"You're so BIG!"

c_holka1 · August 2011

This is my first pregnancy and my first post on this (or any) board on the bump, but I've been lurking ever since I first found out I was pregnant.

I'm just about 21 weeks along, and I know that I popped out quite a while ago. My doctor said just yesterday that my uterus is already a few inches bigger than what she'd expect at 21 weeks, but she isn't worried about that and neither am I. Maybe I'm further along than what they think, maybe I'm not.

I guess I just don't know what to say to people when they make their comments about my size. They say that I'm big, huge, and I've "just gotta be further along than what they think I am. There's no way someone who's only 21 weeks pregnant should be that big!" and they compare me to other pregnant girls which doesn't make me feel any better. I am just beyond irritated. I get that my belly is big, but I'm growing a baby in there and my doctor isn't worried. The inner B in me just wants to come out flailing, and I'm just flabbergasted that people can be so rude.

Can you ladies help me out? I don't know what to say to them! Thank you!

Mrs.Goldenblatt · August 2011

I respond with "and I'm only going to get bigger!" Makes people realize the stupidity of what they are saying.

messfam07 · August 2011

I like the comment, I'm going a baby whats your excuse!!! they shut right up. Its rude of them to say or ask in the first place so I'm rude right back.

drkcrystl4@aol.com · August 2011

This is my first pregnancy as well and I was always under the impression that every woman's pregnancy is different based on how you carry, how tall you are, etc. I hate when people make comments like that. I don't understand how they don't get that it's rude. I would just tell them you're pretty sure your doctor knows more about your pregnancy than they do so they can think what they want, but you know what's really going on.

Petunia844 · August 2011

Oh my goodness do I get this a lot! I'm only 5'3" with a pretty short torso and 24 weeks...who knows if my height has to do with it or if I just have a big baby...but I've had multiple people ask if I'm SURE I only have one baby in there... really?! I just try to let it roll off...but soon I might have to start coming up w/ a snappy response. Haha.

2gr8pits · August 2011

Opposite here...from the people that know me, I am still getting "where is the baby?" and people that don't know me and I mention it to I have to argue with them. The grass is always greener on the other side I guess. But my line is usually "Seriously why would I lie" said in a snarky voice....

Barbara&Joseph · August 2011

I'm only 16 weeks and my doctor said that my uterus is already a few inches bigger than he expected.

OurJellybean · August 2011

people always compare and make stupid comments. I can see how that would get annoying. Im 24 weeks and i still get comments from people "your 24 weeks?? wow you dont even look pregnant.. are u sure?" and i even get "well wait till the second trimester it will be much better" Im almost in the third trimester!! It makes me self concious, just im sure the oppostite comments would. I wish people would shut their mouth sometimes lol

RosnyBelinda · August 2011

I got the opposite type of comments with my first pregnancy. I was so small that people still jokingly say I was never pregnant with my son. But my SIL recently had her second child. Her belly was huge. I mean there was no missing it. She got all sorts of comments from people she knew and from random strangers. Some even asked if she was having twins or triplets. She shut them all up by responding "I'm not pregnant!" It was funny hearing how she turned the whole situation into a joke rather than letting them get to her and it shut them up in the process. I like your response "I'm growing a baby"

alaratta1 · August 2011

I like doing the long uncomfortable stare to people when they are rude. I don't say anything, don't smile, I just stare. I look at them until they realize that they have been rude.