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January 2011 Moms
Labor and delivery
Did anyone else have a bad delivery?
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Re: Labor and delivery
omg that is so my L&D story too! I wanted a natural birth so badly. I stayed home til contractions were 2 minutes or less for an hour. Got to the hospital and was only 3cm but fully effaced. I couldn't hold out after that. It "only" took another 6 hours to get to 10cm. But had a perfect epidural, still able to move, pushed twice and Simon exploded outta there. My OB spent 45 minutes repairing the 3rd degree tear. On one hand I feel guilty, but on the other I am SO SO GLAD I didn't feel that tear or the stitches.
Do you feel comfortable sharing how your delivery went? I understand if not, but we're here to support you.
My son's was a very straight foward 8 hour induction start to finish.
DD's induction was a little different. I had problems with my epidural not working on my left side so they bolused me and it worked too much. I was gasping for breath, having trouble breathing, and she started having heart decels. They turned my epi off, put an internal monitor on her and labor pretty much stopped. I was at a 5 and my nurse put a towel roll under my tail bone to "bring her back down into position". 5 minutes later I told her I felt movement down there, she checked me and hit the code button. I totally freaked. My nurse said you are having this baby right now! The doctor barely had time to get in there to deliver her, she was blue but cried and pinked right up with a little oxygen. It was just a roller coaster of emotional craziness. I think I'm going to try really hard next time to go without the epi it seems to cause problems for us everytime.
mine was horrible. I was at the hospital 4 times that day and told them I knew my water was going to break. they finally sent me home the last time at 11:30. I woke up at 12:21 to go to the bathroom and my water exploded. we then drove to the hospital and they gave me a shot to help ease my back pain. I had all back labor. when i woke up early that morning I got an epidural. They hit a nerve and it sent pain the whole way down my left leg and I screamed. he pulled it out and they got it in right. They then put a catheter in me. When I woke back up at 9:00 I could feel everything. I called the nurse and she came in and I told her something was wrong. She told me that everything was fine it was just "pressure" I told her that if she didnt take the catheter out I was going to rip it out. When she went to pull the catheter out she went "oh" your ready to push. NO SH*T. lol. So they told me if I felt the need to push to go ahead and start. When I went for my first push my husbands face went pure white. Immediately I knew something was wrong. He told me not to panic but I was bleeding bad. I figured it was the normal delivery bleeding and he was just being a wuss. He was right. She got stuck with her left arm over head and the umblical cord wrapped around her arm and neck. her heart rate dropped to 0 and they had to immediately suction her out. they pulled so hard I ripped from inside my uterus to the outside of my vagina. They laid her on my chest and tried to stitch me. They then wheeled me out for emergency surgery and i didnt get the moment i wanted with my daughter. Going out the hallway I remember seeing my mom's face and and signing blood transfusion paperwork. I passed out after that. 2 hours later I wake up and find out that I had over 100 stitches inside and almost died from blood loss.
sorry that was so long. havent really talked about it with anyone other than my husband. Makes me want to cry.
my gyno said they would let me choose on vaginal or c-section since i had a 4th degree tear. if i go natural i will not get an epidural next time.
OMG! I'm glad that you and LO are ok now. My delivery was pretty simple. Went in for my 38 week check up and my blood pressure was up and i had edema. My bp has been 90/50 my entire pregnancy was now 150/100. It got up to around 160/101 during my labor. anyways, they started on pitocin and broke my water the next morning. I went 7 hours from begining to finish. I was on antibiotic drip and a drip for the high bp which made me feel like crap. I somehow managed to go without an epi. DD's arm got stuck on the way out and I tore a little because of it. I honestly didnt feel the tear but the stitches hurt like crazy when he put them.
OMG I can't even imagine! I am sooo sorry that happened to you and your sweet little one.
thanks everyone! her collarbone is fully healed. my tear is fully healed although i get constant uti's now. Im just glad she's here and healthy to an extent. im sure it will all work itself out in the long run.
Wow, some of these stories sound so painful!
I had a nasty pregnancy, preterm labor, bedrest, she came early, etcc. I was dialated to a 4 the week before I had her at home. I was only in labor maybe a half hour, and home the next day. That was the easy part!
Mine was difficult, but in a totally different way. I felt 'wrong' and then started having spotting at like 11, we went into L&D at midnight. We spent like a half an hour filling out paperwork because the stuff I had sent in hadn't been filed yet, since I was 36 weeks. In that time I went from feeling wrong to feeling contractions to feeling contractions 3 mins apart. I was like 2 cm dilated, my kid's heart rate wasn't stressing at all, and the nurses kept asking me if I wanted an epidural. No, you idiots! I thought. It'll stall my labor! I'm only 2cm! I'm going natural anyway! lollll.
The dr on-call (I was risked out of using the midwives in my practice as soon as I walked through the door) broke my water in order to insert the internal monitor to make sure my kid really wasn't stressing properly, and the meconium was so thick my H thought I sh*t myself. They ordered a biometric ultrasound and the tech was like... this isn't good, you need to call the dr. The nurse asked, 'what's the number? 5?' 'lower.' '3?' lower.' '2?' '...get the dr.' Instant chaos.
So, I still had no anesthesia so I was wheeled into the OR still contracting and a male nurse was all, 'oh honey it'll be alright, stop breathing so fast' thinking I was having a panic attack, when I was trying to breathe through a contraction, the jerk. At that point, they also made me give verbal consent ('verbal consent! VERBAL CONSENT!') to a c-section because again with the wonky paperwork. And then I got put under. She was born at 4 am.
