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When to SAHM/relocate: WDYT?

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Backstory: DH already relocated mid-Oct to take the job that will allow me to SAH with DS and future DCs.  DS and I stayed here to finish getting the house ready to list and to get closer to Jan 1 b/c our new health insurance is a high deductible plan w/a HSA

Option 1:
Set a last day of work as 12/19
Move to join DH before Xmas
Travel from new location to visit family for Xmas
Get PT job (evening) asap after Xmas to offset mortgage until house sells
(Down side = cashing out my accumulated PTO before Jan 1, Up side = getting the heck out of this hell hole that I work in sooner)

Option 2:
Set last day of work as 1/7
Move to join DH around 1/15
Travel from current location to visit family for Xmas
DH meets us at family's location for Xmas
Get PT job (evening) after move to offset mortgage
(Allows me to take advantage of as many paid days off as possible, which will be good for packing at home, and have a slower period to wrap up projects/pack & clean office/etc.)

 
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Re: When to SAHM/relocate: WDYT?

  • brianna611brianna611

    Option 1 seems more satisfying on an emotional level

    Option 2 seems more practical

    So the question is - do you make decisions with your heart or your head?

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  • ckolak:-)ckolak:-)
    I vote for option 1, but that's just because I would want to live with DH again ASAP. Though I certainly see the merits of option 2...
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  • CariflyCarifly
    Depends on how you feel about your job and how much you miss your husband!  Option 2 sounds like it might be less stressful because moving right before the holidays could be rough, and a lot of change/travel for your DS at once (how long would you be at the new place before you had to travel for the holidays?)  But I would still be tempted in your shoes to move as soon as I could, because I would really be missing my DH!  I admire you for sticking it out even to December.  It sounds like it will be worth it in the end since you'll be able to stay at home- I'll think positive house-selling thoughts for you!
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  • CD+ALCD+AL member

    Aw, come on guys!  I need someone to decide my life for me.  LOL!  If I make my own decision, I have to own it.  Smile

    I do agree w/logic vs. emotion.  Although, I hadn't thought of it that way.  Hmmm...that might help with some perspective.

     
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  • CD+ALCD+AL member

    imageCarifly:
    (how long would you be at the new place before you had to travel for the holidays?) 

    It would probably amount to something like this:
    19th: last day of work
    20th: everything is ready to load in the truck, DH arrives, load truck
    21st: leave for new location first thing in a.m., 10hr drive
    22nd: unload truck
    23rd: DH works, leave for 9hr drive to family for Xmas

    Ugh...That sounds awful now that I'm laying it out like that.  Ewww! 

     
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  • rissa06rissa06 member
    for me, i would probably choose option 2 . .my biggest worry would be not being able to sell the house and the longer i have my job's money coming in, the better it would be to offset the costs. . .?
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