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I need advise on how and when to tell a close friend who is dealing with IF about our BFP. I suspect she will have an negative response to it but how can I not tell her? Any thoughts or advise would be great.
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  • JennPierogJennPierog member
    Just tell her in private and in person. Make sure you do it before she finds out from someone else. Let her have space and process. I'm sure she will be happy for you and excited but she just needs to get her feelings in check before she can be there for you. Good Luck.





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  • diego299diego299 member

    imageJennPierog:
    Just tell her in private and in person. Make sure you do it before she finds out from someone else. Let her have space and process. I'm sure she will be happy for you and excited but she just needs to get her feelings in check before she can be there for you. Good Luck.

     

    This exactly.




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  • ladychicagoladychicago member

    See...  I think it totally depends on the person - but when I was in the trenches, I did NOT like in-person announcements, even if they were private.    Over the phone or e-mail was best, because I needed time to react honestly and not put up a fake happy/strong face for the person.    But you know your friend, and so you probably know what method is best.   

    I always acknowledge that I know the news is tough to hear, and that I fully appreciate and honor any need the person may have to take some time away/get some space from me.      You are a good friend for thinking about it, and that in and of itself, means a lot!    

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  • Sunshine05Sunshine05 member
    Ditto, LC.  I would much prefer to find out through email.  My friends never picked up on that and I always got them on the phone.  It sucks because I have to try to hold back tears or mask the fact that I'm crying.  In person would have sucked for me big-time. 
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