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XP - Baby shower for 16 year old daughter

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I'm wondering if its tacky or bad etiquette for me to throw a baby shower for my pregnant 16 year old daughter. I don't want people to think I'm asking them to "support" her baby, but the reality is she needs all the help she can get. And I want to celebrate a new life... I mean while it's not ideal at her age, babies are fun and exciting and I want to celebrate that the way any other mother would with a daughter having a baby. So, should I just hope someone else volunteers, or should I go ahead and plan one?

My mom is planning to have one with just her family, so my aunts and cousins mostly. But I have other family and friends that would not be included in that.

What are your thought on this?

Married: October 11, 2008
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Re: XP - Baby shower for 16 year old daughter

  • kris_kelseykris_kelsey member
    I would through her a shower if I were you.  It may not be the ideal situation, but there are plenty of other people who are older and not in ideal situations having showers.  It is about supporting the Mama and celebrating a new life.  You will want her to remember how you tried to support her and express joy, rather than not having one and she remembers feeling lesser-than.  Good Luck!
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  • MarettieMarettie member
    As long as the people being invited are mature enought to understand the situation. By this I mean, I would not be inviting her friends or any other younger guest as to not glamourize the situation.
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  • BeccaMarieBeccaMarie member
    imageMarettie:
    As long as the people being invited are mature enought to understand the situation. By this I mean, I would not be inviting her friends or any other younger guest as to not glamourize the situation.
    Seriously?!?!?!

    I think the mom-to-be should be able to celebrate with whomever she likes. If she wants her friends to be there, by all means, invite them! Any glamour will wear off after the baby comes - I promise.

    To answer your original question, if I were in your circle, I would be surprised if you *didnt* throw a shower for your DD. Unplanned babys get showers all the time. Every new life should be celebrated and every new mom supported.

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    imageBeccaMarie:
    imageMarettie:
    As long as the people being invited are mature enought to understand the situation. By this I mean, I would not be inviting her friends or any other younger guest as to not glamourize the situation.
    Seriously?!?!?!

     

    I think the mom-to-be should be able to celebrate with whomever she likes. If she wants her friends to be there, by all means, invite them! Any glamour will wear off after the baby comes - I promise.

     

    To answer your original question, if I were in your circle, I would be surprised if you *didnt* throw a shower for your DD. Unplanned babys get showers all the time. Every new life should be celebrated and every new mom supported.

     

    Sorry for typos, on my bb

    I agree. 

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  • MarettieMarettie member
    imageBeccaMarie:
    imageMarettie:
    As long as the people being invited are mature enought to understand the situation. By this I mean, I would not be inviting her friends or any other younger guest as to not glamourize the situation.
    Seriously?!?!?!

    I think the mom-to-be should be able to celebrate with whomever she likes. If she wants her friends to be there, by all means, invite them! Any glamour will wear off after the baby comes - I promise.

    To answer your original question, if I were in your circle, I would be surprised if you *didnt* throw a shower for your DD. Unplanned babys get showers all the time. Every new life should be celebrated and every new mom supported.

    Sorry for typos, on my bb

    Just my opinion, but I would not be the one throwing it. If her girlfriends wanted to throw her one I think that's fine, but I give a major side eye to any parent that throws her 16 year old a baby shower for her and her girlfriends.

    I agree that every mother should be supported and every baby celebrated, but I think that certain things glamourize teen pregnancy and I don't support that. The fact is, is being a teen mom is A LOT of work and it isn't all puppies and rainbows, and unfortunately that is what her friends would probably see.

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