Hi everyone, I'm Ali.
I am a 29 y.o. single mom of two boys (ages 4.5. and 3). The reason I came to this board is because of my older son, Sebastian.
Sebastian was born 7 wks early because I had HELLP syndrome. He was your typical preemie in that he met milestones later than your average kid. He didn't walk til he was 15 or 16 months old. Thankfully at about 20 months he saw a developmental pedi who told me he was completely normal. I was thrilled because something always seemed a bit "off" to me.
Ok, so why am I here NOW? Well, at the age of 4.5 (he'll be 5 in February) Sebastian *refuses* to poop in the toilet. He has severe anxiety issues that he is seeing a child psychitrist for. Apparently, Sebastian is a control freak. He gets in trouble at pre-school several times a week and now we are at the point where they are thinking about kicking him out. He constantly lies about things, says things he KNOWS are wrong/bad. No amount of talking will get through to him. I have tried everything that I can think of to "straighten" him out.
On the flip side, Sebastain is HIGHLY intelligent (told to us by both his doctor and his pre-school teachers) and can be the most loving, sweet child you could imagine.
I am utterly and completely at my wits end. My ex-h blames me for the entire problem because I wouldn't stay in our crappy marriage. I, at this point, am terrified that there is "something" (I don't know what this something is though) wrong with my son. I cry about this more times than I care to admit, it is the #1 source of stress in my life. *I* have even seen a counselor because of this whole mess.
I love my son more than anything and I am so scared for his future if his behavior continues down this path (I don't want him to be THAT kid in kindergarten).
So, hi. If I am in the wrong place, please let me know.