Have your feelings about Plan B changed since TTC?

AnoraStar · August 2011

Last night, one of my best friends called me in a bit of a panic. Her friend (a girl whom I have never met) had unprotected sex on what she figured was CD12 (she keeps track of AF so she actually did know this). My friend called me b/c she knows we are TTC and wanted to know if her friend was at risk for getting KU on accident.

Of course, I really couldn't answer, other than saying *IF* she O's on CD14 like the text books say, then yes, there is a chance. The winner the girl boned has KU'd three other girls (live and learn, anyone??) so this chick was super scared.

She went out and got Plan B this morning. I've known people who have taken it before, but this time it, well, bothered me, but I can't really reason why.

I suppose one could argue that since the girl is in no way, shape or form ready for a baby, it will work out better this way. Personally, I feel that if you are not ready to handle the consquences, then don't have unprotected sex. Or sex at all, since nothing is full proof. And if something happens, then deal with it.

So, I'm curious, has your opinion on the Plan B pill changed since you started TTC?

Oh, this was the girl's first time Indifferent

imimahoney · August 2011

Plan B on her first time, yikes.

To answer your question, no it has not. I took it in college when we had a condom fail and it was the 100% the right decision.

Just because I'm ready for a baby right now doesn't mean everyone else has to be ready.

And I should add, people make dumb mistakes all the time but hopefully she will learn from this mistake and not make it again.

AnoraStar · August 2011

imimahoney:

Plan B on her first time, yikes.

To answer your question, no it has not. I took it in college when we had a condom fail and it was the 100% the right decision.

Just because I'm ready for a baby right now doesn't mean everyone else has to be ready.

That's a good way to look at it. I think it bothered me in a way that hearing about people getting KU on accident makes you remember how not pregnant you are.

imimahoney · August 2011

AnoraStar:
imimahoney:

Plan B on her first time, yikes.

To answer your question, no it has not. I took it in college when we had a condom fail and it was the 100% the right decision.

Just because I'm ready for a baby right now doesn't mean everyone else has to be ready.

That's a good way to look at it. I think it bothered me in a way that hearing about people getting KU on accident makes you remember how not pregnant you are.

Oh yeah, I totally understand. I'd say it's very normal to be p!ssed at her for this. It's just important to remember that it's her life and not yours.

More importantly, if she didn't know the guy very well hopefully she's getting tested for some STD's.

LM915 · August 2011

imimahoney:

Plan B on her first time, yikes.

To answer your question, no it has not. I took it in college when we had a condom fail and it was the 100% the right decision.

Just because I'm ready for a baby right now doesn't mean everyone else has to be ready.

And I should add, people make dumb mistakes all the time but hopefully she will learn from this mistake and not make it again.

I completely agree with this bolded part.

kasekase86 · August 2011

AnoraStar:
imimahoney:

Plan B on her first time, yikes.

To answer your question, no it has not. I took it in college when we had a condom fail and it was the 100% the right decision.

Just because I'm ready for a baby right now doesn't mean everyone else has to be ready.

That's a good way to look at it. I think it bothered me in a way that hearing about people getting KU on accident makes you remember how not pregnant you are.

Definitely agree with the bolded parts. Just heard about my ex-bf's girlfriend getting KU by accident... it does kind of sting a bit, I'll admit.

obeach8 · August 2011

imimahoney:
Plan B on her first time, yikes.
To answer your question, no it has not. I took it in college when we had a condom fail and it was the 100% the right decision.
Just because I'm ready for a baby right now doesn't mean everyone else has to be ready.

And I should add, people make dumb mistakes all the time but hopefully she will learn from this mistake and not make it again.

yes.

rrcraz7 · August 2011

Not at all. This is exactly the reason that Plan B is good. She clearly made a poor decision and is being proactive to make sure the situation doesn't get worse.

edit: fix spelling

LegallyBlonde217 · August 2011

imimahoney:

To answer your question, no it has not. I took it in college when we had a condom fail and it was the 100% the right decision.

Just because I'm ready for a baby right now doesn't mean everyone else has to be ready.

Yes

Perfect Sonnet · August 2011

No, not at all. I used Plan B a few times in my younger days. Looking back, I probably had little chance of being pregnant when I took it. Still, it gave me the peace of mind I needed.

