So, we've decided to keep the name(s) we've selected a secret from everyone for a few reasons. We want something to be a surprise when the baby comes, want the freedom to change our mind, and also we're both not a fan of others referring to our baby by her name while she's still a fetus. So--we're not telling anyone the name.
But--I was at brunch with girlfriends on Saturday, and we started talking about baby names and I said we weren't telling. Then, my close friend says that if she has a girl, she wants to name her--and then literally says the name we've picked--first AND middle name! I was like, seriously?!?
Now, I feel like since I am pregnant and she is not (she even said she isn't sure if she wants to have kids) AND that we had actually already picked the name out, that we can still have the name. But my question is--should I tell my friend the situation so she doesn't think I stole it? I just feel awkward about it now, but we love the name and aren't going to give it up. Any thoughts??
Re: S/O: Is this what I get for keeping it a secret? (Baby name related)
I would tell your friend the situation. She'll likely appreciate your honesty and an upfront approach should help prevent drama down the road. I know there are a lot of differing opinions as to whether or not you can actually "steal" a name, but the fact of the matter remains, pregnant or not, people feel they can call dibs on names of particular importance to them. You don't have to agree but if you want to prevent any hard feelings with your friend down the road it's best to have an open and honest conversation with her now.
Agreed.
You don't want to ruin your special time over a petty fight with a friend.
You could say something if you feel it's really necessary, but no matter what it's your chosen name anyway. So even if your friend makes an issue of it, you should not worry that she will think you "stole" the name.