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PT question
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Sorry...I know there was just this whole slew of potty training posts not long ago. I feel like I'm coming in just after the PT rush. But if you're not just totally sick of talking about toddler pee, I could use some advice 
Things are going OK so far, with several pees in the potty, one poop on and around (but not in) the potty, and relatively minimal accidents. We're about even right now with number of "in the potty's" vs. "on the floor's".
Only thing is she still hasn't told me even once that she needs to go and initiated the deal on her own. I've been trying not to force the potty on her, but when I know she needs to go (like either she's grabbing herself, or she's just downed a full sippy & I know it's coming) I say something like "hey, let's go sit on the potty for a second and then we'll go outside" (or whatever). And I strip her, she goes to the potty on her own & sits and pees right away. (Or sometimes she screams "Noooo!" and I say "OK, but remember to let me know when you do need to go"...and within 2 minutes she's wet herself.) If I wait for her to tell me, she pees her pants no matter how many times I remind her to keep clean & dry & to tell me when she needs to go. And she really doesn't seem to mind the wet pants or the clean-up. She never tells me she did it - I've just seen it after the fact when she continues playing all wet.
Should I stop sending her to the potty when I know she has to go? Do I just keep waiting for her to tell me & eventually she will?? Will she really?
DH wants to start giving her timeouts for accidents but I've wanted to keep things positive.
FYI- I've tried quizzing her saying "Remember, when you feel like you need to pee or poop, say 'I need to potty, Mommy!'.....What are you going to say when you feel like you need to pee or poop?" and she'll grin and grab herself and say, "I say UH-OH!" She's totally screwing with me. Or I'll say "Remember, we peepee in the potty....Where are you going to peepee next time?" And she'll say, "On the floor!" or "In my boot!" and giggle. This kid....
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Re: PT question
I would keep in mind the 3-day method doesn't work for everyone (like us!), so don't feel bad if you have to adjust for your family. Even though we started potty training in late May/early June, J has just recently started telling me he needed to go potty and still not all the time. It also never bothered him to wet his pants. He's gotten really good at holding it now, but hates to have to stop playing to go. When we were first starting (but past the accidents all the time phase), I would set the timer for him to try b/c he just never told me (still doesn't always).
We never did timeouts for accidents, but w/in the last few weeks when he would refuse to go to the potty (b/c he didn't want to stop playing) & I knew he really needed to go (holding himself, etc) I gave him two options: potty or time-out. Of course he chooses potty and then we're good to go again. After a few offerings of those options, he started going to the potty again w/o much refusal. Also, sometimes if he doesn't want to stop, I make a game of it like "I'll race you to the potty!" b/c he's extremely competitive and will always take on that race.
Side note about #2...J is 99.5% trained for #1 (even naps & most nights), but REFUSES to go #2 on the potty. It has been a complete nightmare for us, but I've just tried to be patient on that end. J will tell me all day long "I need to go poo on the potty" but never does. He's actually started trying lately but only gets a tiny bit to come out and then poops in his pants at another time. So frustrating! But I'm sure it will come someday...
Good luck!!
It took till about day 3 before Natalie started telling me she had to go. Even now that she's been trained for over a year, I still sometimes have to make her go in and go when I know she needs to because she'd rather just hold it. It sounds like she's making progress. I'd keep it up for a few more days to see if she starts getting the hang of it. She'll eventually tell you.
I would not do timeouts for having accidents. I wouldn't want to make the experience negative by punishing her when she's just trying to figure out what to do. I'd probably feel differently if LO was potty trained but peeing in his/her pants out of spite but at this stage she's just still learning.
Good luck!
Thanks for the advice! Yeah, I'm not doing the time outs. Just sticking with it and hoping she gets it down soon! The one thing that is starting to work is telling her how when she uses the potty like a big girl it makes Mommy "SO HAPPY!" So far this phrase has worked better than anything else...I just hope I'm not setting her up for some sort of approval complex
Took her back to daycare today, and luckily her provider is on board. She has to wear cloth trainers & waterproof covers, but hopefully she'll keep it up at school and we'll keep the progress going. Since she will actually go to the potty (#1 anyway) pretty easily when prompted, I'm in a "no turning back" mindset now. I just think 3 days was wishful thinking.