TTC After a Loss

TTC break after this cycle

After a long and tearful conversation, DH and i decided that if we don't get a BFP this cycle, we will be taking a TTC break for a few months.

I don't like the decision, but I do know that it is what is best. It also gives us time to save up for an IUI which will be our next step.

 

Why is this so hard?


BFP#1 {Cashew} - 9.19.09 EDD 5.26.10
The day you first lay in my arms, you made my life complete.
Aurora Rose born sleeping at 35w on 4-21-10
BFP#2 {Almond} - 2.1.11 EDD 10.12.11 C/P 2.11.11

Re: TTC break after this cycle

  • *huge hugs* Lovey!  I want to believe with all my heart that "there is a time and season for everything...."...but it just isn't fair at all!  FX this is your cycle and you won't have to take a break!!!
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  • I'm so sorry. I hate that you guys even had to have that conversation. Sending you big ((hugs)) and keeping everything crossed that you get a BFP this cycle.

    I hate that life is so unfair.

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    BFP #2 01/14/11. EDD 09/25/11. Missed m/c 02/18/11. D&C 02/24/11. }Dustin{
    TTA for 18 months and then TTC for 12 months
    BFP #3 08/18/13. EDD 04/30/14. Missed m/c 09/25/13. D&C 09/26/13. }Daylin{
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  • ((big hugs)) FX for you this cycle. I know this has to be hard for you. I am so sorry.
  • Big ::HUGS:: hon.  I'm sorry it's gotten to this point for you.  Fx that this is your cycle!! 

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  • I'm so sorry you had to have that conversation. I hope this is your cycle!
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  • FX for this cycle! I am sorry...I know, it shouldn't have to be so damn hard. :(
    Chemical Pregnancy 2001, Married 8/8/09, TTC April 2011, BFP 5/8/11, Missed M/C @ 9wk5d, D&C 6/21/11 BFP 11/13/11 Chase Everett born at 29wks 0 days on 5/7/12 at 2 lbs 14 oz, 14 1/2 inches long.
  • ((big big hugs)) I am sorry hon. I have everything crossed that this is your cycle.
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  • My heart breaks with you...I know with each month that goes by it just feels like time wasted.  But sometimes a break is the best.  I hope it gives you a chance to focus on other important things, and you will find a little bit of peace.  I hope your next steps give you what you deserve so badly--a little brother or sister for sweet Aurora.

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  • I can understand how hard that conversation was to have. I'm sending you big hugs and extra prayers for a BFP!

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  • I am so sorry that you had to make this decision.  I am crossing all my fingers and toes that this is your cycle and hence that no break is necessary!!  Big ((hugs)) to you!
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  • ((hugs)) I'm going to share a quote with you a lady on 3T gave me. I hope you find comfort in it as I did. "Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be.? Don't think that you've lost time.? It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now.? And now is right on time." - Asha Tyson I hope this cycle brings you to "now".
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  • FX that this is your cycle, sending a big hug your way.  I'm so sorry this is all so difficult.
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  • I'm sorry to hear that things aren't going well. At least it won't be forever, and it will give you and your DH time to focus on yourselves instead of stressing on TTC. I hope things start looking up soon :)

    {hugs} 

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    I'm so sorry. I hate that you guys even had to have that conversation. Sending you big ((hugs)) and keeping everything crossed that you get a BFP this cycle.

    I hate that life is so unfair.

    all of this. big, big (((hugs)))

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  • I'm so sorry to hear this. I can imagine how difficult this decision was for you to come to and I hope you know that we're here to give you the support that you need. ((hugs))
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  • ((huge hugs)) I am keeping everything crossed that this is your cycle!
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  • ((BIG SQUISHY HUGS)).  It is a hard thing to deal with.  Not ifs, ands or buts about it. 

    Thinking of you and hoping that you do get a BFP so that you won't need the IUI. 

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  • I'm so sorry for your heartache.  All my T&P's to you!!!!

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  • I'm sorry, FX this is your cycle! Lots of hugs!
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  • FX that this is your cycle.
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  • ((hugs)) I hope this is your cycle. 
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  • *huge hugs* I know it isn't easy, and I'm crossing everything I have for you this month. Thoughts and prayers babe, if you need anything please feel free to pm me.
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  • I am so sorry that you and DH had to make that decision.  I have everything crossed for you that you get a BFP this cycle and don't need to proceed to IUI. 

    ((HUGS)))

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  • I am sorry that you may have to take a TTC break. Huge hugs and lots of hope that you get the BFP this month.
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  • Oh hun I am so so sorry.  I hope this break will help you both see things clearer.  Please stick around, I sure will miss you.  Sending you tons of love.  *hugs*
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  • hugs! i hope this cycle is the one!
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  • ((BIG HUGS))

    I'm crossing my fingers and toes that you won't need to go on break because you'll get your BFP! 

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  • im so sorry. i hope you get a bfp this cycle and if you don't i hope you can find something to make your time off not so hard. iui is our next step too. ((hugs))

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    lost both heartbeats and emergency d&c at 7 weeks
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  • oh Cashews, I can imagine that was a very hard discussion and decision. I hope you get your bfp this cycle and dont have to take a small break. (((hugs)))

    BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework

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    BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12  Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012

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  • I'm right there with you Cashews. I'm on a TTC break right now and as much as it sucks to feel like I'm putting it on hold, I need it for my sanity. The truth is after the initial heartache, I feel good now. You're making a big decision so I'm wishing you the best of luck hun! ((big hugs)).
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    5/22/12...2nd Betas- 207, P4 6.1 (MC confirmed)
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