While I agree that she should be on some sort of permanent birth control, Plan B exists to prevent her from really having to "deal with it" (i.e., an unplanned pregnancy or abortion). Using it occasionaly when you have a slip up is really not a big deal...in many cases it is a lifesaver.

dalandrea · August 2011

Definitely hasn't changed at all. I had to take it in college once when a condom broke. While it isn't the best or most recommended form, I look at it as a form of birth control. It prevents ovulation/feritilization (pretty sure this is how it works anyways) so its really no different than the pill, just in a more concentrated form. I would have to get upset at anybody using birth control if I got upset about Plan B. But I do agree with all PP- the girl should have used a little more common sense and used protection in the first place. Can we say STD testing??

pinkflipflops44 · August 2011

Nope. I will always be pro-choice. I don't want anyone telling me what I can or cannot do to my body and will not do that to others. I'm glad there are options like Plan B every day.

baker916 · August 2011

Nope. Plan B is basically just a high dose of a BCP, so if you don't have problems with BCP, I don't see why you'd have a problem with Plan B. Plan B won't abort a pregnancy, just prevent it from occurring. So, if someone messed up and didn't use a condom, or their other birth control failed, so I no problem with using Plan B.

DChunt09 · August 2011

I know I am going to be the odd ball out here but I haven't and don't plan on using any type of birth control. I am not someone who supports these things myself but I also am in no position to judge someone who makes that choice for their lifestyle. This is just my belief.

Mjmksb04 · August 2011

No and I don't even see why TTC and Plan B are interrelated. Plan B prevents conception and is really no different than taking a BC pill (NOT that you should use Plan B as contraception).

BlueEyedDreamer · August 2011

Mjmksb04:
No and I don't even see why TTC and Plan B are interrelated. Plan B prevents conception and is really no different than taking a BC pill (NOT that you should use Plan B as contraception).

This is not entirely accurate. If ovulation hasn't occurred yet, Plan B can supress ovulation (which would be the same as BCP). But if ovulation has occurred (and possibly conception), then Plan B can prevent implantation of the fertilized egg (which is different than BCP).

I actually agree with DChunt here. Plan B or abortion is not something I could ever choose for myself. But I don't believe that I (or the federal government for that matter) should be interfering with others' decisions in this realm.

rellicdragon · August 2011

imimahoney:

To answer your question, no it has not. I took it in college when we had a condom fail and it was the 100% the right decision.

Just because I'm ready for a baby right now doesn't mean everyone else has to be ready.

Yes I could have said it better

PattersRN · August 2011

Nope, my feelings haven't changed. I took plan B once about 10 years ago and never regretted the decision. I wasn't ready for a child at the time (although the chances I would actually get pregnant were probably pretty slim) and I learned from my mistake....and never made that mistake again.

rsrs807 · August 2011

imimahoney:

Plan B on her first time, yikes.

To answer your question, no it has not. I took it in college when we had a condom fail and it was the 100% the right decision.

Just because I'm ready for a baby right now doesn't mean everyone else has to be ready.

And I should add, people make dumb mistakes all the time but hopefully she will learn from this mistake and not make it again.

The bolded times a million. I have never had to take Plan B but if I were in a situation like that I would. Just because I want a baby doesn't mean that everyone has to want one.

Lanibee · August 2011

imimahoney:

Plan B on her first time, yikes.

To answer your question, no it has not. I took it in college when we had a condom fail and it was the 100% the right decision.

Just because I'm ready for a baby right now doesn't mean everyone else has to be ready.

And I should add, people make dumb mistakes all the time but hopefully she will learn from this mistake and not make it again.

Nope my opinion is the same it's fine, and This

Mjmksb04 · August 2011

BlueEyedDreamer:

Mjmksb04:
No and I don't even see why TTC and Plan B are interrelated. Plan B prevents conception and is really no different than taking a BC pill (NOT that you should use Plan B as contraception).

This is not entirely accurate. If ovulation hasn't occurred yet, Plan B can supress ovulation (which would be the same as BCP). But if ovulation has occurred (and possibly conception), then Plan B can prevent implantation of the fertilized egg (which is different than BCP).

I actually agree with DChunt here. Plan B or abortion is not something I could ever choose for myself. But I don't believe that I (or the federal government for that matter) should be interfering with others' decisions in this realm.

