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Jumping through hoops...the emotional roller coaster has begun

Harper'smomHarper'smom
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I have a consultation with a free standing birth center this afternoon. I was instructed to have my medical records to review when I called last week. But I just got a call explaining that today will just be a basic tour, not to bring my records, and that I will then have to schedule another meeting with the head Midwife/owner of the practice to review my records and she will decide if she wants to accept me. I understand the precautions, but I was expecting to get more information today. I?m also pretty nervous about being rejected and having to plead my case and be deemed ?a good enough candidate?. I had a low transverse incision, I?ve waited the appropriate amount of time between births, and other than having ?too small of a pelvis? and a gigantic husband I have no other medical risk factors. It would be such a blow to my confidence to have a hospital birth knowing I was rejected by the birth center. It almost makes me want to just scratch the whole birth center thing now before I get my hopes up.

 

I?m starting to feel really emotional about this and feel a great deal of anxiety about the possibility of another hospital birth scenario. I?m afraid I am going to meltdown at the birth center today and I?m nervous about being judged for my daughter?s birth. Great?I have already started crying so maybe I can just get it out of my system now.

 

 

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Re: Jumping through hoops...the emotional roller coaster has begun

  • chicsubchicsub member
    If everything is as you say I'm sure you'll have no problem getting accepted under their care.  I remember going to a consult with the midwife practice I ended up with and they were so gung ho about the VBAC and that I was a great candidate even though I doubted myself at times.  Baby steps!  We're here for you too!
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    ::HUGS:: Get a good cry out now and you will be fine today!  You sound like a great vbac candidate so stay positive!  

    Heck, I'm trying to stay positive and compared to you I'm a horrible candidate, I've had 2 csections, never gone into labor, had a single layer closure, and a uterine window was found during my 2nd C.  Does that make you feel better? Wink

    Let us know how it goes today! 

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  • Brownie_222Brownie_222 member
    So how did the tour go? FWIW, I cried at about the first four appts with my midwife. I was newly pregnant and worried about going through another upsetting birth and having to tell my story about my son's birth. A good midwife (or OB, for that matter), will understand and not see tears as weakness. If anything, I think it can just show how strongly you feel about having a better birth this time. My midwife reminded me a lot early on that my commitment to having a vbac was going to really help. Confidence come over many months. It is definitely a ride preparing for a vbac. You can do it! Let us know how it went when you get time.
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  • Harper'smomHarper'smom
    Thanks so much everyone. It went well. The midwife I met with was very sympathetic and seemed almost shocked when I explained the care I received with DD. I really liked that once you are accepted they treat you the same as the non VBAC patients. They even said something like " I'm sorry I keep saying VBAC your not a VBAC you are a pregnant mother". I didn't cry but I welled up a bit. Overall I was pleased and will Hopefully be scheduling the approval appt. soon. I'm giving DH some time to digest things. I think he was shocked by the price but I'd rather cut our budget than my uterus! Thanks again for the support. Please bear with me on this journey I'm a glass half empty stress case by nature.
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  • Brownie_222Brownie_222 member
    Sounds like a supportive environment! That is wonderful. The way I look at it is, this investment will pay off for years to come. My birth center is in network and 90% covered, but if it wasn't, I'd be prepared to sacrifice other things to make it work. I have spent more on childbirth classes, chiropractic, accupuncture, massage and birth books this time and know how stuff adds up. I feel it is worth it and I won't look back later and say what if? I'll know i did everything I could to influence a positive outcome and then I will let the rest go. That's my goal anyway!
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  • honkytonk_kidhonkytonk_kid member

    imageHarper'smom:
    Thanks so much everyone. It went well. The midwife I met with was very sympathetic and seemed almost shocked when I explained the care I received with DD. I really liked that once you are accepted they treat you the same as the non VBAC patients. They even said something like " I'm sorry I keep saying VBAC your not a VBAC you are a pregnant mother". I didn't cry but I welled up a bit. Overall I was pleased and will Hopefully be scheduling the approval appt. soon. I'm giving DH some time to digest things. I think he was shocked by the price but I'd rather cut our budget than my uterus! Thanks again for the support. Please bear with me on this journey I'm a glass half empty stress case by nature.

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    I'm glad it went well!

    Hopefully the approval appointment is just a formality, and you'll have no problems continuing with the birth center.

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