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NPR - WWYD re move for DH's job (long)

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This might be a moot question since nothing has really happened yet... but I am a compulsive overthinker so here goes anyway.  We live in SoCal, I am the primary breadwinner in our family and DH has been working hard to get a business off the ground for the past year.  Its been pretty stressful, money has been really tight.  He sent a resume to a company in his field in Seattle and they want to do a second phone interview!!  The next step would be flying him out for an inperson interview. The salary would be *much* more than he makes now, which would take a lot of pressure off of me and he would get full benefits, which obviously he doesn't have now.  It would also be steady income, which is pretty appealing after the up and down we've had this past year.  I'm an attorney with 11 years of experience, so feel confident that even in this crap market I could find *something* decent, so I am relatively portable.  My entire extended family lives in WA, which is part of the reason he even considered it.  We're renting out the only property we own here and can cover the mortgage with rent, so that's not an issue. 

The cons - we LOVE where we live.  We'd have to break our lease on the house we're renting... so that could be a problem.  But its in a really desirable area so they might be able to rent it out again quickly and mitigate the amount we'd be responsible for.  Although we have no family here, we have an extended network of great friends and would really, really miss them.  We've built a life here for the past 10 years and it might be really hard to pick up and move and start over.  We'd be farther from his family (they're in New Mexico and Northern Cal.) but we have to travel to see them anyway.  And the weather.... obviously from SoCal to Seattle is a huge change.  I grew up there but haven't lived there for 15 years, so I'm not sure how I would do with that.  Although I have a lot of family there, there are no retired grandparents nearby so we wouldn't have the luxury of saying, hey mom, come over and watch T for us. I'm rambling!  To get to the point, what factors would you ladies consider in making this decision?  Are we crazy for even considering it?    

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Re: NPR - WWYD re move for DH's job (long)

  • PeskyPesky member
    I think you need to decide long-term how you want to live and lifestyle you and your DH see you guys having individually and together.   I'd probably start having the conversations now so you don't have to rush a decision if it comes down but also that might determine for you all where he applies again.  FWIW, I considered Seattle when we decided to move from SoCal and we ended up nixing it after visiting there in October.  Just didn't seem us.  We ended up moving to CO where DH had some distant family but that was it and it has suited us much more because it is more the life and lifestyle we envisioned for us and our children.


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    That's a tough decision as both options are really great. I agree about looking to your long term goals and seeing which one fits better.

     Good luck!

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  • BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member

    Ohh.. tough call.

    How does DH feel about it?  Would he be happy with the job and would it help his career future?  Could he see himself working there for the next 5-10 years?  I think that is a larger factor than just the social aspects of a move.  It could be fun adventure for your family, and the kids are young enough not to make it too difficult to leave their friends, etc.

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  • ateytelbateytelb
    I think it's best to wait until he is done with his 2d interview and has the offer in place, and then start the decision-making process.
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  • OscarQOscarQ member

    We relocated from NYC to DE a few years ago after really thinking about how we wanted to live and raise our family.  That drove everything so I agree with the PP who suggested that you really dig into that issue and base your decision on it.  Everything else is logistics.  Good luck!

    And no, you aren't crazy for considering it.  I'm a planner as well so I'd be trying to figure out how it would work at this stage in the process too.

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