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Feeling like a brat but :( (pg mentioned)

yogiwannabmomyogiwannabmom
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So my Dh's cousin is due in a few weeks. When she's was about 8wks along she sent me a text telling me and saying "how cool would it be to have a little cousin around the same age, hint hint". Well low and behold not too much later I found out we were expecting. Our baby would have been almost two months to the day younger than hers.  I never got a chance to share our happy news with her. Sofast forward to the week we're on vacation. I get a text from her asking DH to call her because she has to "ask him something". We're all Catholic, she's due in a couple of weeks, I know what it is.....sure enough they talked last night and she asked DH to be her baby's Godfather. I want to be happy for him, I know it's a special thing, they grew up together, very close and to be honesty I have gotten closer to her before anyone else in his family. It hurts. I dunno why. I was supposed to make DH a real father, we were supposed to have that baby so close in age to this one. This really set me back a peg in my healing....just sucks. Thanks for listening.
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  • 1220winterbride1220winterbride member
    i'm so sorry.

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  • meeko1985meeko1985
    I agree with you.  It would make me feel "unsettled" for lack of a better word too... and disappointed with the whole situation.  How does your DH feel about it?

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  • yogiwannabmomyogiwannabmom

    imagemeeko1985:
    I agree with you.  It would make me feel "unsettled" for lack of a better word too... and disappointed with the whole situation.  How does your DH feel about it?

    Unsettled is a great word, I can't really discribe it. I mean DH is happy in a way because they're so close. They grew up more like siblings but he get's that I'm sad....but I don't think he gets the connection or for instance is the Christening falls right around our EDD that I couldn't come. I don't think he gets why I'm so upset. But like he said "what, could I have said no"?

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  • Gator687Gator687 member
    I am so sorry. ((hugs))
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  • TapatioTapatio
    You are NOT being a brat! I completely understand how you feel. I always feel the same way when I see my DH play with his nephew. Our kids would have been 1 month apart. I get slightly sad and jealous because I think that DH should be playing with our kid and not someone else's. You're not alone in how you feel ((big hugs)).
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  • amyrdz522amyrdz522
    I'm sorry :-( ((hugs))
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  • sun&shinesun&shine
    .:hugs:. I'm very sorry
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    I'm so sorry ((hugs))
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  • yogiwannabmomyogiwannabmom
    Thanks for the kind words ladies. This really just really doesn't feel right to me and I wish it did.
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