Is it weird to announce your pregnancy at 6 weeks?

MissyNWill · August 2011

over one hundred of you looked at my post. Just wanted to know if any of you are as horrified as I am.

nawlinsgrl · August 2011

All I have to say is, unless you take the time to read this carefully and see the other post, it comes off as you asking about announcing YOUR pregnancy, which as I assume you know by now, having posted significantly more than I, would not come off all that great on the IF board.

Mrkyrain · August 2011

I don't think it's strange to announce your pregnancy as much as naive. I think for people that get pregnant easily and have never known anyone who has had a loss, they are just excited and assume everything will be fine. I can understand why it would be upsetting to you.

SweetDahlia · August 2011

From someone who has had two losses both at 10 weeks I would never ever announce at 6 weeks, or even 12 weeks at this point.

6 weeks is very early. I am always leary when I hear anyone I hear people telling everyone that early.

kbrodie06 · August 2011

When I was pregnant the first time with my now 3 year old, I told a good amount of people at 7 weeks due to my mom being in town. Now after 2 miscarriages at almost 7 weeks, no way would I do that. I would wait probably until 14 weeks or so.

Kristin

kaneki413 · August 2011

I wouldn't be necessarily "horrified" if my relative announced that. Some people's excitement sometimes can't be held in, and they just want to share as soon as they get good news. I bet she just doesn't realize how delicate of a situation it is..

Faith722 · August 2011

I can think of 2 friends who have announced before they even made a doctor's appt. They were likely less than 6 weeks.

Knowing what I know now, I think it's nuts to do that. But, for those who are naive and think positive HPT always means a healthy baby, it probably seems normal.

heathergirl67 · August 2011

Also, there's a lot of people who feel that they would want their friends and family to know, even if they were to lose the baby. Just to have loved ones who can be there for them during a difficult time. Just as they would want to share their sorrow, they want to share their joy.

Delta04 · August 2011

I think it is definitely a personal decision. I have certainly known people to do it. I have never been pregnant in my entire life and I think I would wait to tell the world.

mandalinn25 · August 2011

Those of us who are open about our IF process really have no choice but to tell early. My whole family and all of my friends know when I am having procedures done/etc.....so they would know when I find out. It is what it is......

naybird · August 2011

I had a "friend" announce her pregnancy when the pee stick got the second line. It was all over facebook, and she was telling the world.

As for me, it's not something I would do, especially after having a 14 week miscarriage.

reb259 · August 2011

heathergirl67:
Also, there's a lot of people who feel that they would want their friends and family to know, even if they were to lose the baby. Just to have loved ones who can be there for them during a difficult time. Just as they would want to share their sorrow, they want to share their joy.

I agree with this! Yes

KatrinaLoves · August 2011

reb259:
heathergirl67:
Also, there's a lot of people who feel that they would want their friends and family to know, even if they were to lose the baby. Just to have loved ones who can be there for them during a difficult time. Just as they would want to share their sorrow, they want to share their joy.

I agree with this!

I'll 3rd this. I've only been pregnant once, about 5 months after we started TTC. I told the whole world RIGHT AWAY. Because hey, I was 20 and excited, and had no idea what the risks were. We miscarried at about 6 weeks, and un-telling everyone was a nightmare.

We'll be doing IVF this fall, and while I plan on announcing around 12 weeks, I won't hate myself if I cave and tell sooner.

We had an adoption we had been working on for 14 months fall through weeks before we were hoping to travel. Should we not have told people? Part of me wishes we hadn't, but I sure the heck needed the support.

Sometimes, telling people in spite of the risk is still appropriate. If anything, some women who miscarry will need the support of people knowing, far more than they'd need it if the baby was carried to term.

A life is a life, no matter how small. Just because something might go wrong, doesn't mean the life shouldn't be acknowledged.
I'm always a little worried for those friends of mine who announce very early on, but I'm always more excited than anything. More power to them!

As for me, I'd rather wait until 12 weeks... but I can definitely see both sides.

I'll also add that I, personally, don't find friends announcing their early pregnancy to me to be offensive or insensitive. After struggling for 5 years with infertility, I've had two of my best friends put off telling me about their pregnancies for fear of hurting me - lunacy! I was very hurt that I wasn't one of the first to know!

So, to each their own... :-)

Stretchad · August 2011

I have lost one pregnancy at 16 weeks. My family has been aware of the trials and tribulations I've gone through ever since then. So if I got a BFP, I would definitely tell my parents, MIL and sister. Because if I lost a baby again, I'd need them to scoop me up and make sure I don't crack and fall into pieces. Both DH and I might end up in the crazy house if that happens again.

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