I wish I was having a baby shower

DEBBIE33CASEY · August 2011

I'm fully aware that it's gift grabby. I can't help it, I want the gifts And I had so much fun having everyone together, celebrating the new baby... *sigh* I just really want that again.

We got all pink stuff with DD; pink stroller, infant seat, boppy, bouncy chair, swing, etc. Everything pink. Not that I don't want to not put my boy in pink chairs at home but it's going to get expensive buying a new infant seat and maybe stroller (we have a travel system that we used for DD- it's beautiful, but pink and floral.) And new cribsheets, and all the clothes we need... ugh, we really don't have a lot of extra $ lying around. I would never throw my own shower just to have one so I guess I am just venting. My shower for DD was so much fun and so special that I just really want to do it again!

FWIW I'm one of those people who thinks there should be a shower for each baby Even if it's just celebrating new life and doesn't involve gifts! But unfortunately that's not common practice amongst my family/friends.

Sascha3 · August 2011

DEBBIE33CASEY:

I'm fully aware that it's gift grabby. I can't help it, I want the gifts And I had so much fun having everyone together, celebrating the new baby... *sigh* I just really want that again.

We got all pink stuff with DD; pink stroller, infant seat, boppy, bouncy chair, swing, etc. Everything pink. Not that I don't want to not put my boy in pink chairs at home but it's going to get expensive buying a new infant seat and maybe stroller (we have a travel system that we used for DD- it's beautiful, but pink and floral.) And new cribsheets, and all the clothes we need... ugh, we really don't have a lot of extra $ lying around. I would never throw my own shower just to have one so I guess I am just venting. My shower for DD was so much fun and so special that I just really want to do it again!

FWIW I'm one of those people who thinks there should be a shower for each baby Even if it's just celebrating new life and doesn't involve gifts! But unfortunately that's not common practice amongst my family/friends.

Edit: oops...forgot to type my answer. I tend to agree, more for the celebration of life, and having everyone get together. It is so nice having a reason to get friends and family all in one place! My husband's sisters have showers for each kid, so I know they do not think it's bad etiquette:)

katiew83 · August 2011

Maybe you could throw a shower for your daughter---a big sister shower to celebrate that she is getting a brother. :-) People could bring her things for her little brother and she could learn all about being a sister. AND you'd get a little party!

m1ssl1ss · August 2011

just do it! i wouldn't hesitate if my second was the opposite sex!

DEBBIE33CASEY · August 2011

m1ssl1ss:
just do it! i wouldn't hesitate if my second was the opposite sex!

I'd have to ask someone to throw it for me and I'd just feel weird about that.

Cinco · August 2011

My friend threw us a bbq for #2. We didn't get a ton of stuff, but lots of cute boy clothes

We are out of luck this time, b/c we gave everything away to friends. Oops! I don't mind shopping too much

I'm also kind of hoping maybe our closer family members, like our parents, will think of our new little one round Christmas time. If not, Santa will!

MrsLeanna · August 2011

I'm very excited that I'm having a shower this time around! And it is common amongst my family and friends so no one would think twice about it. Do you have any family members that you could bring it up to without it seeming weird?

Otherwise after the baby is born you could have a small get together.

Kflie83 · August 2011

Maybe you can get your mom to throw you one! I'm so glad a friend stepped up and is throwing me one. I agree, you should get one for each child!

angels among us · August 2011

I am in the same boat. I have 3 boys and I think this one is a girl. I don't find out till next week though. You could always think of some people who couldn't make it to the first one. A close friend might be willing to do it then. My Mil was at my first one but none of her family was. I may be able to ask for one for that side if it is a girl. Although my last one was supposed to be a girl and is all boy:) Oh well

DEBBIE33CASEY · August 2011

You ladies are right- I could mention it to my mom just to test the waters and see what she says. I hate asking for a shower but I think it's a big deal to have a baby! People only experience it a small amount of times. I just have never been to a baby shower for someone's 2nd baby so I might feel weird being the recipient of one (just worried what some people would think).

MrsLeanna · August 2011

DEBBIE33CASEY:
You ladies are right- I could mention it to my mom just to test the waters and see what she says. I hate asking for a shower but I think it's a big deal to have a baby! People only experience it a small amount of times. I just have never been to a baby shower for someone's 2nd baby so I might feel weird being the recipient of one (just worried what some people would think).