Even though her first apgar was a 2, and the dr later told me my baby had 'literally minutes', it ended up being a blessing in disguise. If she'd been able to breathe, she would've sucked down all that meconium and likely been septic, which would've meant weeks if not a month in the NICU. She spent 3 days and got discharged. And even in the NICU, and ever since, things have been easy for us. Except for the whole 'this sh*t all happened on Christmas Eve so your impatient ass just screwed yourself for presents FOREVER' thing. Honestly, the fact that she's OK and here and all that totally outweighs any qualms or annoyance I might've had with her method of arrival.
Holy Crap, I had no idea that was how yours went. Thank God your LO is ok. That sounds so scary. My original due date was 1-28, bed rest at 28 weeks. On Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New years Eve, and New years Day, I talked to my vag and said "Don't you dare!!!" lol, she came on the 4th of Jan, still pretty close to the holidays...but she was happy and healthy so like you, that whole logic didnt matter anymore ;-)
This is exactly what I did! I was due 1-11-11 and thought I'd be late...I have a NYE B-day and HATE it, so I wanted to get her as far from the holidays as possible...but 1-4-11 was as long as she could wait I guess!
I had an "easy" labor and no tearing, and it was still absolutely the most painful thing in my life (tried an epidural, only worked on one side, had to start pushing before they could try to fix anything). I wanted to kill the *** male OB telling me how "EASY" it was while I was pushing - just because it could be worse, does not mean delivery is ever EASY!
The more I hear about other birth stories, the less likely I get to ever do this again...
I'm so sorry for those that had such scary and bad deliveries! I'm glad everyone is doing ok now.
Mine wasn't really bad, I was just a little disappointed because I'd planned to have her at a birth center, but she was 4 weeks early. She just needed to wait 5 more days and we could have been at the birth center! But it turned out ok. The hospital was amazing about still letting my midwives pretty much be in charge, so I still got to do it completely natural. Only had a small tear that healed nicely. My whole labor was 6 hours total, from when my water broke to when she popped out. She had a little trouble breathing at first, but only had to be in NICU for 5 hours under observation.
My goodness - some of these stories have me in tears.
I had a scheduled c-section because LO was transverse. I asked my dr. to do a version to flip him and she didn't want to - told me that those usually end up in trouble for the baby. People on TB were like "get a second opinion, you should get one, etc. etc." But I trusted my dr. implicitly and I'm glad I did. When they opened me up the anesthesiologist told my H "Look, Look, take a picture!" My OB was like "No, don't look, don't look". Turns out JT had the cord wrapped 3 times around his neck. Thank God we stuck with the scheduled C.
My dr. gave me the option of VBAC for next time around but I'm not a fan of the unknown. As much as recovery from the C svcked, I would rather know what I'm getting into.
Ugh, nikki and broccolitree, I want to give you hugs. What a scary experience =(
Like others, mine was not "bad" just not what I wanted. We planned a natural, Bradley birth at a birth center, but he was breech so I had a c/section. I want to VBAC next time, definitely.
Honestly, it was far more surreal and anticlimactic than scary. They wheeled me in and let me like, awkwardly pet her in the NICU while I was still groggy, then took me to my room, where I ate canned pears and watched Christmas Story. And then I made my H go back to our house because the bag he brought had nothing in it. And also, our Christmas presents. And when he came back it was snowing (we live in Georgia). I mean, if Dali was there winging cats around it would seem more normal. lol.
Thanks for the well-wishes, though!
Wow - I also just want to give hugs to you ladies! Nikki -thanks for sharing your story. I hope you're finding it helpful to talk about it.
Mine was also somewhere in the middle. I was having contractions that were 5 minutes apart for TWO WEEKS and lost my MP, but still wasn't doing any real dilating or effacing. I had 2 false alarm trips to the hospital (1 in a snowstorm) and 2 or 3 ultrasounds to make sure everything was ok. The Monday after my due date, my OB finally told me that she thought I should be induced that week and I was so upset because I planned to go natural and chose a holistic OB because of that.
On Tuesday, I spent the day following all the old wives tales that induce labor and finally my contractions STOPPED. I got into bed and DH and I decided I'd be induced the next day and I told him I felt like such a failure...and then I felt a pop and my water broke. I was GBS+ so I took a shower and we were off to the hospital and got there at 12:30am.
I had somewhat painful contractions with intense back pain all night but didn't bother DH because I thought he should get some rest (I'm a moron) but in the morning I still hadn't progressed and the contractions were easing up and stopping. I was on pitocin with no epidural for about 12 hours and STILL hadn't dilated. My dr wasn't around much because she kept getting called for emergency c-sections. After 20 hours of labor and an antibiotic drip I was delirious and exhausted. The OB convinced me to get an epidural (and convinced DH who was a harder sell at that point because I had made him promise not to let me get one). An hour later I was fully dilated, pushed for 45 minutes and out she came, even though I tore a lot.
BUT, the epidural gave us both fevers so she was in the NICU for 3 days and I wasn't allowed near her for almost 24 hours. I hate letting her cry in her room alone now, it still hurts that she was all alone for that first night.
In the end, I feel like no matter how your labor is, it's really pretty traumatizing. And I also feel like you don't really get to process all that because so many people have gone through it that we feel like it's not a big deal.