What are you scared/nervous for about labor?

msjcordova · August 2011

Im not scared of the pain or the idea of C/S, or even the idea that my "plan" may not go according to plan. Im scared that It will be the middle of the night when im tired that I go into labor. Lame I know.

What are you ladies nervous about?

Mommies with outside babies already, what were you most scared of and how did it turn out?

whitney1170 · August 2011

I'm scared of hospital staff not communicating with me. I think labor/delivery gets to be so "1,2,3" for them, that they forget to stop and concentrate on what's going on with the actual individual.

I'm scared my water will break naturally and I won't get to labor at home as long as I'd like to.

I'm also scared that DH will be too busy "updating" friends and family (he's easily distracted) that he won't be as supportive as he says he will.

jntaylor11 · August 2011

I think I have a high pain tolerance, but I'm scared I won't be able to handle it and I will want the epi but I Think I'm honestly more afraid of the epi... So I feel like Ill basically be sitting in agonizing pain... Hopefully I'm wrong and I'll be able to handle it.

I just don't know because I've never been through anything like it.

mrsgabus · August 2011

I am scared of having a episiotomy... that I will not have enough time to have the epidural and feel them cutting my vagina....

Oh poor little lady.

msjcordova · August 2011

whitney1170:
I'm scared of hospital staff not communicating with me. I think labor/delivery gets to be so "1,2,3" for them, that they forget to stop and concentrate on what's going on with the actual individual.

Im a bit worried about this as well. Although the times we have been to L&D for various things, they have been really great about telling us what is going on etc. I hope that trend keeps up

sunandsurfmama · August 2011

I am actually excited about the delivery of my LO, I am just not a fan of hospitals. The smell really bothers me. The last time I was in a hospital was when my GMA passed away. :-(

Other than that I am excited and am hopeful for LO to arrive healthy without complications.

ZooCrewMom · August 2011

The control freak in me is nervous about not knowing when or how labor will happen. The farther I get past my due date though, the less I'm concerned as I just want to have the baby. I've also thought about how certain days would be better to have the baby - like, oh I slept pretty well last night. I'll have the energy should it happen today.

KD+BC · August 2011

I was worried that the epi wouldn't work for me. It did although it wore off on my left side by the time I was ready to push. It ended up not really mattering though.

Msj: don't worry about being tired when you go into labor. My water broke at 11pm and I labored all night. Adrenaline kicks in and you don't feel the lack of sleep. At least, I didn't.

msjcordova · August 2011

MargauxGreen:
The control freak in me is nervous about not knowing when or how labor will happen. The farther I get past my due date though, the less I'm concerned as I just want to have the baby. I've also thought about how certain days would be better to have the baby - like, oh I slept pretty well last night. I'll have the energy should it happen today.

I agree with you. I told DW, I know that we are going to be going through a major life changing event soon and it kills me that I dont know when!

jugsdufresne · August 2011

I'm scared of everything you mentioned, including going into labor in the middle of the night when I'm exhausted. But I'm exhausted and not in a great mood all the time anyway so maybe that won't matter.

I'm scared I'll be begging for drugs as soon as we pull in to the hospital. Drugs will be available to me, but not an epi where I am going. I would like to use neither (no judgement).

I am scared the baby will get stuck. I know people have been doing this since the beginning of humankind but I am having a difficult time wrapping my head around the idea of an organ usually as narrow as a noodle opening up enough for a baby's head to pass through.

I am afraid of the baby having Down's syndrome or being unhealthy in some way.

I am afraid I will not bond with LO from the moment he is in my arms.

Mostly, I'm just scared I will not be able to be strong and deal emotionally. That the whole experience will just be awful. I've met enough women who felt good about their labors and had good things to say about it, but I know a couple with nightmare stories who say it just plain sucked and I don't want to be one of them.

