FFFC's....let's hear em!

PrettyInPearls23 · August 2011

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sweetie0228 · August 2011

My SIL just put in her FB status that she is going to "homeschool" her 4 yr old. She married my brother 2 years ago and my nephew is from a previous relationship. She was a Single mom w/ a quasi involved birthfather. So she has still the mommy guilt of not raising her son with both parents, even though my brother is really a great dad to him.

My FFC is I totally side eye the homeschooling b/c 1. I don't think she graduated college 2. she wants to follow the unschooling movement have my 4 yr nephew lead the way on what to learn. 3. she guilt parents so much that my nephew, while a sweet loving child, is unruly and lacks discipline. 4. She second guesses every decision she makes w/ him to the point of a decision having to be made for her b/c she's immoblized herself. She only works part time at a retail store and she put him in preschool (my nephew called it penguin school and as adorable as that is, it really demostrates the need to be in an actual school) last year but b/c she missed him so much she doesn't want to send him again.

5. and it p!sses me off totally that my mother thinks she is more mature and responsible single parent (she 26, my brother is 33) then I was at her age. EFF that I had 2 under 3 at her age, I was going through a divorce from man that terrified me on a daily basis for 5 years of marriage. Not only did I get my childre and I out of that situation, I graduated from school Magna, drove a school bus, with my children so not to have to pay daycare, and took a corporate job as soon as I could to get my children on health insurance and to start a real life without my db ex who was a huge anchor weighing me down. My mom likes to gloss over the fact that I was horribly physically and emotionally abused for 5 years and that's why I left. She often tells me how much she pities my ex and his family that they aren't in my children's lives and wonders how they are.

EFF that! I don't care how they are, I'm glad they are out of my life and i don't have to deal w/ their chaos. And while I'm dealing w/ years of fallout w/ emotional issues w/ my DD and DS I would rather that then the continued hurt that would be happenign if they were still involved.

whew. I didn't realize I had that all pent up.

Summary: Allowing your child to grow up ferrel and calling it homeschooling when the mother doesn't even have an education to qualify for a daycare worker is just lazy and selfish b/c she's not doing the best for my nephew.

DarthNBJenni · August 2011

Sweetie - my step-daughter's mother is 24, never been to school a day in her life. Her mother home schooled her, and she plans on home schooling my SD. They come from some large, Jesus loving, quiver full type family. I'm glad we get time with my SD so I can socialize her, and since I'm a teacher, come up with lessons to keep her caught up. Though we are already planning on fighting her mother if SD is unable to pass standardized testing and her mother fails to follow home school guidelines.

achase123 · August 2011

Ugh Sweetie-I hate it when people guilt parent because of circumstances such as being a SP! And I'm sorry about your mom.

My FFFC is that SD has been paying his monthly CS each month HOWEVER he is giving it directly to me, instead of the Dept of CSS as he has been instructed to do numerous times. And he's paying me in cash. He just asks that I give him a receipt each month so I print one out on the computer so it's all professional looking, but don't sign it. I have no idea whether or not these "receipts" would hold water with CS, but frankly I don't care. It's satisfying him so that's all that matters.

And I really hope that he doesn't turn them into the DCSS or get credit for the CS because that might mean that he could get his driver's license back, and that worries me because then that would mean there would be a chance that the court could allow him to drive with P and that terrifies me. So for now I'm just taking the cash and handing him the printed receipt, and secretly laughing inside.

achase123 · August 2011

Oh and another FFFC is that one of my friends just got back together with a guy that she had broke it off with awhile back. In the meantime, when they were apart he got my number and was texting me. I didn't respond because I had figured out he was the one dating my friend.

She told me they split because he was a womanizer, had done all sorts of things, was just a rebound, brought another girl out to her houseboat excursion on the lake just days after they had been together, etc. She basically said he was the scum of the earth.

She said that he explained a lot of things and she's giving him one more chance, but I still think she's WAY to good for him. I still have his number in my phone and a part of me wants to text him to see if he would respond (he doesn't know that we are friends), because I don't trust him at all, but obviously I'm not going to. It just makes me kind of sad for her because I think she's so.much.better than that.

Raspberry807 · August 2011

DS' 4th birthday party is tomorrow and I've managed to not invite my ex without making my ex angry. They celebrated on his actual birthday last weekend because it was his parenting time, and tomorrow is just for US. Up until now it's been so awkward having him at the parties, SO isn't comfortable, and I've never felt comfortable inviting SO's family because of that.

But they're all coming tomorrow and I'm so relieved, relaxed and not stressed. So cool and DS is going to FLIP when he opens his superhero cape and all the kids will have superhero masks

LJF1218 · August 2011

I was thrilled to hand of B to the babysitter today and come to work. 3 days at home with a sick baby and I was starting to lose my mind. I'm glad I could be home and comfort him the past few days, but it was so frustrating that he was feeling bad and the only thing I could do was be there for him and give him tylenol every few hours. Stupid virus.

Oh, and I came in to a stupid amount of work. But yes, I'm bumping because even if I rush around like a crazy person I'm not going to catch up today anyway.

cemacmil · August 2011

It's all about the baby!! (just kidding for the most part) Though I am appreciative of my parents for letting me and the baby stay here for a low rent (my idea to pay something) and their support with that...in the past month I don't really recall any "I'm proud of you"s or "You are doing a great job" referring to me as a single mom or even a mom. When I was pregnant I got it all the time in you are doing the right thing type talk. So a little miffed.

