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Toddlers: 24 Months+
fignewt74
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Unpopular Opinion Thursday
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Here's mine: DS loves to go to the bathroom outside. His uncle (my brother) introduced it to him by calling it the "outdoor potty." DS took to it right away, and even likes to poop outside! Its kinda gross and my husband is completely mortified by it, but truth be told, I don't really care - I'm just happy he's not going in a diaper anymore 
"You reach deeper until you can find the strength. That's all life is, one big fight after another."
Angel babies: 9/19/07, 10/08/09, 1/05/11
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Re: Unpopular Opinion Thursday
DD has a new teacher and has experienced a little PT regression the last few days. I wonder if this would help.
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
Yeah, I have to give the side-eye to this. Running a household on top of any other work in general is hard. I hate the "it's harder if you work OH" game. I WAH and you know what, yes, I did 3 loads of laundry today and went grocery shopping while DD was at camp. That means that as soon as she goes to bed tonight, I have to sit down at my computer and do at least 2-3 hours of work before I can go to bed. That's time I can't spend hanging out with DH or reading a good book or, what I would really love to do, sleeping.
WAH means there are many, many, many Saturdays and Sundays that I spend working while the rest of the world is hanging out with their families.
I am intensely grateful for the flexibility my schedule gives me to spend a lot of time with DD, but I'm sick of the notion people around me have that my job itself is somehow easier or requires less effort simply because it can be done at 3 am in my home instead of between the hours of 9 and 5 in an office.
Sorry to take it out on you, but your opinion is actually quite common out there and as a WAHM, I hear comments like yours all the time.
To comment on both previous posts, I think it is definitely harder to be a WM than a SAHM (I've done both), but there is NO WAY I would be able to be a WAHM. I would imagine that is a LOT harder. How can you possibly get any work done? I can't even cook dinner without putting my kid in front of the tv!
I think the best option would be a PT WM/PT SAHM with a job where you can leave work at work. I have a job now where I take work home, and it is horrible. I leave at 5am, work all day, get home at 5 pm (commute 2.5 hours back & forth), cook dinner, do all the bedtime stuff, and then once DD is asleep, I do more work until I can't keep my eyes open anymore. Then Saturday & Sunday are spent doing laundry, going grocery shopping, and paying bills. House cleaning....well, that just doesn't get done.
Now, if only we could find PT jobs that could pay the bills.....
Ha! I WAH and WOH, but I was a SAHM until DD was almost 2. It's equally challenging, but in different ways. When you SAH you're responsible for your child's enrichment and social development. When you WAH w/o outside childcare you're responsible for the above plus trying to get your work done. When you WOH you have to find somebody/someplace that you trust enough to be responsible for enrichment, and while you probably have more time to *** around on the internet it means you can't get little things done here and there.
The housework stuff just comes down to whatever you and your DH have arranged between you. I know some SAHM's whose DH's split household chores 50/50, and some who do it all themselves. I know that while I can do a lot when I'm home I can't come close to completing any of it.
For "ease" I think a WAH job with childcare would be ideal, but I love being with DD during the day while I WAH as a nanny. I get about half of what I need to get done during the day, and DH and I tag team to get the rest.
I've been both a WM and a SAHM and I have to say that being a WM is much more difficult for me. However, it is better for my sanity. I was going crazy being at home all day with no adult interaction, but I was able to get things done. Now that I work FT, it's very difficult to do things around the house. I spend my lunch breaks running errands, because my evenings are usually jammed packed with dinner, bedtime routines, making bottles, getting ready for the next day, etc...
As for WAHM, more power to you. I have worked from home twice since I've had DS and it was pure he$$. I don't know how you get anything done, because I surely did not.
Agree to this. I'm currently an out of work RN and going crazy at home with DS. I could never be a SAHM--I'm bored out of my skull. And frankly, DS finds me boring since I can't spend 18 hours each day 100% dedicated to him. Kudos to those SAHMs, it just isn't for me.