Pinaysis86 · August 2011

Everything scares me about it. I'm not ready for it all, physically or mentally. Maybe that is why my BP is high?? I'm such a worry wort!!

meganjane86 · August 2011

I'm nervous that I won't be able to handle the pain and get some kind of intervention, just because I normally have bad reactions to pain meds and I really don't want to hallucinate or get sick while in labor.

I'm also nervous about the tearing... I had a vaginal tear when I was about 7 (freak skateboarding accident) and I still remember how bad it burned to pee! It freaked me out!

mandyhall2882 · August 2011

I'm most nervous about after delivery- the pain of the healing process while trying to care for a newborn and the lack of sleep.

I could really freak myself out thinking about labor and delivery, but I'm trying to keep an open mind and not stress about those parts.

MrsMiller1002 · August 2011

I'm worried about being freaked out by the epi..I know I want it... (no doubt in my mind ahah!) But I'm not too good with pain meds.

I was once put on Benadryl for a migraine at a hospital, and I felt like I was crawling out of my skin, crying hysterically, and begging for my mom... I will never take that again.

I'm just nervous that the fact that I won't be able to move my legs, will totally freak me out, and make me go crazy. haha

Does it just make you numb??

NurseLaLa · August 2011

I'm nervous about not having the birthing pool setup in time. My first labor was 6 hours from start to finish and I spent the first 3 hours of that not believing I was in real labor.

mdotm0904 · August 2011

Believe it or not, I'm scared of something going wrong and me dying. It's morbid but it's my only fear....no matter how irrational it may be. Think happy thoughts though right

jsbaby19 · August 2011

I think I'm most scared that I will misjudge when to go to the hospital once labor gets going. I'm 5cm and 90%, so I'm not sure if the normal laboring at home rules apply or if I should head in sooner so I don't end up having my baby in the car.

ces25c · August 2011

My biggest worry is just not knowing what to expect. I've done all I can to prepare, but there are so many things that can change and that I have no control over. I admit to being a bit of a control freak, too!

shortie2008 · August 2011

I'm scared about the pain. I don't really want to get an epi, just because I want to do it naturally, and I really don't like the idea of needles in my back. I'm scared I won't know that I'm actually in labor, or that my mom (aka my ride to L & D) will be gone when I do realize I'm in labor. And I really, really hope I don't tear or have to have pit/get a C-section.

Honestly, I think I'm most worried about how DH is going to deal with it. He's in TX, will not be there for the birth unless they have to induce/she decides to wait until the 3rd/4th of Sept. Obviously, I'll call him, but if he's in training, there's no way to get ahold of him until he's out. And I think he'd probably freak out if he suddenly got like 3 voicemails of me screaming at him. Lol

Karma01 · August 2011

my biggest concerns were labor not the delivery and my recovery. I had back labor which was terrible and once my water broke the contractions were stronger. I was sweating from the pain but once I get the epi I felt soo much better.

The delivery was long and exhausting - pushed for almost 3 hrs.

My recovery has been okay just still not feeling 100%.

moose1178 · August 2011

I am scared of not coming home with a baby. Or him not being healthy. Or something happening to me.

etoyama · August 2011

mrsgabus:
I am scared of having a episiotomy... that I will not have enough time to have the epidural and feel them cutting my vagina....
Oh poor little lady.

This exact thing happened to me today

But I was already in so much pain the cutting was the least of my concerns. Doesn't feel so great now though...

batuki · August 2011

yeah you wont even feel the episiotomy. I have a big scar from my first....fingers crossed I escape it this time.

I'm scared I'll need meds. I didn't with my first and I feel like I"ll let myself down if I cave in...

katchowski · August 2011

I am scared that I will go into labor on the one night that no one who speaks English is working in L&D. Its my fault for having minimal Korean.

I also found out that my OB will be on vacation during my due date, so now I am terrified that I will have to meet a brand new doctor when I am in labor. (I think she got short notice, because her calendar was not marked for a vacation last week)

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