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Success after IF
Ladies, I am desperate for "me" time
There is so much I need/want to do, and I am so overwhelmed by trying to figure out when/how to do it. haven't had my hair cut since March, I have a gift certificate for a pedicure at a fancy spa yet I haven't had a pedi since the June GTG, the house is filthy, my husband and I haven't had a date night in ages, the yard needs weeding/mowing, etc. It's just too much to maintain when we're taking care of 3 toddlers, 1 dog, 1 cat, and 1 big house & yard. If we had the money I'd hire a cleaning lady and a gardener and a dog walker. My husband is about to get a raise so I'm hoping we can at least get a cleaning lady. I just don't know how to fit everything in that I need/want to do. I hate always feeling behind.
On the plus side, I've been doing great with my exercise plan. I signed up for a 4 mile race on labor day weekend and all summer have been attending a Saturday morning training program. So I guess that's been my main "me" time this summer. Maybe once that program is over I can find a way to do some of the other stuff I want to do. I've lost at least 12 pounds on my new diet/exercise program and really want some new clothes too!
I welcome any tips you have for trying to squeeze in more me time...
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Re: Ladies, I am desperate for "me" time
I know the feeling and I only have 1 can not imagine 3.
I started taking "me" sundays when D turned 1. And I spend at least 3-4 hours out of the house or doing something I need to do. It is Daddy day around here for those few hours. It really helps and for dad and son bonding it is good too.
As for nights out. Have you asked anyone if they would be willing to spend the night at your house? You will be surprised who says yes! Even if it is after the kids have all gone to bed and you sneak out for a little date night once every 3 months, it helps with sanity.
The housework and chores will get done. Take care of you right now!
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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I'm not sure how you do it...i struggle with the same things with just one kiddo!
The house being a mess makes me depressed and makes everything else worse!...so that is my current task that I'm undertaking...trying to set up good habits to keep it in decent shape.
Find a sitter to come in! Krissy is right, even if it is for after the kiddos go to bed, at least you and your DH can get out! Do you have family nearby? are they ever willing to do a sleepover? or is it too tough with the three of them? Jones is sleeping over at his Nana and pap's house tomorrow night while we go horseback riding for my birthday...and hopefully I can figure out how to sleep in saturday morning!
My me time tends to be sitting on the couch after DS goes to bed and reading for a bit...but I do really miss wandering around the stores for a few hours or going out.
And way to go with the exercise and weight loss! That's awesome!!!!!!!
First of all, congrats on your weight loss and exercise regime! That must make you feel good!
Parenting twins is hard - I can't imagine triplets. I also feel very overwhelmed at times. I feel like I'm always missing something and in my strive to be a perfect mom (which is impossible, I realize), I feel like I've lost my sense of self.
Despite that, I can tell you what I've done that helps me a bit. We have a cleaning lady and if you can get one, go for it! It's worth every penny! Our house would be a disaster area without her. I also get massages and pedicures periodically. It helps me to decompress. I do things like this in the evenings when my husband is home.
Hope you are able to get some time for yourself soon! You deserve it!
sending hugs! i think this is so so common among moms of babies or toddlers. i think a big part of how i stay sane is just to accept that this is the norm for working moms (and probably SAHMs too). realizing that it's normal and that it's not due to me mismanaging things helps me to not stress as much about it. and i try to remind myself that in addition to it being normal, it's also temporary. they will grow up (too) fast and times will change.
of course i have no experience being a mommy of multiples, so i'm sure that you're dealing with challenges i can't imagine! i agree with all PPs about trying to get a little date time even if it's after the LOs go to bed. and congrats on losing weight with your exercise program, good for you!