If anyone had a problem then they just wouldn't need to come!

twocents6708 · August 2011

I threw a shower for my SIL when she was having her second and it was the opposite gender. And my niece and nephew are only 15 months apart. I see no problem with having a shower for a second child and have attended several baby "sprinkles."

DEBBIE33CASEY · August 2011

MrsLeanna:

DEBBIE33CASEY:
You ladies are right- I could mention it to my mom just to test the waters and see what she says. I hate asking for a shower but I think it's a big deal to have a baby! People only experience it a small amount of times. I just have never been to a baby shower for someone's 2nd baby so I might feel weird being the recipient of one (just worried what some people would think).

If anyone had a problem then they just wouldn't need to come!

very true!

mrs.larry · August 2011

I'm throwing one for my friend this time around and doing all the things that I kind of wanted, but couldn't ask for at my own shower. like the sweet decorations and cute cake and all that.

don't get me wrong my showers were awesome but you know, it's different if you are doing it yourself. and I'm sure there will be things that *she* wants but feels like she can't ask for. silly isn't it?

Anyway she offered to throw me one too but I feel strange since it's another boy so we're going to do a small ladies-only brunch instead. I think that'll be really nice.

Annya26 · August 2011

In my circle it would be very strange to have a shower for a second child - although I wish it weren't! I love them! I love going to them, I love shopping for baby gifts and can't wait to have my own and celebrate the little guy on the way.

If you think it might not be well recieved then maybe you could throw a big "meet the baby" party afterward. I'm sure people would be excited to welcome your new addition with you, and would likely bring gifts for your little one.

Raven0227 · August 2011

Well, round these parts it's completely fine to have a 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc. shower. Heck, we'll probably end up with three showers (both of our jobs and then one hosted by friends). So, I agree with PPs, see what your mom says or maybe have DH mention it to MIL (not sure of the relationship there, so that may be a no go).

I made mention of not having a shower if this LO was a girl, but two of my closer friends wouldn't hear of it. One said, "Even if it was a girl, she'd need new clothes and her own celebration."

And I also agree, if no one offers or agrees to host a shower than I think you should definitely have a "Welcome baby to the world/Meet the baby" party.

Misha14 · August 2011

katiew83:
Maybe you could throw a shower for your daughter---a big sister shower to celebrate that she is getting a brother. :-) People could bring her things for her little brother and she could learn all about being a sister. AND you'd get a little party!

That's a really cute idea!

PhoxySteph · August 2011

Misha14:
katiew83:
Maybe you could throw a shower for your daughter---a big sister shower to celebrate that she is getting a brother. :-) People could bring her things for her little brother and she could learn all about being a sister. AND you'd get a little party!
That's a really cute idea!

We did this with my 2nd DD. My oldest DD LOVED it! I have only had one baby shower and that was with my 2nd DD.

We are having one for this one because 1) Its a boy Smile and 2) this is MH's first baby. I think he needs to expierence it all! Big Smile

I think you should go ahead and have one! Especially since it is a boy!

Best of luck!

LutzWifey · August 2011

I definitely agree that there should be a shower for each baby, I've thrown a few for second babies myself and am actually getting ready to throw one for a coworker who is in your situation (different sex.) I won't be having a shower at all to my knowledge as no one has offered, and this is my first. Stinks, but like you I am not one to throw one for myself. Hope someone steps in there for you!

Free2Sing · August 2011

Exact reason why we're getting the expensive stuff in gender neutral colors! Although, in my area, it's very common to have one or more showers for the 2nd baby- even if it's the same sex. It's taking some getting used to! But you could always just move here!

tonifrelke · August 2011

well my SIL had one for each gender and barley 2 years apart. i think it should be fine if you had two showers. you could always get crafty and cover the pink with blue fabric if you or family sews. i also have a friend who knows these places where u bring in things that dont fit or you dont use and trade it for other things that other people didnt want or use for there babies. im a bargain shopper and any thing i dont get for shower or christmas ill look for at thrift stores or the swap-meet. i saw a entire brand new bed room set for only $250 there ... to bad i didnt know i was pregnant then... im sure you could even throw ur own lil shower and do a potluck as well... hope some ideas help good luck with the shower

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