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calculating fair child support amount

wilburbudwilburbud member
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DH and I are sitting with DD's dad this weekend to discuss the current amount of child support and his lack of paying for ANYTHING.  We made a mutual decision to not go through a court system at this time, knowing that can change.  Ive read a few different places that the custodial parent takes total bills each month, divided by two, and then two again. The balance is the amount owed by other parent. Does this sound reasonable?

That would literally for us include dental and health insurance, heating, cooling, electric, gas, groceries, car insurance, cable, phone, rent, spending (which includes any sports fees, school photos, yearbooks, gifts, ect)

 

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  • FutureMrsDrew73110FutureMrsDrew73110 member
    Use google to find a child support calculator for your state. It'll ask your monthly income, and your ex's monthly income, how many children are involved, cost of medical and daycare expenses. You input the information and click a button and it will tell you an approximate amount that should be paid.
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    While that may be a good concept, what if something unexpectedly comes up? I don't mean to be nosy, but why not use the courts?  My H and BM did not use the court for years and it was a debacle.  Maybe you are on better terms with you ex? ;-) I hope it works out for you, its definitley tricky!


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    Going to court to set up CS doesn't cost anything.  You don't actually even need lawyers.  That way you both have a record what was paid and what is owed.
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  • Ginlyn0Ginlyn0 member

    That calculation would never work for CS. You are basically saying that 1/4 of all the CP's bills should be paid by the NCP per child (and Cable...that's not a necessity). Each state has their own calculations for paying CS and they are all very different. In my state, bills are not even taken into consideration at all not even childcare. It's based off the NCP's income only.

    If you are already having issues with him paying anything like you said in your OP, then you NEED to go to the courts or you probably won't see a dime of what you "agree" too. In my state, it does not cost the CP anything to set up CS.

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  • GHBEAGHBEA member

    I thought it was 17% of the income of the paying parent.  No where did any one ask my ex or my DH (who recently gained full custody) what their monthly bills were to establish how much to pay in child support.  Both were required to pay 17% per child.  So in my case if my ex wasn't a loser he was suppose to pay 34%. 

    I would go through the courts just to make it legal documentation. I've heard too many stories of parties agreeing them some one doesn't up hold their end and who loses out is the child.

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  • SusanH.SusanH. member

    no, your thought doesnt seem reasonable to me at all.  Your bills dont have any bearing on what the other should pay.  What if you opt for the best of the best from the cable company ( which is not a necessity at all in any case) you could have outrageous ins bills because you want all the bells and whistles, etc..... 

    I know I could have lower phone bills, cable bills, insurance bills etc but since we pay for them ourselves, we can have the "extras" on them. 

    to me, going thru the court is the only way to handle things like this.

     

     

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