MIL is terminally ill :(

SunMoon&Stars · August 2011

I will try this short because I'm on the iphone at work. My poor MIL has had problems for a while now. She had surgery for bone cancer two years ago, was offered chemo but refused. Last week BIL found her listless and weak, took her to the hospital where they diagnosed an obstruction in one if her ureters ( she has only one functioning kidney). The obstruction was surgically removed and she was told she'd need dialysis.

DH and I live six hours away, and it's hard to get accurate info from the locally living family members ( or from her due to the language barrier) but BIL did say she was on renal failure. I was just hoping it was early stage and she'd comply with her dialysis and be OK.

On Sunday BIL called and informed us that the obstruction they removed had been biopsied and came back positive. On that day they gave her a prognosis of two more months to live. I cried for the rest of the day.

MIL is so excited about this baby, I think particularly because it's a girl, which she wanted but never had. I was looking forward to BabehSM&S having a relationship with her grandma. My own mom too, of course, but she's 800 miles away and dealing with my sick father. Just two weeks ago, MIL sent a card to the baby and signed it "obachan" which is Japanese for "grandma".

Yesterday, they upgraded the prognosis to six months, but still This sucks most of all for DH. I know he wants to be down there in FL with her, but I'm due to have this baby any time now, and I have no one else except my doula for support. We'll drive there as soon as she's old enough for car travel, that's all we can do. But it breaks my heart that BabehSM&S will probably not remember her obachan:((

I guess that wasn't really short:( Thanks for listening

SunMoon&Stars · August 2011

Oh, one other thing..... I'm keeping this off Facebook, so if you're my FB friend, please don't say anything except by PM...... thanks

ondjima · August 2011

This is utterly heartbreaking. I am so sorry for you and the rest of your family. T&P coming your way.

patchen30 · August 2011

I'm so sorry

Big ((hugs)).

MyHusbandMyHero · August 2011

I am so sorry! This is horrible -- my grandfather got really sick when my cousins kids were really young, so when he vistited soon before my grandfather died, he video tapedvthe whole thing -- it's sad they won't know him and you baby might not know grandma but I say do as much as you can like recordable books and video tapes -- I am so sorry

07may07 · August 2011

I am so sorry. T&Ps for your family.

(((HUGS)))

GnomeLuv · August 2011

I am SO SO sorry! Lots of hugs to you and your family!!

My grandpa passed away shortly after I was born, I was the first and only grandchild he ever got to meet. While he was still around he spent any moment he could with me and the family took a bazillion pictures which I now have. The best thing that my family did while growing up and still do to this day is tell me stories about my grandpa. It's because of these family stories & memories that I feel like I know him and have a special bond with him even though I was too young to remember him. This is something that you and your husband can do for your daughter and her obachan.

(((HUGS)))

scooterq · August 2011

Oh I am so so sorry!!! Huge ((hugs)) to you and DH.

Sunshine05 · August 2011

I'm so sorry. I hope she is still able to spend some quality time with your little one here. I know it won't be as long as you had hoped for, but take lots of pictures and videos and enjoy your time together. I even bought those recordable storybooks from Hallmark to have my mom record for our little one.

She wasn't supposed to see last Christmas but seems to have gotten a second wind with all the excitement of my pregnancy, something she had been praying for for years. I'm afraid once the baby is here that she will feel her mission is over and will leave us, so I'm going to try to do everything I can while she's still here. Big hugs to you!