If you are a SAHM...

Mrs.Salt&Pepper · August 2011

You are very lucky, and I envy you. Today was my first day back at work and it was hard. I was not focused AT ALL. I didn't cry until I got home and hugged my LO. They say it gets easier....

LynsiBHM · August 2011

Mrs.Salt&Pepper:
You are very lucky, and I envy you. Today was my first day back at work and it was hard. I was not focused AT ALL. I didn't cry until I got home and hugged my LO. They say it gets easier....

I hear ya! Going back to work after 16wks was so hard for me. I made it a week and a half and quit. I am not rich by any means, but am going to make being a SAHM work. I know not everyone can, but maybe you could work it out? People do say work gets easier though...

biblionerd · August 2011

LynsiBHM:
Mrs.Salt&Pepper:
You are very lucky, and I envy you. Today was my first day back at work and it was hard. I was not focused AT ALL. I didn't cry until I got home and hugged my LO. They say it gets easier....

I hear ya! Going back to work after 16wks was so hard for me. I made it a week and a half and quit. I am not rich by any means, but am going to make being a SAHM work. I know not everyone can, but maybe you could work it out? People do say work gets easier though...

Aww. I'm sorry it's so hard for you. I see DH get home every day and have no idea how he does it. We cut back tremendously so I could. It's not financially responsible... we know that. We also know it's temporary though. I'm not getting my masters for no reason! But that's just how much of a nervous wreck I was thinking about going back. I was literally having panic attacks thinking about it. We cut everything... cable, cell plan, grocery bills, buying generic everything, switched from the fancy salon to great clips lol, we're getting ready to list our house in feb and will be literally buying one for 1/2 what we (hopefully) sell ours for, etc. etc. We're getting by, but it was a gigantic lifestyle change. That's the thing though... most people would be even more miserable living like we do than going back to work, kwim?

ohiostategal · August 2011

I hope it is easier today. I never thought I would want to stay home, but after we got pregnant I just knew it was what I wanted. I will say though that I have lots of friends that work and while it was hard at first, they are all very happy now and don't feel like they miss out with their LOs so I think it will get better for you.

Ecy · August 2011

I feel the exact same way! Coming back to work last week was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I was a mess and thought I was going to lose my mind. Thankfully, everyday seems to get a bit easier but I still wish I could be a SAHM.

GL to you and I hope you start feeling better soon! Hugs!!!

kbeach82 · August 2011

I'm sorry you're having a hard time and I really hope it gets better for you SOON.

When I got pregnant, I always just assumed I would have my 12 weeks of maternity leave and then not give it a second thought when I put my LO in day care and went back to work full time. Yeah...not quite. V will be 4 months old at the end of this month. I'm still on leave and when I go back next month, I will only be working 2 days a week.

You are a tough cookie for even making it through your first day without crying and I wish you the best of luck!

goalieamy24 · August 2011

I totally feel ya! I've been back now for about 2 months and I've been miserable just about every day. In part, I'm pretty unhappy in my current position. I am the primary bread-winner in the family, but my husband nows how much I want to stay home. We talk about what it would take for me to be able to do that. Our goal is to pay down some debt and create a larger savings, so that I can reduce my hours to part time in the not so distant future. Like pp said, if it means making huge sacrifices financially to stay home, I totally think it's worth it. We bought a home last summer, and found out 2 weeks later that I was pregnant. I tell my husband regularly that had we not bought a house, we'd have been renting a much longer time. :-) I'm sorry that it sucks, but it definitely does and we're right there with you.

To try and help this situation, I limit visitors during the week to just my parents. I want all the cuddle time I can get with LO. I also get up extra early in order to have at least 20-30 minutes of play time along with at least 2 nursings before work. Good luck! You will find a routine that helps and find something that works well for you.

GenaBoBenaWife · August 2011

I couldn't agree more! I've been back at work for 6wks & I still cry every day I leave LO @ DC. I keep hearing that it gets better, but it sure hasn't felt that way!

ladycee · August 2011

I'm really sorry your first day back was so difficult. When I got pregnant I never gave staying home a second thought. I always knew I would go back to work. I dreamed about staying home after I had him, but I never thought it would happen. My DH actually brought the idea up to me after going over our budget with a fine tooth comb. After a lot of consideration, I turned in my resignation a couple weeks before my leave was up. That's not to say it has been easy by any means and I really miss my job. I worked with juvenile delinquents in a treatment facility and I loved what I did. We have had to cut way back a lot. We don't have any of the extras we had when we were both working and I have become quite thrifty as of late. That has been a challenge because we're both technology junkies. We also had to put off buying our own home for now, but my DH was ok with that so I was too. We get by though and that's enough for me.

I really respect working mothers though. I always thought I would be and I can't imagine how difficult it must be to go to work each day away from LO. When I was on leave, the thought of leaving my DS made me so sad and I would cry just thinking about it. So, actually going through with it has to be a million times harder. I will be returning to work when DS is almost a year old, but I know it won't be anywhere near the same as leaving an infant. I really do hope that it gets easier for you and that your work days pass quickly so you can be with your LO again! Good luck!

stephanie_shoe · August 2011

There are pros and cons to each scenario...I am a SAHM and although I love it (and love my hubby for working so hard so I can SAH), there are days when I feel I gave up corporate America in exchange for dirty hair and a messy house...and I look longingly at my heels and business suits hanging in my closet.

On the other hand, I finally feel that I am giving 100% to my daughter each and every day, which is something I never felt I gave at work, and I don't even feel like my husband gets 100% of me. At the end of the day, I love the fact that I am home with her all the time and the next day is ours alone...

Keep your chin up-- neither situation is easy and I hope it gets easier for you...maybe when the terrible twos hit you'll be looking forward to the time out of the house!

jessjo04 · August 2011

I went back part time at 3 weeks and full time at 6 weeks. I have found it is getting harder as he gets older. When he was a couple months old, he didn't do much, I missed him, but not like I miss him now. Now that hes more interactive, I miss his smile and 'talking' to him.

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