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How do you discipline throwing toys?

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When DD throws toys, I tell her not to throw and that I am taking that toy away.  I put it up on a shelf but she doesn't seem to care at all!! And she is already walking away or playing with something else as I'm putting the toy on the shelf.

 How do you handle it?

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Re: How do you discipline throwing toys?

  • ZacksBrideZacksBride
    we redirect him in our "firm" voice, give him a warning and tell him if he does it again he will get a time out.  that usually works for us.
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  • rebeccaontherocksrebeccaontherocks
    We do time out, and then after time out is over, we walk him over to the toy he threw (wherever it landed) and make him pick it up and put it back where it belongs w/o throwing.
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  • StrawberryAlarmClockStrawberryAlarmClock member
    Not to sound snarky but she probably acts like she doesn't care because she's throwing it to get rid of it. You may be encouraging the throwing. First of all, her behavior is age appropriate so maybe come at it from a teaching angle, not discipline. Try giving the toy back to her and hand-over-hand show her how to lay it down gently. Say something like "we set toys down nicely. Throwing is only for balls." GL
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  • amykins1283amykins1283 member

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    Not to sound snarky but she probably acts like she doesn't care because she's throwing it to get rid of it. You may be encouraging the throwing. First of all, her behavior is age appropriate so maybe come at it from a teaching angle, not discipline. Try giving the toy back to her and hand-over-hand show her how to lay it down gently. Say something like "we set toys down nicely. Throwing is only for balls." GL

    This is how I got Liam to stop throwing his cup when he was done drinking.  I just taught him that there was another way to get it out of his hand.  Now he at least attempts to set it down nicely, even if he misses the table. 

    Now, we are working on not throwing things at the dog's face.  He thinks that's the proper way to play fetch.  It's a bit funny to watch but not very nice! 


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  • QmommyQmommy member
    imageStrawberryAlarmClock:
    Not to sound snarky but she probably acts like she doesn't care because she's throwing it to get rid of it. You may be encouraging the throwing. First of all, her behavior is age appropriate so maybe come at it from a teaching angle, not discipline. Try giving the toy back to her and hand-over-hand show her how to lay it down gently. Say something like "we set toys down nicely. Throwing is only for balls." GL
    I agree with this 100%. She's not throwing the toy because she's upset or trying to hurt you. She is doing it because she's over it. Or she thinks it sound awesome when it lands on the ground. Show her how to play with it appropriately.
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  • bella&babybella&baby member

    imageQmommy:
    imageStrawberryAlarmClock:
    Not to sound snarky but she probably acts like she doesn't care because she's throwing it to get rid of it. You may be encouraging the throwing. First of all, her behavior is age appropriate so maybe come at it from a teaching angle, not discipline. Try giving the toy back to her and hand-over-hand show her how to lay it down gently. Say something like "we set toys down nicely. Throwing is only for balls." GL
    I agree with this 100%. She's not throwing the toy because she's upset or trying to hurt you. She is doing it because she's over it. Or she thinks it sound awesome when it lands on the ground. Show her how to play with it appropriately.

    Seriously? My kid has been throwing toys in anger for almost a year, it's completely ridiculous to believe that this child is ONLY throwing toys because it's fun/she doesn't want the toy.

    I definitely handle situations where my son is just excited differently than when he's throwing in anger. I tell him we don't throw toys, but I don't do it in a stern way, though I do tell him that he needs to remember not to throw or he will have to go to time out.

    When he's angry, I am stern with my warnings. But my son knows not to throw toys, and will sometimes put himself in time out when I remind him that it's unacceptable.

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  • Ruby_SohoRuby_Soho

    imageStrawberryAlarmClock:
    Not to sound snarky but she probably acts like she doesn't care because she's throwing it to get rid of it. You may be encouraging the throwing. First of all, her behavior is age appropriate so maybe come at it from a teaching angle, not discipline. Try giving the toy back to her and hand-over-hand show her how to lay it down gently. Say something like "we set toys down nicely. Throwing is only for balls." GL

    This is great! DS isn't throwing toys yet but always throwing his sippy off his high chair. Definitely going to try this Big Smile So good to remember that they're not always trying to be little stinkers, sometimes they just don't realise there's an alternative option.

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  • StrawberryAlarmClockStrawberryAlarmClock member
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    imageQmommy:
    imageStrawberryAlarmClock:
    Not to sound snarky but she probably acts like she doesn't care because she's throwing it to get rid of it. You may be encouraging the throwing. First of all, her behavior is age appropriate so maybe come at it from a teaching angle, not discipline. Try giving the toy back to her and hand-over-hand show her how to lay it down gently. Say something like "we set toys down nicely. Throwing is only for balls." GL
    I agree with this 100%. She's not throwing the toy because she's upset or trying to hurt you. She is doing it because she's over it. Or she thinks it sound awesome when it lands on the ground. Show her how to play with it appropriately.

    Seriously? My kid has been throwing toys in anger for almost a year, it's completely ridiculous to believe that this child is ONLY throwing toys because it's fun/she doesn't want the toy.

    I definitely handle situations where my son is just excited differently than when he's throwing in anger. I tell him we don't throw toys, but I don't do it in a stern way, though I do tell him that he needs to remember not to throw or he will have to go to time out.

    When he's angry, I am stern with my warnings. But my son knows not to throw toys, and will sometimes put himself in time out when I remind him that it's unacceptable.

    This made me a little sad. Are you sure you're teaching your DS and not training him? 21mo is pretty young for time out. They start to understand cause & effect at age 4.Throwing things is a normal act of anger. If you punish it, he won't learn a better way to work through the emotion.
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  • bella&babybella&baby member
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    imageQmommy:
    imageStrawberryAlarmClock:
    Not to sound snarky but she probably acts like she doesn't care because she's throwing it to get rid of it. You may be encouraging the throwing. First of all, her behavior is age appropriate so maybe come at it from a teaching angle, not discipline. Try giving the toy back to her and hand-over-hand show her how to lay it down gently. Say something like "we set toys down nicely. Throwing is only for balls." GL
    I agree with this 100%. She's not throwing the toy because she's upset or trying to hurt you. She is doing it because she's over it. Or she thinks it sound awesome when it lands on the ground. Show her how to play with it appropriately.

    Seriously? My kid has been throwing toys in anger for almost a year, it's completely ridiculous to believe that this child is ONLY throwing toys because it's fun/she doesn't want the toy.

    I definitely handle situations where my son is just excited differently than when he's throwing in anger. I tell him we don't throw toys, but I don't do it in a stern way, though I do tell him that he needs to remember not to throw or he will have to go to time out.

    When he's angry, I am stern with my warnings. But my son knows not to throw toys, and will sometimes put himself in time out when I remind him that it's unacceptable.

    This made me a little sad. Are you sure you're teaching your DS and not training him? 21mo is pretty young for time out. They start to understand cause & effect at age 4.Throwing things is a normal act of anger. If you punish it, he won't learn a better way to work through the emotion.

    21mo is not early for a time out. Children begin to understand cause and effect as babies, not magically around 4 years. By consistently giving them the same consequences for the same set of actions, you are teaching them cause and effect. 

    I do talk to him about other ways to handle his anger/frustration. after his time out, I tell him that it's okay that he feels upset but it's not okay to throw things. Then we have fun hitting the couch or flailing around, he laughs and I explain to him that we can do those things instead.

    There IS a certain level of "training" that goes into raising children...that doesn't mean that you can't train and teach at the same time.

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