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2+ moms - showers/sprinkles?
A friend offered to do a shower or "sprinkle" for me. I am very appreciative, but I am not sure who to invite. I don't know if anyone else (ie. family) will offer (don't expect them to, since this is #2), so don't know whether to just invite close friends, close family (close family is a joke since DH has a million "close" aunts that would be offended if I didn't invite them! haha), or both? And since we went neutral with most of DS's baby items, all I really need are diapers, wipes, and girl clothes (aside from large items like furniture that I wouldn't expect), so I really don't need a big production. I just don't want anyone to be offended if they aren't invited, but I don't need a huge 50 person party, either. (For DS, we were fortunate to have several showers, so we were able to break up the people into smaller groups, so it wasn't an overwhelming guest list).
Did you have a 2nd shower or "sprinkle"? Who did you invite?
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Re: 2+ moms - showers/sprinkles?
For 2nd babies of a different sex, I have been to "sprinkles" (as in don't spend as much as you might have on a shower) and have been to sip-and-see's. Technically 2nd baby showers are against the etiquette rules but come on - girls are so much more fun to shop for!!!
ETA - to answer your original question - I'd invite family and BFFs to the sprinkle only. If non-BFFs ask if you are having a shower as if they would like to be invited you could always say, "Well my [whoever] is throwing a little sprinkle; I wasn't sure who to invite because it's a second baby." If they want to come, they'll let you know and if they don't they might just drop it or say, "so what did you decide?" And you could just explain family and BFFs, but it's not exclusive or anything if someone wants to come...
- Paula Deen to 104.1 KRBE's Producer Eric 9/17/2011
My MIL's best friend was very hurt that I declined a (3rd!!) wedding shower from her the weekend before our wedding. So she insisted that she be able to throw us a shower for Baby #2.
To be fair, it was DH's first baby, so his side of the family had never shopped for baby stuff for him before and it was a boy vs. a girl.
Anyway, I invited everyone to it and figured if tehy thought it was tacky, then they didn't have to come! I would invite as many people as the person hosting will allow.
Also, just come up with stuff to register for. My Mom and several other people got annoyed with me not putting "bigger" items on my registry because I just didn't need them. I went and found some bigger things that people very generously bought and then I exchanged them for gift cards and got clothes, diapers, wipes, etc. I also registered for the least expesive of the bigger items (car seat, stroller, video moniter, etc) and then when I returned them paid the difference for what I really wanted.
Collin Thayne 10.11.2010
I had a 2nd shower. Mine was just friends, no one from out of town or anything, and pretty small. It was a themed shower and everyone gifted me with food - freezer meals they made or from a company, or restaurant gift cards to get to go food.
I had a 2nd shower. It was a casual luncheon and there were 10 ppl. It was a small circle of friends who all know each other.
I had a sip'n'see as well and that was larger but it was still a group with a social circle in common.
I might do close friends at the sprinkle, then do a sip and see for family afterwards. That would be a good compromise, and I feel like there is less pressure for gifts at the sip and see - so that's good!
How many weeks did you do the SnS? Were you worried about several people being there and wanting to hold them (or was it known that it was off limits)? Usually I am not a germaphobe, but I am also not used to having so many people around them at once so early on.
The one I hosted earlier this year was very much like this. Both grandma's and the Mom to Be's sister were invited, then the girls in our circle of friends. We had 10 people attend, it was at La Madeline and the guests bought their own lunch (we provided dessert). Everyone brought girl clothes (first child was a boy) because we knew the mom had all the essentials. It was very nice.
I'm on #2 and she is a different sex than my first. I was offered a baby-shower from my moms club but I declined saying instead that I was planning a Sip-n-See. I plan on asking those attending the SnS to donate a box of diapers so we can give them to a local charity that helps battered women. That way there is still a celebration for my new baby girl but I'm also helping others [mitzvah].
I've been to both and I'm actually planning a shower for a friend who's on her second. A full on shower. So, it can go either way I think.
Gosh, I don't remember. He wasn't very old. Maybe a month? The hostesses brought everything to my house so that I didn't have to pack up and leave, which was really awesome. I didn't have family there so there wasn't a lot of asking to hold him that I remember. Everyone brough gifts to the s'n's. I didn't expect anything but it was really nice and even though I had a lot from #1, new, fresh things for the baby were really nice to have.