I live in a very good school district and have heard GREAT things from several people about the district preschool program, including the teacher he has, who has been at this school for years. So I was excited for DS to start last week. He attends 4 mornings a week. But from the first email I received from the teacher, I have been underwhelmed about communication to the parents. The initial welcome email about the open house was poorly written and unclear. I had to email the teacher back for clarification. The open house was arranged bizarrely, with me having to locate childcare for both kids for an hour in the AM while I drove to the school, had a parent meeting, and then drove home to pick up my DS so he could go and meet the teacher. Totally PITA. And she mentions these upcoming evening events (like parent-teacher conferences, I guess), but can't provide any clarification on dates/times/if kids are welcome/etc.
So far, aside from the initial meeting about general things (safety, pick-up/drop-off, snack protocol, etc), I have received no information about curriculum or what they actually DO there. DS tells me they go outside, have snack, and play with blocks. That is all I can get out of him consistently. I'm hoping to find out more specifics about it all on this mysterious evening night whenever that is. We drop him off just outside his classroom, but pick him up outside the school, so I have yet to really be in the classroom aside from that first day. It's not that we aren't allowed, but they discourage parents from lingering so the kids don't freak out. I get that, but it makes it tough to even get a feel for the program.
I also have had no feedback at all from any of the teachers (there are several besides the head teacher) on how DS is doing, including his speech teacher, which is why we chose the district school in the first place (he has an IEP and therefore qualifies for special services). They did call me yesterday after I dropped him off to come and get him saying he had a fever and an upset tummy (it turned out I was never able to register a temp at home and he just had to poop and he was fine) and she didn't know my name, but just asked if this was Evan's mom and then actually said that she doesn't know my name. I am sure she is busy, but it wasn't an emergency and they have all of the forms I filled out in the room. She could have looked it up to call me by name. Or better yet, maybe she should take the time to actually get to know me. She seems to know many of the other moms who are in their second year, and she does linger after class to socialize a bit, so I assume at some point we'll have some interaction.
I know it's only been 7 days so far and maybe I'm expecting too much too soon. But I just feel underwhelmed. Maybe my expectations were too high. And DS had such great speech teachers previously (who talked to me all the time about his progress), that maybe I just got spoiled. But it seems I should know something about his progress, if he is adapting ok, if he is behaving, and that sort of thing. He seems to enjoy it and comes home happy, so that's good. And I feel very comfortable about leaving him there in terms of safety. I guess no news is good news?
Am I overreacting? Is this normal? Am I just picky? DH thinks she is probably just great with the kids, but not great with adults. Maybe? I suppose I could be more aggressive and ask for a meeting, but I don't want to be that parent who looks pushy. I'm just surprised I'm not over the moon like I thought I'd be. And then I also feel guilty for even complaining since we don't have to pay tuition. So I probably should just let it slide.