I need to know about time outs, please.

Re: I need to know about time outs, please.

• Mrs.Reem

  August 2011

  We use 1-2-3 magic along with our timeout pad, and we never timeout for big emotions. (so don't timeout for crying continuously. Only for actions that were wrong.)

  We'll give a warning. > K/A chairs are for sitting. Sit down. (let them know what you do want them to do instead.)
  

  If it continues > Katen/Ana chairs are for sitting. Sit down. That's one... two... three

  Then they sit on the timeout pad. One minute for every year of their age. 
  

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• ela81

  August 2011

  Now, take what I say with a grain of salt as Isabel does not have the ability to comprehend at this point so this is not how we do things.... That said I think I like the way the "Super Nanny" (guilty pleasure) does time out.

    When your child does something unacceptable:

  ?        Go down to their level

  ?        Make eye contact

  ?        Tell them they did something unacceptable

  ?        Warn them that if they do that again they will go to the Naughty Chair

  ?        If the bad behavior is repeated, take the child and sit him in the Naughty Chair

  ?        Explain why they are sitting there and to stay there until you come and get him

  ?        The length of the time-out is determined by their age: 1 minute X their age. A timer would be useful here and a visual indication for the child to watch the time go by.

  ?        At the end of the time-out, the child must apologize.

  ?        For an older child, they can go to a ?Naughty Room? that is not their bedroom and does not have a TV or other activities; it has to be a boring place.

  ?        For a younger child, the time-out should take place in a ?Naughty Chair? that is placed close-by the main play area, but again not in a bedroom or eating place. The first step of the stairs, if you have stairs, is a good place for a toddler.

  ?        Either way, you cannot associate a time-out with a place where they sleep or eat or play, or else they will refuse to sleep, eat, or play there.

   

  Also- she says if the child gets up before their time is up, take them back to their spot (her mat in your case) without speaking and place them back there. The clock does not stop running if this happens.

   

  That's all I've got:) Good Luck!
  

   

  For DD - IVF/ICSI #1 - BFP / For DS - dIUI #1 - BFP Dx:severe MFI-Y Chromosome Microdeletion Isabel born 10-15-08! / Baby Boy EDD July 2013

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• Dr.Loretta member

  August 2011

  I use it rarely, but it's effective. I started using it when DD would scream just to piss me off.

  I told her if she didn't stop she'd sit against the wall. And when she kept going, I put her against the wall for a minute. She cried the whole time, and when she settled down I told her we didn't do screaming and gave her a hug. The day went on.

  Today she got one for the first time in a while. She wanted to throw sticky food all over the carpet just to piss me off. I did as above.

  She HATES time outs.

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• cjsbdl member

  August 2011

  I highly recommend you read 1-2-3 Magic. The key is to count them without words or emotion.

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