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How do these Moms do it!?
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Maybe I am lazy or unorganized or need too much sleep, but how do so many moms I read about on blogs have the time and energy to accomplish even half of what they do? Do all moms wake up and serve their entire family handcrafted waffles in the shape of dinosaurs, rearrange all the furniture in the living room to accommodate the new table that they transformed from thrift shop junk to something shabby and chic in one afternoon, and help their children learn the alphabet on hand-drawn and laminated flash cards, in addition to regular cleaning and cooking and actually spending quality time with their children, and all this before noon?
Please tell me there are moms here that don't always make their beds and eat take-out more often than not. Half the time, I am lucky to shower and put on makeup a few times a week. Help me feel normal!!!
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Re: How do these Moms do it!?
I've learned that blogs/fb posts/etc. are always the "ideal" world for moms-- meaning we post about the things we get to maybe 1x/week and when you post 2 months worth of fun-mommmy activities all rolled into 1 it makes you look like a super mom daily.
FWIW, Nicholas eats frozen pancakes or waffles for breakfast almost everyday (and no, they arent previously homemade frozen waffles--they are kroger brand. gasp!). We do try and plan a fun outing daily but thats more for my sanity and usually only takes up 2 hours max (zoo, park, library, etc.) He's too young for arts & crafts, my bed is NEVER made unless you count rearranging the blankets before getting into it every night and while I am decent on meal planning/cooking I've found that I will go 1 month and do great! But then have 2 weeks in a row of nothing but crap for dinner--pregnancy has made this even worse!
You are not the only mom who is trying to keep it all together--we all are! I've learned to greatly lower the expecatations I set for myself and to realize that I AM getting to the important stuff (reading books to my son, snuggling with him, enjoying sleeping in when possible even if it means I am unproductive that morning, spending time with DH instead of cleaning in the evenings, etc.) I don't think I will look back with regret about not having a clean house and homemade food and crafts but I WOULD look back with regret about missing the important everyday moments with my family.
Um - I should have just quoted polarberry and I don't even have twins....
My shameful confession for the day. My mother cleans my house.
I do pay her and in my defense it was her idea. I made an off handed sarcastic comment about hoping cps doesn't see the state of my home and she said she wanted to help. She also wanted some spending money she doesn't have to explain to my dad. I don't give her much and she insists on coming over 2-3 times a week. IT IS THE MOST WONDERFUL THING EVER!!!!!!!
By the time I get home from work and we get the kids fed and bathed it is time for the bedtime routine - which STILL takes close to an hour because I have children that are anti sleep. If we manage to not fall asleep with them, we may watch some tv, perhaps have some dinner ourselves and then pour ourselves into bed. On the weekend we usually out of the house doing things.
Now...if I could just get someone to do the laundry and grocery shopping I would be SET!
I love this idea. I would love for my MIL or my Mom to clean my house for some extra cash. Too bad MIL is on the other side of town and my Mom is in Boston, grrr. They are both neat freaks :0)
a-to-the-men!
I remember she said something like: what you don't know is that before snapping that great pick of my daughter and our latest craft, I did a quick sweep of the floor with my arm, or leg, or nearest appendage to get all the crap out of the way so it doesn't show up in the shot because the room was in desparate need of cleaning.
She said a lot more, but that tidbit stuck out to me. She made a point of saying that she likes to share everything she does do, but there's plenty that doesn't get done. She just doesn't mention it.
Thank you all for sharing how un-supermom you are. It makes me feel much better. Question though - for the women that DO do all the stuff we read about, how do they achieve it? And for those of you that are pretty good at getting a lot done, what's the secret? Do you only need 2 hours of sleep at night? Do you have 4 arms? Please help me increase my productivity even just a teensy bit!
Your DS is still pretty young. Even children with demanding personalities can eventually entertain themselves for a little while. Just recently DD and DS have gotten to the point where they can kind of play with each other (and without me) for a little while at a time. My house is nowhere near perfect, but it's better than it was a few months ago.
I also agree with superchicy that you pick your battles. I try to keep the main living areas presentable, keep my family and myself presentable, and keep my kids in a routine. Working out, making fancy meals, and keeping the bedrooms spotless are not top priorities for me and it shows.
I read a blog that addresses the issue of "perfect blogs" in the FAQs. Here's her response: "Never compare the inside of your family to the outside of another." I thought that was such an amazing way to put it.
I could've have written this same exact post!