Has this ever happened to you at a restaurant?

samk213 · August 2011

DS and I went to meet one of my friends for lunch at Cheesecake Factory today, this specific one is inside a mall where lots of moms take their kids everyday, in fact I'd say 90% of the tables at the restaurant today had at least 1 child sitting there. We were waiting on our lunch and the hostess comes by with an older couple to seat at the table next to us. I saw the older woman sizing up our table and eyeballing my DS the whole time she was walking over like she was worried she'd be seated next to us, and he was happy as a clam eating his snacks, not even talking. When the hostess got to the table next to us and tried to seat them, the couple looked at eachother and stated shaking their heads and loudly said "We don't do kids". I thought that was pretty rude, I felt like saying "I don't do old people". I guess it is their lunch, their money and if they feel like it's going to be ruined by a 15 month old, it's their choice, just irked me today.

PrincessShay80 · August 2011

Yep that has happened- usually I will say something really loud like "hope you dont have grandkids" so I know they can hear me. Passive aggressive I know- but I can't stand stuff like that.

We don't take DD to 5 star restaurants- we go to loud family places- Cheesecake is one of our favorites- kids have a right to go out too!

DH and had our date night last week and we went to a really nice steakhouse- I would not want to sit next to a child, but mostly because its our night away from that, and I don't think kids should be out at 8pm at night in a really nice restaurant- it's just not appropiate. But in a family restuarant at lunch time they are just rude!!

ladychicago · August 2011

This happened to us once (we don't take her to restaurants all that often...). It was the Sunday before Valentine's day at like 4:00pm. We deliberately went early to avoid anybody hoping for a romantic dinner.

A mom and son walked in, got seated close to us, looked right at us, and then asked to be seated elsewhere.

I was totally self-conscious about it. But, I tried to tell myself that is their choice, it is no inconvenience to me for them to be re-seated, and I'd rather be next to someone who doesn't mind kids than endure their judge-y stares and whispers the whole time.

Happycouple · August 2011

samk213:
DS and I went to meet one of my friends for lunch at Cheesecake Factory today, this specific one is inside a mall where lots of moms take their kids everyday, in fact I'd say 90% of the tables at the restaurant today had at least 1 child sitting there. We were waiting on our lunch and the hostess comes by with an older couple to seat at the table next to us. I saw the older woman sizing up our table and eyeballing my DS the whole time she was walking over like she was worried she'd be seated next to us, and he was happy as a clam eating his snacks, not even talking. When the hostess got to the table next to us and tried to seat them, the couple looked at eachother and stated shaking their heads and loudly said "We don't do kids". I thought that was pretty rude, I felt like saying "I don't do old people". I guess it is their lunch, their money and if they feel like it's going to be ruined by a 15 month old, it's their choice, just irked me today.

wow--RUDE. I probably would have laughed and said to them "Thank goodness because we dont do rude people". Actually what I would really have wanted to say is "Thank goodness because I really didnt feel like smelling anyones diaper other than my sons" lol. I think some people really are like that though when itcomes to kids.

MyShellyBelly · August 2011

How incredibly rude of her to say that. I love your "I don't do old people" response and wish you would have said it to her

Dr.Loretta · August 2011

Most people are charmed by DD. But I can imagine that there are those out there who ended up next to That Kid with Those Parents--you know, the uncontrollable screamer/food thrower whose parents don't lift a finger to make it better. In their defense, they had no idea if your kid was going to be a perfect angel or a demon. And they may not have been from the area, hence not realizing the place was Kid Central. If they didn't want to be near children, that's their perogative. It probably made for a better lunch for you anyway.

TheSkimmy · August 2011

We went to Champps on Mother's Day for Lunch- they gave out gift cards to mom's that went. We were seated and the next couple and their college age son were walking past us with the hostess. She asked if they had somewhere special they wanted to sit. The husband looked at us and said- anywhere away from them. I said extremely loud. "Don't worry my kids don't cry, Happy Mother's Day AZZHOLE!" My kids did end up being great that day and I was still so mad... I hope he felt like a jerk.

hall_ky · August 2011

People do this stuff all the time! I worked as a waitress in a very kid friendly, loud restaurant for 5 years. It drives me nuts when people make comments like this. If you dont want to sit by kids STAY AT HOME! People are so ridiculous sometimes! There are many times I have wanted to make comments back to people but as an employee I couldnt, as a mom I would Big Smile

skoorbnibor · August 2011

it was rude to say it where you could hear her, but I dont have an issue with not wanting to sit near kids.

I love kids. But there are times, especially when I dont have mine with me, when I dont want any around.

KYRN · August 2011

I guess I "get" not wanting to sit near kids but they should have been more discreet in voicing their concern/issue. I wish you would have said you didn't do old people.

I've never encountered this that I know of but I can also be a little oblivious sometimes, if it ever happens I'll be prepared with my comeback!

mybobble · August 2011

This happened to me once. I took ds w/ me out to lunch at a family restaurant w/ a friend when he was around 4 months old. The hostess walked by our table w/ an older couple (I'd say 60ish) and they saw ds in his carseat and the woman says to her husband "oh great we'll get to listen to a cranky baby soon". I brushed it off and then got to thinking.......we're at a family restaurant and there were plenty of kids already there why was she singling out ds?

Ds slept the ENTIRE time we were there. As we were leaving I politely said to the woman who made the comment (they were seated in the booth in front of us). I apologize for how cranky and annoying my baby was. I certainly hope he didn't ruin your lunch. She looked at me like I had two heads!

Sorry rude lady don't just assume!

When we go out we go to family restaurants just incase ds was ever to have a meltdown. I figure it's a family restaurant, they're usually loud w/ lots going on and there are already families there. NOW if we took him to 5 star places and he acted up then I could see people being upset.

laura1 · August 2011

No that hasn't happened to me yet...

But this has: DD had a huge blow-out in her high chair right as we were getting ready to leave. I went to pick her up and she was dipping her hands in poop. I looked in the diaper bag - no wipes, OR diapers (not really sure how this happened). I did have chlorox wipes, though. DH and DS went to the bar and got a bunch of napkins, I wiped up the seat and then wiped it all down with the chlorox wipes, then we put DD in her stroller sitting on the napkins. Transfered her to the car seat, with fresh napkins, then drove home.

After that, I wouldn't blame anyone for not wanting to sit near us!

chosner82 · August 2011

I went to a restaurant with my parents one night and had DD with me. We were sat next to a couple that gave me a dirty look. I put DD in the high chair with some toys and she barely made a peep. When the other couple got up to leave, they made a point to stop by our table and tell me what a good baby I had. I hope I was able to show that dining with a child isn't always an unpleasant experience.

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