicholas. I've never put him in time out cause honestly he hasn't done anything to make me want to. If I tell him to sit down if he's standing on the couch, he sits. If he goes to climb on the kitchen table and I say not to, he doesn't. He's a pretty good listener.
Well the other day he wasn't listening when I said not to climb on something and I said "NICHOLAS, SIT DOWN!!!! I'M GOING TO COUNT TO THREE". Well he just looked at me sunk down into the couch and started crying like I hurt his feelings.
So then I felt awful. I sat him on my lap and said "You can't climb/jump on the couch, you'll get hurt."
I'm such a pushover.
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Re: Does your LO cry if you raise your voice at them?
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It depends. A stern voice like "Don't stand on the couch" or "You need to eat dinner." No. He usually just listens to what I say. Or I count down from 3. Usually that works.
But there have been a few times that I have yelled - I mean really yelled - at him. I certainly feel sheepish afterward, especially when he starts crying. He then says that he needs a "Mommy hug." That makes us both feel better.
A couple of months ago G picked up her sippy cup from the day before with milk in it (yes, we're that awesome!) and as it approached her lips I yelled, Garrison, NO! And she looked so hurt by it and her little lip started to quiver. I felt so bad.
Then Wednesday she wouldn't eat and started throwing food, which is a time-outable offense (throwing food, not not eating). So I reminded her of that and she threw another green bean so I said you are going to time out. I stand there with her or she will leave but then I remembered her hamburger was sitting on the table and our two terribly behaved cats would get it so I told her to stay there as I ran to get the plate and when I came back, she was gone so I yelled at her to get back over to the corner (she was already crying from timeout) but she really cried when I yelled.
I'm not happy that I yelled. Usually I am good about re-directing without raising my voice but I'm not sure this was one of those "I lost it and yelled" moments, more that I felt like I needed to yell to get the point across. After time out we always go sit down where she will calm down and I can remind her of why she went and say "please don't throw your food anymore". She ended up going back to her seat on her own and eating just about everything on her plate....
M went near the oven once and I yelled, "No, HOT!" and she started bawling. I didn't really feel bad because she needs to know she can't do dangerous things.
When I talk to her in a stern voice about not throwing food and such, she just smiles at me and I have to turn my head so she doesn't see me laughing.
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
Ditto this for my DS. Doesn't seem to bother him any more, unfortunately!
Hahahaha this happens at our house! She hides them sometimes then will find them the next day and try to drink. If I do raise my voice, which at her age is more of a you're-about-to-hurt-yourself situation, she just kind of jumps like she was startled, and looks at me.