2nd time moms: baby showers

michelle12 · August 2011

How many baby showers are you having? My co-workers are giving me one, but my family is not. I know it is sometimes frowned upon to have a second shower (even though my first child was a boy and my second, and last, will be a girl), but my own family is not having one and I don't know if it is my hormones, but my feelings are kind of hurt. I was just wondering if your family is throwing a shower for you.

melimelg · August 2011

To my knowledge I am not having any. We are buying everything that we need.

christen_z1 · August 2011

I have friends that are throwing me a shower this Saturday. This is my 3rd baby. I am sorry that your feelings are hurt. I hope that you enjoy your work shower!

Sammy-Mae · August 2011

I am not having one. People will probably buy stuff for us after the baby is here.

txbabs111 · August 2011

I am not having a shower this time. We are team green, but all our baby gear is neutral since we planned to have more than 1 child. If this baby is a boy, all we will really need is clothes.

thetheisens · August 2011

I am having two. My mother in law had one for me this past weekend and my best friend is having one for me after the baby is born, since we are team green. The one this past weekend was just my dh side of the family, my family and co workers will be invited to the one after baby is born. I am very grateful and did not expect a shower at all because this is my second. It's great though because my son is 9 and even if I had anything left, it would be out dated for safety!

shellybell15 · August 2011

My aunt offered to throw me one, but I declined since we were in the process of moving to a different state. Try not to let it hurt your feelings, I'm sure most of your family that would be there will probably buy you a little something anyway.

michelle12 · August 2011

Thanks for the responses. I guess I am probably just hormonal since my family is not as excited about this little girl as I figured they would be.

Kendrav4 · August 2011

I am having one but my friend is throwing it not my family. I did not expect one and actually did not plan on having one since we just got married in June, but my friends insisted...They said it was two separate occasions and they wanted to celebrate me having a boy

jonnygurl76 · August 2011

0. and i wasn't expecting one and honestly don't feel i should have one. i did feel like he was already not as important as DD because his life wasn't being celebrated but that really isn't the case. i know we will be showered with love after he is born, my family is just as excited this time around as they were with DD.

and my mom asked me what i needed and she got me a few of the things off of my list and she bought his crib. i was not expecting this but she threw DD's shower and felt that she wanted to do a big gift this time for him since i wasn't getting a shower. and she is also crocheting him blankets and little hats. i love my mom, i am very lucky to have her.

cantalopes24 · August 2011

Yes I had one but this will be the daughter of the most spolied person on both sides of the family so it was a given lol.

michelle12 · August 2011

My family has not bought anything, not even a bow. My in-laws have been terrific though! I guess I may be upset because I am contributing the lack of enthusiasm about this little girl to the fact they are not happy about the name I picked out for her. Apparently my sister was wanting to use it for her baby, even though she is not interested in having kids for awhile and has been in a relationship for only three months, but never told me about it. My mom has "popped" off a few times saying, "Well, I guess we will just have two granddaughters with the same name." I didn't think our baby girl's name would be a big deal, but I guess it is for some.

MrandMrsAndrews · August 2011

I was offered a few showers, but declined. I felt uncomfortable "asking" for more gifts. I got married in 2008 and then had our son in 2009 - and we are having another son. We are buying anything that we need. I am sure there are some people that will buy us gifts, but a whole other shower would have been too much in our situation.

I'm sorry that your feelings are hurt. Sometimes it is regional whether people do a second shower. Not everyone feels this way.

Kendrav4 · August 2011

thetheisens:
I am having two. My mother in law had one for me this past weekend and my best friend is having one for me after the baby is born, since we are team green. The one this past weekend was just my dh side of the family, my family and co workers will be invited to the one after baby is born. I am very grateful and did not expect a shower at all because this is my second. It's great though because my son is 9 and even if I had anything left, it would be out dated for safety!

Kudos to you for staying team green!! I caved in and found out the sex

CA2006 · August 2011

No showers here. OP, as for the name of your little girl, is it a name that has significance to you and/or your sister? Or did you just randomly pick it then she said she had wanted the same name? I think names within families can be a tough issue. We have a family name that we want to use if we have a girl and i would have been bummed if a family member used it. And DH and I have known we want to use it since before getting married. Yes, the person having the baby first does get the "right" to the name (since who knows if/when the other person will have a baby, let alone one of that sex). But it can be emotional for her. Just keep that in mind and be sensitive to it.

michelle12 · August 2011

It is my maiden name and I was going to use it with my first born if it had been a girl. My sister has never said anything to me about it and my mom only made a comment once we had narrowed it down to two names. I would have taken that into consideration, but nothing was ever mentioned. I would have understood if this name was the name she has wanted for years and has told people about, but she has never said a word to me or my husband.

mattandbekah · August 2011

Far as I know...none. Which is fine with me, this is our second boy and we really just dont need anything. People have given us really sweet gifts for the baby here and there, and as far as I am concerned, that is super sweet and still more than they even need to do.

I dont have anything against showers for a second child, especially one of the opposite sex, but i wouldnt get my feelings hurt over it. Besides, your coworkers are already throwing you a shower.

mabst196 · August 2011

My family is not throwing me one. I am having an opposite sex child as well. I am not upset. I think its a bit of an odd thing to be upset about.

babes12 · August 2011

to my knowledge i'm not having one and i honestly don't think i'm having one.

kagl04 · August 2011

I am definitely not having one! I had my shower for DD July of last year so that would be asking for WAY too much. Plus people don't really care about my DD right now outside of my immediate family. My MIL met her for the 1st time a week before she turned 1. My father lives 7 miles away and has seen her once since Christmas. We are having a boy this time around and had to get everything! Honestly I don't expect anyone to buy us anything or throw a shower. We have gotten 1 gift for DS and I don't anticipate anyone but my mom buying us anything at all (she picks up things for DS all the time). It's sad but DS is even less anticipated than DD was!!

NC112 · August 2011

I'm not having one... my parents offered to get our double stroller for us as a gift, but we're not having a shower.

christiney06 · August 2011

mabst196:
My family is not throwing me one. I am having an opposite sex child as well. I am not upset. I think its a bit of an odd thing to be upset about.

ditto. esp. when you are getting one from co-workers! have a good time and be grateful for their generosity

abba916 · August 2011

I have some friends throwing me a "sprinkle"- I was prepared to buy everything I need but I appreciate them wanting to "spoil" this baby too...

michelle12 · August 2011

I am very grateful that my friends are throwing me a "sprinkle". I just figured that the only shower I would be having would be one by my family, not my friends. I guess I just expected my mom to want to do something for the 1st granddaughter of our family. I know it may not have sounded like it, but I am happy and grateful my friends are there for me. I just wish my mom would act as excited about our little girl as my friends do. I was fully prepared to buy everything we needed on our own since our son just turned 3 and we have a lot of the big items. Thanks for the responses though.

OUKap · August 2011

I am a FTM but I registered for neutral big items so I need less for the next baby. I would really just need clothing and room decor.

aandg · August 2011

We were having a co-ed BBQ at my parents house, but we had to cancel it. I'm on bedrest and can't drive an hour and a half away. We will probably have a welcome baby party after she is born.

People kept wanting to have a traditional shower for me, which I didn't want or need, so this was our solution. No registry.

Ceridwen21 · August 2011

So your work is throwing you a shower, your friends are throwing you a sprinkle, and that's still not enough for you? Wow!

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