nervous about new baby

coryandsuzanne · August 2011

I have a daughter who just turned 1 in July and I am a SAHM with her, working part-time from home and coaching volleyball. I love it...BUT...definitely still feel like I'm getting used to having her and even being a mom. We both knew we wanted more kids someday but sometimes I feel overwhelmed that I'm starting over with another tiny baby again so soon. Anyone else feel this way? Hopefully it will come natural and we'll adjust, but I'm just not sure I'm ready yet. My husband was ready and I thought there was no way we'd get prego the first month, but we did.

Babies are always a blessing, I'm just nervous to take on another challenge I guess.

Ivana_Stolichnaya · August 2011

My baby is almost 2 years old and I'm also nervous about going down the newborn road again. Sleepless nights, eating around the clock, poop explosions, spit-up etc. Still nervous....

526SadieSadie · August 2011

If you weren't ready, please explain why you had unprotected sex? You do know where babies come from, yes?

coryandsuzanne · August 2011

526SadieSadie:
If you weren't ready, please explain why you had unprotected sex? You do know where babies come from, yes?

I know it's something I can handle, I think it's just nerves as I think about having a baby again. I'd probably have these feelings no matter when it happened in the future. That's why I had unprotected sex. Because it's definitely something we can handle, and I'm sure in a month or 2 I'll be fully excited about it instead of half nervous.

Is it okay for me to talk about my nerves on here without being asked if I know where babies come from?

526SadieSadie · August 2011

Of course you can.

You sound a lot more sure of yourself now than you did in your first post. That's pretty much what I was getting at. You can handle it, and we (yes, even me) are here for support

paulinaramirez · August 2011

526SadieSadie:
If you weren't ready, please explain why you had unprotected sex? You do know where babies come from, yes?

I can't really speak for OP but I can see where she s coming from. In our case, having a LO already, it can be nerve racking to think about handling two kids with different needs at once. So as much as we were ready to have another baby and made the decision to do so, some mornings I wonder what I'm getting myself into

As for OP, im sure your nerves will settle out and you ll be just fine . You ll probably get used to it with time

TIFFANYTORRES1984 · August 2011

I definitally know how you feel I have twin 2 y/o girls who are in the terrible 2 stage lol, and an 8 y/o boy. I think for the most part it is just hormones

There are days like today that my twins are being a terror all day long and I just think what the heck was I thinking lol. Then there are days like yesterday when they were being all lovie and nice and I was so excited to bring another baby into this world. It's all just a bundle of emotions right now. I think everything will fit into place eventually!!!

Kristinmo · August 2011

DS is almost 2 and I'm still petrified. You may want to check out the Two under 2 board.

kmiller1012 · August 2011

I feel you. DS is 8 mos and I'm scared about handling 2 little ones. I think the nerves will be around until the baby is born. I know i was nervous (and excited) before DS was born, but once he was here it was gone and everything fell into place.

jknigh8 · August 2011

My DD is 15 months, and we definitely wanted this one, but we are still nervous too. There is so much more that comes with having two. One is pretty easy, they are easy to tote around, you know who they are and have them settled in a routine by now, they eat well (generally) and you know what they cost and it's pretty easy to swing finances for one kid. Two is a whole new world of extra junk to take everywhere, extra needs, extra finances, extra daycare, extra sick days off work.... of course you're nervous! We are too! But, think that no matter what, you will do what it takes with whatever you have. I always laugh at people that ask mothers of multiples "how do you do it?" because their only response is "we do what we have to do, what else are you going to do?"

You will do great with two, and I'm sure in a bit you will drop the anxiety and just be excited. HTH

LuckEinLuv · August 2011

I know exactly how you are feeling. We knew we wanted more so we stopped using protection when DS was one. I NEVER expected it to happen the first month!! So much so that I thought I just wasn't ovulating yet after going off the pill. I finally took a test and I was already 8 weeks.

kkfeb04 · August 2011

paulinaramirez:
526SadieSadie:

If you weren't ready, please explain why you had unprotected sex? You do know where babies come from, yes?

I can't really speak for OP but I can see where she s coming from. In our case, having a LO already, it can be nerve racking to think about handling two kids with different needs at once. So as much as we were ready to have another baby and made the decision to do so, some mornings I wonder what I'm getting myself into As for OP, im sure your nerves will settle out and you ll be just fine . You ll probably get used to it with time

THIS!!! Yes I also felt like this too. It's just that you get into such a routine that you think what the heck am I doing messing with this. Right now DS is sleeping through the night (finally at 15 months), he's been feeding himself at meals for a while, he plays well by himself, walks/runs around and torments the dog. He's such a blessing to have. The first few days I felt horrible thinking I ruined his life because he is my world and now I have this usurper growing inside me that's going to take away things from him. Let's face it daycare costs are horrible let alone double what you are paying now (because you know prices go up every year). I talked to other 2+ moms and they all said the same thing. It's just normal to have these kind of emotions. Until you are in the position of having more than one child you can never fully understand these emotions.

kkfeb04 · August 2011

LuckEinLuv:
I know exactly how you are feeling. We knew we wanted more so we stopped using protection when DS was one. I NEVER expected it to happen the first month!! So much so that I thought I just wasn't ovulating yet after going off the pill. I finally took a test and I was already 8 weeks.

This happened to us also. I went off my ring in June and was pregnant in July. Heck it took 3 years and fertility treatments to have DS. We wanted a second child but never expected it to happen this quickly.

gekeler6 · August 2011

TIFFANYTORRES1984:
I definitally know how you feel I have twin 2 y/o girls who are in the terrible 2 stage lol, and an 8 y/o boy. I think for the most part it is just hormones There are days like today that my twins are being a terror all day long and I just think what the heck was I thinking lol. Then there are days like yesterday when they were being all lovie and nice and I was so excited to bring another baby into this world. It's all just a bundle of emotions right now. I think everything will fit into place eventually!!!

You have a great family! I have two sets of twins 2 years apart and I had those days where I wanted to have a break down and cry having two newborns and two toddlers, but I just thought to myself that I can do it! Congrats on your new addition! Somedays were challenging and the majority are great! I love having a big family, and people think we are crazy for having another one (hopefully just one)! We love our big family so much and wouldn't change anything! Now the twins are 9 and 7 and I think sometimes, "WOW! We did it and are just about halfway there with the twins!"

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