Also, my sister who had my nephew in April posted on FB a couple weeks back about being back in her favorite jeans...(we have a very passive/aggressive relationship) and I so wanted to comment back "me too!" Horrible I know but she is the mom who lets the big one watch the little one

I am also currently scarfing down easy mac before dropping DD off with my mom so I can make my counseling appt.

sweetie0228 · August 2011

I took one of DS's lunchables to work for my lunch b/c I was too lazy to make my own lunch today.

My DS is not with out lunch today, he has a freezer full of microwave pizza and 6 other lunchables, plus stuff to make sandwiches, and bagels w/ cream cheese. The kid won't go hungry.

septmom11 · August 2011

I HATE my ex sometimes. I dont think its fair that he thinks he can just walk away from this responsibility and i am the one paying for everything for her arrival. Sometimes I get so angry I just want to turn him in to the govt for all his scams and living for free, other times I just want to screw him with c/s and hope he doesnt pay and goes to jail!! I would never do these things but the anger sometimes puts ideas in my head!!!!!!!

Ariana2O11 · August 2011

septmom11:
I HATE my ex sometimes. I dont think its fair that he thinks he can just walk away from this responsibility and i am the one paying for everything for her arrival. Sometimes I get so angry I just want to turn him in to the govt for all his scams and living for free, other times I just want to screw him with c/s and hope he doesnt pay and goes to jail!! I would never do these things but the anger sometimes puts ideas in my head!!!!!!!

Yes

Ariana2O11 · August 2011

I deeply regret not filing police reports each time my H was abusive. Although there weren't any physical marks as they were mostly slaps to my face, I still should have done it because he's a medical doctor and I've learned since then that he could have had his medical license taken away because of these reports. Instead, whenever that happened during our marriage, I would check into a hotel room and spend the night there without telling anyone. To this day, I've only told one other person about this dark side of his.

I was embarrassed at the time to tell anyone but I was also such an idiot. I hate him and myself for it.

htomeo · August 2011

Ariana2O11:
I deeply regret not filing police reports each time my H was abusive. Although there weren't any physical marks as they were mostly slaps to my face, I still should have done it because he's a medical doctor and I've learned since then that he could have had his medical license taken away because of these reports. Instead, whenever that happened during our marriage, I would check into a hotel room and spend the night there without telling anyone. To this day, I've only told one other person about this dark side of his.
I was embarrassed at the time to tell anyone but I was also such an idiot. I hate him and myself for it.

I agree with all of this. I have been there. I should have left so many times, or at least said something to someone. I didn't want a police report getting in the way of his battles with his ex.

lurkylulu2 · August 2011

achase123:

Ugh Sweetie-I hate it when people guilt parent because of circumstances such as being a SP! And I'm sorry about your mom.

My FFFC is that SD has been paying his monthly CS each month HOWEVER he is giving it directly to me, instead of the Dept of CSS as he has been instructed to do numerous times. And he's paying me in cash. He just asks that I give him a receipt each month so I print one out on the computer so it's all professional looking, but don't sign it. I have no idea whether or not these "receipts" would hold water with CS, but frankly I don't care. It's satisfying him so that's all that matters.

And I really hope that he doesn't turn them into the DCSS or get credit for the CS because that might mean that he could get his driver's license back, and that worries me because then that would mean there would be a chance that the court could allow him to drive with P and that terrifies me. So for now I'm just taking the cash and handing him the printed receipt, and secretly laughing inside.

So, if DCSS asks you if he's been paying you what are you going to say?

achase123 · August 2011

lurkylulu2:
achase123:

Ugh Sweetie-I hate it when people guilt parent because of circumstances such as being a SP! And I'm sorry about your mom.

My FFFC is that SD has been paying his monthly CS each month HOWEVER he is giving it directly to me, instead of the Dept of CSS as he has been instructed to do numerous times. And he's paying me in cash. He just asks that I give him a receipt each month so I print one out on the computer so it's all professional looking, but don't sign it. I have no idea whether or not these "receipts" would hold water with CS, but frankly I don't care. It's satisfying him so that's all that matters.

And I really hope that he doesn't turn them into the DCSS or get credit for the CS because that might mean that he could get his driver's license back, and that worries me because then that would mean there would be a chance that the court could allow him to drive with P and that terrifies me. So for now I'm just taking the cash and handing him the printed receipt, and secretly laughing inside.

So, if DCSS asks you if he's been paying you what are you going to say?

The truth, that he has been paying me directly, in cash.

dimake · August 2011

This is boring, and it's not Friday anymore, but I haven't talked to anybody in my family in almost a week. My mom freaked out about me taking the kids on vacation, said a lot of crazy shiiit, and when I didn't listen to it I was disregarding her feelings and talking down to her. AND the pain she feels because of that is equivalent to how bad I must have felt when XH left me. Yeah, she went there.

I'm honestly so disgusted that she thinks that my obligation to her is at the same level as a spouse - whereas I feel my only obligation is to my own children and I won't expect them to be taking care of me emotionally when they are in their 30s - that I don't even want to bother with her for a long time.

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