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mpotts09
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How many to invite??
mpotts09
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How many people is too many at a shower?? I made a list of 50...but I know some of them won't show up bc of them living far away. I'm guessing 30-40 people maybe? Is that too many?? What do you think?
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Re: How many to invite??
I think that is about normal...everyone has different sized families and that plays into it a lot!
Breastfeeding and pregnant!
My mother, mother-in-law and sister-in-law are hosting my shower and we opted to have just one since our families get along so great... Between our big families, family friends and a few of my friends... the list is over 80.
Same thing happened at my Bridal shower and it still turned out great.
But I agree with asking the hostess because it all depends on what type of place you have it in, plus the budget.
I think it comes down to this....
Let's say you have a huge family or a ton of close friends and don't want to leave anyone out. Your hostess doesnt have any money, but yet you apprecite her throwing the shower for you....
Would you rather pick and choose who is important to you, when they all are, and then hurt their feelings because they aren't invited..and hurt your feelings because you wanted to invite them..and then make the possible hostess feel bad because she knows she doesnt have enough money to invite them...
OR
Just help with some cost and everyone is happy?
Looks like an easy, and stress free answer to me!
The hostess tells you how many people she can afford or wants to accommodate, period. If you want the type of shower that they can't afford, politely turn them down and wait for someone who can afford/wants to pay for what you want to offer. Or, throw a "meet the baby" party after your baby is born. Whoever helps pay is a host and it is rude to host your own shower.
this isn't me...all of my family is far..if it were, and I told this to my friend/host..I think she would be really sad. Mine is not that outspoken to say.."i have this amount of money to spend on you..so you can have 10 people" I would feel so so bad asking her upfront how much she is spending. It is a gift and I guess I don't ask my friends how much they are going to spend on me.
How do you wait for someone to offer up money to you without asking? (I am just curious here)
Situation- (you are talking to to someone else)..."yes, my friend/host was going to do my shower and offered, but she is broke and has no money..and I want to have 50 people at my shower...whoa is me..boo hoo...(tear)" and hope she offers to throw you one?
..this reminded me of my wedding that my husband and I paid for...nobody thought it was weird then..and so I guess we hosted it ourselves since family couldn't help out with their current situations.
I am also curious about this..what if you have a huge huge close family and they all live by you..but your host can't afford 40 close cousins..but you love them all..and if you don't invite them, people will be very hurt and that kind of thing could cause family fights and tension, because some people will think they are being 'favored'
not invite them to your shower? I can't see that happening. The host would WANT you to have your loved ones there to share your special day. right?
Courtney, you don't ask your friend how much they are spending, you ask her how many people she would like to host, it is a far different question. You have to respect the answer she gives you.
If you have sooooo many people you are "close" to, than you tell them that host is throwing a shower, but it is just a friends shower. If you are so close to this family and they want to go to a shower for you so badly, they will offer to throw you one or ask to get in touch with the host of your other shower so they can help out.
I'm sure the host wants to give you everything you want, that doesn't mean she can or is going to. suck it up.
This isn't me..I was just curious. My family isn't where I live and cannot attend. My friend/host isn't worried about the numbers...
Other people said to ask the host how much she can spend per person and I couldn't believe it! Glad you said about 'how many people', because that would just be uncomfortable asking about $$$.