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So tired!
I don't know what is up, but LO's sleep has just deteriorated this week. He has had two horrible nights in a row, which means that I am exhausted.
I'm still not really ready to sleep train him, but I'm starting to think that he really needs it.
Also, at what point do they figure out that if they scream, mom or dad will come running? Last night, LO let out a blood-curdling scream and we came running, and when we came into the room he started smiling and cooing.
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Re: So tired!
I'm pretty sure M figured that out by 7 months.
I empathize about the sleep issues. Our sleep has gone to crap recently, too.
Just do it. Seriously, stop posting about it and just do it! I'm saying this in all sincerity with out the least bit of snark.
Do you have the Ferber book? We did it, by the book, took maybe two days and changed our lives. I even kept one middle of the night feeding and felt like a different person. JUST DO IT!
MPD, I know, I know. I just have to do it.
But every time I get myself psyched up, I read some kind of attachment parenting article and it makes me lose my resolve because mah behbeh - he NEEDZ me.
I need to be strong, and be sure not to read anything but Ferber until it's done. The book is on my bedside table, by the way. I was reading it when he let out the bloodcurdling scream last night.
It's probably better to sleep train than to dose the kid up with tylenol, right?
I did both with DD, the Tylenol of course only when she was actively teething. Feel free to judge.
If it makes you feel better, I haven't bit the sleep training bullet with DS yet either. I know it is late, I ferberized DD at exactly 6 months and after a sad night or two, it was a miracle until moving disrupted it.
b/w 6-8mo babies learn they can manipulate you. When he screams, wait a minute before going in. do you have a video monitor? you can look to make sure he's OK.
as I mentioned before, Ferberizing DD took a week, DS was a nightmare. After Ferber and then straight CIO, I gave up after 7 weeks and we went back to co-sleeping, we re-Ferbered at 13mo and it worked a little better. But there are still difficult nights. If it's not one child, it's the other and if by some miracle, it's neither of them, it is ALWAYS always always, without a fail, one of the dogs!!
To answer your question, around 8 months, they started doing the crying but smiling when we walk in thing, and that's when we stopped going on. Now, we don't go in unless they are really losing their mind/dropped their paci on the floor.
I second the PP who said just to do it. It will change your life. I swear my babies are WAY WAY WAY happier since they started STTN (and since they started crawling). And, I'm way happier and a better mother. On top of that, I was getting so sleep deprived that I was nearly falling asleep at the wheel while driving. That's what really put me over the edge toward sleep training. It's made a huge difference for our family.
He needs you to not be a walking zombie and get a good night's sleep. He does not need you to come running at every little squeal.
I agree with MPD, just do it. You will seriously both sleep so much better and wonder why you waited so long! I promise, you will know the squeals/screams that mean something is wrong without going in his room each time. H is a pretty good sleeper and lately she has been waking 1-2 times and night and whining, but she always puts herself back to sleep without us going in. When the bloodcurdling scream is followed by a few more, and it dissolves into crying, then I know it's time to go in.
Exactly! STTN is not just good for Mommy and Daddy, but also DS.