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Moozilla11
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Moozilla11
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This is my second pregnancy But I never had a baby shower with number 1. Now friends are asking if they can throw me a baby shower for number 2 because the first was a girl and we have nothing for a boy. I keep saying I will think about it but I dont want to sound greedy if they throw a shower for the little boy because he isnt my first. Any advice?
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I think that if friends really want to throw you a shower then go for it.
Since you didn't have a shower the first time it's not like people are thinking "another shower, another gift".
I don't think showers for a second baby are tacky. I think showers for seperate babies are tacky.
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11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
Um, what does this even mean? Do you think showers for anything other than Siamese twins are tacky?
Let me rephrase for those looking to be bitchy.... I think showers for every child you have are tacky.
She wasn't looking to be bitchy, you're phrasing is just really weird.
I don't see a problem with your friends hosting a shower for you at this point. No one will have gone to a shower for you and you most likely have new friends anyway. Showers are supposed to be for first time mothers...but since you didn't have one when you were first a mother...then ehh.
BTW...I understood what the pp was saying and agree..".I don't think showers for a second baby are tacky. I think showers for separate babies are tacky." IMO the reference to Siamese twins was tacky.
I agree, Happily Overwhelmed, I knew exactly what you meant.
If friends want to give you one and you're happy with it, let them. It isn't as though you asked for one. I didn't understand the confusing phrasing either but I get it now that it was explained clearly. I disagree with it though. In my family and circle of friends every pregnancy and baby is celebrated; the seperate ones aren't any less special than the first one. It's not all about the gifts; we just like to come together for a special event. It's common for every woman to have a shower, usually more than one, for every pregnancy.
This. I'm sorry the phrasing required a few extra seconds of processing on your part, but you're a tool w/the Siamese Twins comment.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
1- No one is saying not to celebrate any and every baby; just don't call it a shower everytime.
2- It is, in fact, about the gifts when it's called a shower- it's meant to SHOWER the new parents with the essentials needed for their 1st child- after you've been through it before, it's assumed that you have what you need. You shouldn't need to be SHOWERED again. If you bought/registered for all gender-specific items the first time around, that does not entitle you to more gifts.
3- It actually ISN'T common for every woman to have a shower, or more than one, for every pregnancy. If it was, this would not be such a reoccurring trend on this board.
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When is the line drawn?
Example...
My friend has an 8 year old. She wants another child, let's say they have another baby in 2 years. Would it be tacky for her to have another baby shower? She has nothing for a baby.