Well, it depends on what your definition of conception is of course Wink

l_kolar2005 · August 2011

Plan B isn't the choice I would make, but that's just me. I did use birth control, but when I started having sex I knew getting pregnant was a risk, and just felt like if I was old enough to have sex I was old enough for the possible consequence. I did have friends that took it when condoms failed, but it just wasn't something I would have done. Not to mention Plan B wasn't discussed back then, so a lot of the facts were incorrect; people were saying it was the abortion pill and what not, but I now know all the facts and what the Plan B really is. But again, I just don't think it's something I would have done.

l_kolar2005 · August 2011

Mjmksb04:
BlueEyedDreamer:

Mjmksb04:
No and I don't even see why TTC and Plan B are interrelated. Plan B prevents conception and is really no different than taking a BC pill (NOT that you should use Plan B as contraception).

This is not entirely accurate. If ovulation hasn't occurred yet, Plan B can supress ovulation (which would be the same as BCP). But if ovulation has occurred (and possibly conception), then Plan B can prevent implantation of the fertilized egg (which is different than BCP).

I actually agree with DChunt here. Plan B or abortion is not something I could ever choose for myself. But I don't believe that I (or the federal government for that matter) should be interfering with others' decisions in this realm.

Well, it depends on what your definition of conception is of course

Yes

iris427 · August 2011

BlueEyedDreamer:
Mjmksb04:
No and I don't even see why TTC and Plan B are interrelated. Plan B prevents conception and is really no different than taking a BC pill (NOT that you should use Plan B as contraception).
This is not entirely accurate. If ovulation hasn't occurred yet, Plan B can supress ovulation (which would be the same as BCP). But if ovulation has occurred (and possibly conception), then Plan B can prevent implantation of the fertilized egg (which is different than BCP).
I actually agree with DChunt here. Plan B or abortion is not something I could ever choose for myself. But I don't believe that I (or the federal government for that matter) should be interfering with others' decisions in this realm.

There are BC methods that work this way too. Mirena and Paragard both interfere with implantation. BCP primarily are supposed to prevent ovulation, but also change the uterine lining to prevent implantation if ovulation does occur. Plan B is basically just a high dose of BCP.

BlueEyedDreamer · August 2011

l_kolar2005:
Mjmksb04:
BlueEyedDreamer:

Mjmksb04:
No and I don't even see why TTC and Plan B are interrelated. Plan B prevents conception and is really no different than taking a BC pill (NOT that you should use Plan B as contraception).
This is not entirely accurate. If ovulation hasn't occurred yet, Plan B can supress ovulation (which would be the same as BCP). But if ovulation has occurred (and possibly conception), then Plan B can prevent implantation of the fertilized egg (which is different than BCP).
I actually agree with DChunt here. Plan B or abortion is not something I could ever choose for myself. But I don't believe that I (or the federal government for that matter) should be interfering with others' decisions in this realm.

Well, it depends on what your definition of conception is of course

Actually, not really. Conception = fertilization = when egg meets sperm.

Now, whether you believe that the moment of conception is where a human life begins is another matter! A lot of people think that it's not a human life until implantation, or until viability, etc. I think that's probably more what you meant.

And to clarify, BCP can also prevent implantation, but it is much more common for Plan B to do so than for BCP to do so, since BCP is usually successful in preventing ovulation. Plan B is like a really high dose of BCP, and since it's often taken after O has happened, it prevents implantation more frequently than BCP would.

LovestruckAJ · August 2011

baker916:
Nope. Plan B is basically just a high dose of a BCP, so if you don't have problems with BCP, I don't see why you'd have a problem with Plan B. Plan B won't abort a pregnancy, just prevent it from occurring. So, if someone messed up and didn't use a condom, or their other birth control failed, so I no problem with using Plan B.

All of this.

AbsoluteLM · August 2011

I've actually wrestled with this question quite a bit. After having DS, I really have had a change of heart and feel against Plan B and abortion. Babies are such miracles--and after having my own, I can't feel OK about anything that would stop the creation of a little one like him. While Plan B is not abortion, it does prevent the implantation of a fertilized egg--and it is my personal feeling that a fertilized egg is a life.

That said, these are my opinions and I do wrestle with the issues of mistakes and rapes and cases where a mother's life is in danger. This topic is a big one, though, and I think it is worthy of lengthy discussion and reflection...

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