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S/O: Is this what I get for keeping it a secret? (Baby name related)

courtney676courtney676 member
in January 2012 Moms

So, we've decided to keep the name(s) we've selected a secret from everyone for a few reasons. We want something to be a surprise when the baby comes, want the freedom to change our mind, and also we're both not a fan of others referring to our baby by her name while she's still a fetus. So--we're not telling anyone the name.

But--I was at brunch with girlfriends on Saturday, and we started talking about baby names and I said we weren't telling. Then, my close friend says that if she has a girl, she wants to name her--and then literally says the name we've picked--first AND middle name! I was like, seriously?!?

Now, I feel like since I am pregnant and she is not (she even said she isn't sure if she wants to have kids) AND that we had actually already picked the name out, that we can still have the name. But my question is--should I tell my friend the situation so she doesn't think I stole it? I just feel awkward about it now, but we love the name and aren't going to give it up. Any thoughts??

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Re: S/O: Is this what I get for keeping it a secret? (Baby name related)

  • rachoochoo2rachoochoo2 member
    I think I would say something to her otherwise it's going to be her going around telling everyone that you stole the name from her.
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  • lyonsworthlyonsworth member

    I would tell your friend the situation. She'll likely appreciate your honesty and an upfront approach should help prevent drama down the road.  I know there are a lot of differing opinions as to whether or not you can actually "steal" a name, but the fact of the matter remains, pregnant or not, people feel they can call dibs on names of particular importance to them. You don't have to agree but if you want to prevent any hard feelings with your friend down the road it's best to have an open and honest conversation with her now. 

     


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  • jessmarie_djessmarie_d

    imagerachoochoo2:
    I think I would say something to her otherwise it's going to be her going around telling everyone that you stole the name from her.

    Agreed.

    You don't want to ruin your special time over a petty fight with a friend.

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  • Cristal604Cristal604

    You could say something if you feel it's really necessary, but no matter what it's your chosen name anyway.  So even if your friend makes an issue of it, you should not worry that she will think you "stole" the name. 

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  • mandarodmandarod
    If you are close friends, I'd say something to her.
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  • pharmacygirlpharmacygirl
    My sister just did this to me this weekend. I've always loved her middle name and was debating on using it. I hadn't told her yet cause I didn't want to be committed to it and I'm team green so it may not even matter. Well she's ttc now and told me if she has a girl she's naming her after her middle name. I was like oh well. I guess it's out of the question now. However if I was dead set I would have said something.
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  • missesBADmissesBAD member
    i would tell her
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  • MAMAxBMAMAxB member
    This is why I tell everyone our names :) haha
    Then again, I have my next 18 children's names picked out...
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  • courtney676courtney676 member
    Thanks for the help and advice! I told her, and she was totally great about it. Thought it was funny I had even worried about it, but you never know...:) Happy to have that out of the way!!
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